Have you ever seen or experienced a scene like this:
Scenario 1: In kindergarten, when one child faces another child's invitation to play, the response is often very slow, and when he thinks he is willing to play together, the other child has already "shifted the target".
Scene two: A child who is grinning at home rarely wants to say hello when he goes out.
Scene three: When going out, I want to participate in other children's games, but I only dare to peek and dare not come forward, and even hide behind adults.
Often when we see such a child, we will say that the child is timid and introverted, in fact, they may just be slow heat.
Of course, the word slow heat is often associated with timidity and cowardice in the eyes of parents, but you will slowly find that there are many shining points in slow heat children.
Children with slow fever are active observers
Slow-heat children spend more time observing, observing and analyzing their own environment, observing whether everything around them is safe, whether the attitude of others is friendly, and analyzing whether they have the ability to do one thing.
Slow-heat children are calm contrasters
Slow-heat children are better at comparing things and making trade-offs and choices. They are good at imagining and contrasting, and can always think of a lot of scenes.
Slow-heat children are global thinkers
Slow-heat children are always good at taking into account more influencing factors and points, and will not make decisions or choices easily and impulsively.
Slow-motion children are also known as slow-start children. They are not as active as other children, and their adaptation to new people, things, and environments is slow, even a little sluggish, making parents more anxious. Therefore, with slow-heat children, parents should pay attention to some skills:
Positive description, rejection of label
First of all, parents should accept the characteristics of their children's personality.
Second, in daily communication or evaluation, the commonly used language is changed to another word. For example, the question "Why have you been thinking about it for so long?" "Hurry up, you're too slow," "How are you so timid," and so on, replace it with "I know you're thinking, I'm waiting for you for a while," "It's nice, you have your own ideas," or "I find you're very observant."
Parents should learn to use a positive perspective and mentality to look at and evaluate the characteristics of children's slow heat.
Positive demonstration, patient guidance
Slow-heat children may spend more time observing, contrasting, and thinking.
Therefore, parents may wish to spend more time with him to observe, giving children enough time to think and feel.
For example, when children who go out dare not boldly go forward to play, they can guide children to share their favorite cartoons with others and find their children's interests as an entry point for participating groups.
Self-warm-up, simulation game
For slow-heat children, parents need to spend more time helping them prepare for future life and study.
The first thing is to provide the child with plenty of time and space. Children over 3 years old like to play pretend games, through the daily play of parent-child pretend games, bring children into different social scenes, let him think simple and adapt in advance, and in the process can also exercise language skills.
Advance notification for greater control
Slow-heat children must understand something before they take action.
Therefore, parents can set aside a few minutes before going out and tell their children in advance what they might do today and who they might meet. In this way, the child will have a prejudgment in his heart, and the child will also have a greater sense of control and prejudgment, thus alleviating anxiety and tension to a certain extent.
Play deliberately, try to practice
Some slow-heat children have very slow reaction ability, and parents can properly exercise their reaction ability with their children, such as radish squat, palm and back of hand, and eagle catching chickens.
Slow-heat children are easily sensitive and shy. Parents must be receptive and patient to guard the growth of their children.
Slow-heat children need more encouragement and guidance from parents, parents should avoid arranged substitution, motivate children to explore the surrounding environment in observation, and help children be proactive.
Lead the snail to go for a walk, parents should not always be sullen. Listen and observe with the ears and eyes that find beauty, and wait for the flowers to bloom!