In a normal family, there is a relatively clear "gender division of labor": the father is the role model for the boy, the pillar of the family, with the characteristics of masculinity, bravery and strength.
The mother, on the other hand, is the role model for the girl and the logistics minister of the family, with a gentle, inclusive and considerate side.
But in some families, the situation is reversed, the mother has a strong personality, says one thing and does not say two things, and is in charge of the family's major affairs; the father is very cowardly, often accused and criticized by his wife, and cannot see the confidence and responsibility that a man should have.
As a result, boys who grow up in such families are more likely to become as cowardly and inferior as their fathers; while daughters are likely to inherit their mother's bitterness and continue to influence the next generation.
So you see, a parent with a bad personality will not only make his marriage extremely bad, but also seriously affect the future life of his children, and even pass on the bad influence to his grandchildren.
Children are difficult to discipline, often because we are not good enough on our own.
A few days ago, a mother angrily complained to me: "My son is in the fifth grade, and he has recently become obsessed with playing mobile games, and last weekend he played for 12 hours in a row, causing headaches and vomiting!" This kind of bear stuff that doesn't come out, in addition to a beating, how can it be taught? ”
In fact, most mothers in life feel the same way on this issue. But have you ever thought about:
Did you let your child play for 12 hours?
During the 12 hours your child played the game, did you not notice or intervene at all?
If you usually spend more time with your children and cultivate more health hobbies, will this still happen?
You see, whether it's a child playing games, watching TV, or skipping school, the vast majority of parents blame the reason on "the child is not out of the house", "disobedience", "the game company is too hateful".
But no parent has ever really thought about the reasons for themselves, so the problem has never really been solved.
In the process of growing up, the most important ability of children is imitation.
Because children spend the longest time with their parents and have the closest relationship, their every move, every word and deed of their parents will be seen in their eyes, remembered in their hearts, and imitated consciously or unconsciously.
If your child is angry with you because of the following questions, please don't get angry with your child first, because this is probably a reflection of the parents' own problems:
Parents are originals and children are photocopies.
If something goes wrong with the photocopy, where do you say the root cause is?
Source: The picture and text come from the network, invaded and deleted.
EDIT: Xiao Huang