How to make children fall in love with learning and take the initiative to learn is a difficult problem that every parent is thinking about, the essence of children's active learning is to have enough internal drive, and children with strong internal drive can experience the joy and sense of achievement of learning, without parental supervision and additional rewards. Only by finding the dimension of the child's self-drive can parents educate and guide their children in a targeted manner.
Psychology expert Chen Mo pointed out that people have an instinct to repay the favor, children hope to repay their parents through learning, hope to be admitted to prestigious universities, otherwise they are embarrassed to face their parents. The internal drive generated by the feeling of "retribution" will indeed make the child study hard for a period of time, but when the child grows up, he finds that some things are not what he thinks, and he cannot achieve the goal he wants by studying hard, and he will begin to abandon himself and hate learning.
Under the stimulation of the competitive mentality, children will also take the initiative to learn, in the short term, children will maintain a state of hard work, but after a long time, children will have a sense of exhaustion, so it is not recommended that parents use contrast to stimulate the child's internal drive. The internal drive that is stimulated by external pressure is unstable and unsustainable, and once the external pressure is lost, or the external environment changes, the child will return to a confused state. If you want to help your child find the direction to grow, you must let your child discover his own internal driving force from within.
First, give children autonomy.
Parents do not interfere too much in the children's learning, a free person can become a conscious person, in the matter of learning, if parents deprive the child of too much autonomy, the child can not cultivate a sense of autonomy, independent learning. Only the letting go and trust of parents can make children bravely move forward.
Second, help children accumulate a sense of learning achievement.
Parents should not always set their sights on "other people's children", do not always make comparisons in front of children, accuse children of poor grades, children will feel hurt and embarrassed, will be more and more powerless to learn, the correct encouragement can make children full of energy and continue to move forward.
Third, take your child to experience the learning process.
Parents should become the guide on the child's learning road, help the child find the joy and sense of achievement of learning, parents can accompany the child to learn together, and experience the successes, failures, setbacks and challenges on the learning road together, which will eventually become the driving force on the child's growth road.
Educating children requires parents to have a long-term vision, encourage children, guide children, and grow together with children, only in this way can we cultivate an excellent child.