Big S once said such a sentence in the program:
"As long as I live one day, it will be beautiful."
There is no doubt that this is a woman's life declaration: the road ahead is long, and I am as beautiful as ever.
She also runs her marriage and life according to this life motto.
Exquisite, girly, dare to love and dare to hate.
4 months, 20 years, remarriage, 3.8 Women's Day.
These numbers constitute a "women's carnival" on the Internet.
On 3.8 Women's Day, 4 months after the divorce, the big s announced that he was married to his first love boyfriend 20 years ago.
Life is impermanent, only love is eternal.
Zweig said: Love is forbearance.
For Zhao Min in "The Book of the Dragon Slayer in the Heavens", love is bravery.
In the relationship between Big S and her new husband, Gu Junye, we can see these two qualities at the same time.
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The contradictory side of love: half forbearance, half bravery
20 years ago, in 2000, Das and Gu Junye established a romantic relationship.
At that time, Gu Junye was a superstar who swept the Asian music scene, and the big s also emerged in the entertainment industry.
In the eyes of the young big S, she was attracted by The Talent and Humor Sun of Gu Junye.
When I was young, love was always like this, desperate, and always wanted to prove something to the world.
Big S also tattooed Gu Junye's name on his ankle.
After 20 years, two people announced their marriage on the Internet at the same time.
Gu Junye said:
"Hearing the news of her divorce, I found that number from more than 20 years ago and contacted her. We don't want to waste any more time that has been missed, and we want to continue this precious love. ”
Patience, restraint.
Forbearance is the silence of love that has not been forgotten for 20 years.
Restraint, always suppress the feelings of these 20 years.
And the big s contrast also shows her bravery and determination as always.
There is no doubt that the big s view of feelings is brave, firm, and not afraid of the outside world.
If I use a word to describe the big s concept of marriage and love, I think I will use: dare to love and dare to hate.
Just like Zhao Min in "Yitian Slaughtering Dragon", Zhao Min was jealous of Zhang Wujie.
Changing into an ordinary girl, she saw the boy she was thinking of and liked, and suddenly married another girl.
What decision will she make?
Most people's choices, I'm afraid, will be: silence, accept all that happened to the other person, and then grieve alone, and digest the feelings that have not yet begun to end.
But Zhao Min did the opposite.
Zhao Min said the most wonderful sentence in the whole book: "I want to be reluctant? ”
Why reluctantly?
Zhao Min's reluctance, on the one hand, is his confidence in himself, on the other hand, the firmness of his concept of love.
In fact, in Zhao Min's heart, she knew that Zhang Wuji also had love for herself.
Taking a step back, the role of Zhao Min is more like a woman in Gu Long's pen.
"Dare to love and dare to hate, brave and firm", met the person he liked, and used the big bone to knock him unconscious, but also to carry it home.
Drink wine and eat meat, ride horses outside, life is fast.
And the sudden decision of the big s is also the most direct expression of her emotional view.
If it doesn't sound, it's already a hit.
You know, it has only been 4 months since she divorced Wang Xiaofei.
When people's attention has not yet shifted from the divorce of two people, the big s has already made it clear to the world: "I, a middle-aged girl, have chosen marriage again." ”
Yes, the big s is a "middle-aged girl".
Always maintain a strong curiosity about love, concentration, and fearlessness on the road of feelings.
As her motto goes: Cherish the moment.
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Is first love the "White Moonlight"?
In fact, what surprised me even more was not that Big S got married, but that she married her first love 20 years ago.
Such a result is more "magical" than in idol dramas.
If someone asks you at this moment:
Let you meet again with the first love you fell in love with many years ago, you and the other party are single; now let you decide, whether you are willing to marry the first love?
At this time, what choice will you make?
I think most people's choice is "no, I don't want to".
Through the marriage of Das and Gu Junye, I saw two things.
First: First love is the "white moonlight" that everyone can't get around
Zhang Ailing said:
Every man has two women in his heart, but over time, the white one will become a sticky rice, and the red one will turn into a touch of mosquito blood.
In fact, why not for girls?
In the life of girls, they also have two men who cannot be forgotten.
One is "first love", there are regrets, there is beauty, there is a shadow of yourself who fought for love when you were young.
The other, the one who took her whole youth, gave her marriage and gave her pain.
There is a "Zeignick effect" in psychology.
Refers to:
People tend to remember unfinished things more deeply than those that have already been done.
In simple terms:
Although a person is immersed in the current feelings, he still can't forget an ex in his mind, and there will be a "place" for the ex in his heart.
I think that for big s, the same is true in her heart.
Divorcing Wang Xiaofei and the misfortune she encountered in her previous marriage made the "white moonlight" in her heart clearer.
The reconnection of the first love, after a long goodbye reunion with the first love, is like a spark, a strong wind blows, and love burns up instantly.
Second: A single person who is entitled to accept anyone's pursuits
The feelings of the big s and the first love are very emotional.
This reminds me of the relationship between Fermina and Alyssa in Love in The Time of Cholera, which lasted for more than half a century.
In the end, Fermina accepted Alyssa's confession, and the two old men who had entered the "age of rarity" continued on the giant ship.
Just like their love, at the age of dusk, the sun rises again.
They have traveled through the years, twisting each other in the journey of life;
Missed again and again, and finally reunited.
But in the end, they really understand the meaning of love.
The same is true of the marriage of the eldest and the first love.
Two truly mature people come together again, and they will cherish this "hard-won" feeling even more.
What's more, isn't a single person entitled to accept pursuits from anyone?
Contemporary women are in the midst of such confusion and struggle:
Full of boredom and dissatisfaction with the feelings of the moment, but without the courage to flee;
On the one hand is the ideal, on the other side is the reality, and finally trapped in weakness and compromise.
The dare to love and dare to hate the big s is to teach these struggling girls a lesson.
Today's Topic:
What do you think about the fact that big s is married to his first love?
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