When it comes to "cheeky", everyone thinks it is a derogatory term, but in the "Round Table Pie" program, Teacher Ma Weidu said: "Let children develop a habit from an early age, simply put, it is cheeky, say two sentences and say two sentences, what are you afraid of." ”
What he calls cheekiness is to cultivate children's contrarian quotient and educate children about setbacks.
Cheeky children have high anti-quotient, strong ability to resist pressure and setbacks, and live not hard
Cheeky children have high anti-quotient, strong ability to resist pressure and setbacks, and fail to fail, and it is a big deal to start all over again.
They are not in the eyes of others, dare to think and dare to do, strong execution, when other children are still hesitating, he has already taken action.
Whether it is good times or bad times, cheeky children have a strong heart, face it positively, and live not hard, so that children will be more likely to succeed in doing things in the future.
In real life, many children have weak resistance to setbacks
In real life, there are too many "thin-skinned" children, and they can't withstand difficulties and setbacks. When encountering unpleasant things, making emotions and crying; hearing unpleasant words, feeling that self-esteem is hurt, negative emotions will erupt in an extreme way, such children have low business and cannot deal with their emotions in an unfavorable environment.
For example, parents say a few words and run away from home, there are conflicts between classmates, and regretful things are done; homework is not written, the teacher criticizes a few words, the child can't stand it, and does improper behavior; the exam is not good, the campaign class cadres fail, as if they have been hit by the sky and are devastated.
There are also many children with excellent grades, who encounter setbacks, can't think straight, do stupid things, etc., such children are lack of anti-quotient training.
If the parents' method of educating their children is improper, then the children are prone to difficulties and setbacks, shrink back when they encounter difficulties, do not know how to solve them, and even some children cannot let go of things, depression, etc. In fact, such children lack anti-business education.
How to cultivate a child's reverse quotient?
First, when encountering things in life, communicate with children more, ask more questions, and encourage children to express
Parents should communicate more with their children, rather than preaching. If parents always treat their children in a preachy way, the child will not have self-confidence.
Children are not confident, and when they encounter a little setback, they will shrink back and say " I can't do it" To escape difficulties, you can't face what happens with a positive and optimistic attitude.
Asking more questions, encouraging the child to express, can guide the child to think, and then trigger his ability to solve problems.
For example, if you encounter difficulties, you can ask your child, "What are you going to do about this?" What are your thoughts? Let's find a way to solve it together? Then, whether the solution is good or bad, we must affirm and encourage the child, so that the child has the confidence and sense of achievement to solve the problem.
Second, parents should not have any difficulties to block for their children, let the children experience a little failure appropriately, let the children know that failure is not terrible, not shameful
As soon as the child encounters difficulties, the parents will solve it for the child, cut through the thorns for the child, such a child will lose his temper and cry when he is not satisfied, give up when he encounters difficulties, do not know how to face it, do the wrong thing and feel ashamed, can't think open, and have a weak ability to bear.
Parents' feelings of loving their children can be understood, but we cannot follow our children for a lifetime, teach children not to be afraid of difficulties, and it is more important to have a way to solve things.
It is not shameful to let children understand that they will make mistakes and will fail.
For example, it doesn't matter if the exam is broken, it is good to work hard, and you will definitely be able to progress if you continue to work hard. The process is more important than the result, look at the process, it is not easy to be beaten down by the results of failure, but can calmly face, continue to work hard, never discouraged.
Third, with the help of picture book stories, children can predict the setbacks they may encounter in advance, and subtly learn the ability to face difficulties and solve problems from the stories.
Hu Yuanyuan, a senior early childhood education expert, compiled the "Children's Reverse Business Cultivation Picture Book", which tells children with a positive and encouraging attitude, "It's okay! "It is a reverse business education picture book that shapes a strong heart of children and allows children to face setbacks and pressures."
A full set of 10 volumes, 10 theme stories, including "it doesn't matter if you are criticized", "it's not okay if you are not the first", "it doesn't matter if you fail", "it doesn't matter if you say it out loud", "it doesn't matter if you are angry", "it doesn't matter if you are afraid", "It doesn't matter if you make a mistake", "It's okay to cry out" and other setbacks and difficult scenes that 10 children will encounter in their lives, with childlike language, colorful pictures, immersive stories to show.
For example, "It's Okay Not Being The First" encourages children who fail to become the first, give them more courage and confidence, and the determination to work hard, and one day you may also become the first.
"It doesn't matter if you fail" There are always failures in life, summing up experience, thinking seriously, as long as there is a heart, failure can help us become a better version of ourselves.
"It's Okay to Be Criticized" People always make mistakes, accept criticism with an open mind, bravely face their mistakes, seriously correct their mistakes, and become a better version of themselves.
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This set of "Children's Reverse Quotient Cultivation Picture Books" involves learning attitudes, setback education, emotional management, etc., so that children can recognize setback scenes, learn to be brave, confident, and able to face difficulties, learn to regulate negative emotions, and cope with adversity.
Picture books have a strong sense of substitution, which is far more effective than parents' reasoning. Young children read parent-child reading, and older children can look at pictures and speak, exercising children's observation, memory and language expression skills.
Accompanied by audio reading and can also be listened to before bedtime.
The link to this set of books is below, parents of children with 2-6 years old, want to let their children have the ability to resist setbacks from an early age, have "immunity" to difficulties and setbacks, no longer be timid and inferior in later life, study, and work, and can face setbacks calmly, be more confident and brave, and recommend using this set of books.
Write at the end
Liu Yuanyuan of Peking University said: In fact, I am not a smart person, but how can I do something, how can I counterattack under an unfavorable starting point, the most important thing is to reverse the quotient.
If IQ can determine how far a child goes, then inverse quotient determines how long a child can go.
"Life is not satisfactory nine times out of ten", children in the face of difficulties, pressure, challenges, have a brave heart to face, will actively find ways, such children have strong ability to resist setbacks, that is, high contrarian quotient, it is easier to succeed in the future.