Every school season, most parents will sigh that these little god beasts have finally returned.
As soon as the children in the family go to school, the pressure of our parents is somewhat less, after all, the children do not take the winter vacation to beat workers.
The problem that many dual-career families have to face after having children is: Who will bring the children?
Give it to your grandparents? Different parenting concepts between the two generations are bound to diverge.
Bring your own? Tired from work and coming home from work, I continue to be tired... The choice of adults is really never easy.
Lao Yu also brushed a very hot topic on Weibo today to discuss # Are you willing to give up your job for your children #
The discussion under the topic is mainly these types.
The first category: "giving up work for children" type
Most of the preconditions for making this decision are these categories, and the economic pressure at home is not likely to choose one of the parties in the family to take the baby wholeheartedly, or there is a condition to ask the nanny to take the child but they are not at ease, and they always insist on bringing their own children.
There are also parents who feel that raising a child can be used as a lifelong career, and the influence of parents in the process of children's growth is crucial, and they cannot be absent from the growth of their children.
Of course, there are also cases where giving up work is a helpless move, and others cannot rely on it so they can only count on themselves.
The second category: "firm in your career" type
Because the child's life and his own life only coincide at certain points, it is not so worthwhile to give up work and devote all his body and mind to the child.
"A person is first of his own, and then he is someone else's wife and mother..."
Choosing to be a stay-at-home mom may be slighted as the "raised" party in an intimate relationship; if the child grows up and does not approve of your company, he feels that his mother is useless except for washing and cooking.
Even after the child reaches the age of school, it is not easy to find a job and integrate into society again, and find that the replacement of society is fast and it is not easy to find a suitable job.
The third category: effort balancing
Arrange the working hours and the time spent with the child reasonably, and in the event of a time conflict, the child's affairs are handled first and the rest of the things are postponed.
The fourth category: the evasive selective type
If you don't want to face the choice, then strategically escape.
Finally, whether it's choosing a stay-at-home mom or pursuing a career, this may be what we need to face after unlocking our new identity.
If you feel that having a child or raising a child is a thing that squeezes and drags you down, I just hope that everyone can remember that it is not the child's fault, but the choice is different.
What do you think about whether you are willing to give up your job for the sake of your children?
You can tell your story in the comments section.~