When it comes to doing housework, many parents think that this matter has nothing to do with the child, this is an adult thing, the child just needs to concentrate on learning. It is understandable that parents love their children and do not expose them to housework, but proper housework can promote growth.
Exposing children to housework from an early age helps to exercise independence and self-determination and cultivate a sense of responsibility.
Educator Sukhomlinsky once said that in the growth of children, create more opportunities for children to try to do what they can.
Children of different ages do housework comparison table
Every child is a member of the family, no matter how old he is, he should be allowed to understand the sharing of responsibilities, and doing housework is the best way. Children around the age of 3 have reached the age of gradually learning basic skills, parents should consciously exercise, according to the age group can be appropriately arranged housework.
3-4 years old: After kindergarten, children need basic self-care skills, and proper housework is also a way to cultivate children's life skills. Exercise your child to get up on his own to make the bed, wash, fold clothes, tidy up the table, take out the garbage, and arrange the clothes to wear every day.
4-7 years old: This age group is the transition stage from kindergarten to primary school, which requires stronger independent ability, and usually parents can guide children to do basic housework. Arrange dishes and chopsticks before meals, help parents clean up the table and wipe the table after meals, organize their school bags alone, and wash their own socks, underwear and other small pieces of clothing.
6-8 years old: Entering elementary school indicates that they have to do more things independently, and parents should let their children try more. Summarize and sort out the clothes to be changed and clean every day, and put them in the closet in order, organize the school bag every day, and go to and from school independently. Before and after meals, I helped my mother clean up the tables, chairs, dishes, and chopsticks, and cleaned her room every week.
7-9 years old: In the second and third grades, you can arrange your own time to and from school, as well as dress and prepare your school bag before school. Parents can arrange for their children to wash dishes after meals, and mothers can guide them to learn to use commonly used household appliances, such as commonly used microwave ovens and rice cookers, and learn to cook simple meals.
10 years old: 10 years old children already have independent opinions, parents can let him participate in more discussions about family issues, some family decisions and plans for children to express their opinions, exercise thinking ability to cultivate a sense of family responsibility.
In terms of life, 10-year-olds can take care of their own diet and living, make a family goods purchase plan with their mother and shop together.
Exercise children to do housework and guide from 4 aspects
Any skill after the birth of a child is gradually cultivated and exercised with age, and parents should be guided in the right way. On the one hand, it enhances the child's enthusiasm, and on the other hand, it improves his life skills and common sense in housework, so that he grows.
A 20-year study at Harvard University showed that children who participate in housework from an early age have a higher chance of employment, a 20% higher income, and a more stable and happy family life than children who do not like to do housework.
1. Arrange age-appropriate chores
Children of different ages have different hands-on abilities, so housework must be arranged according to age, which coincides with children's cognition, physical strength and patience. If it is beyond the child's ability to do something and it feels difficult, the child will feel frustrated and will resist.
Also pay attention to safety issues, and places that require the use of tools or housework should be within the safe range.
2, parents take a step back, children go further
Many parents are worried that their children cannot complete the housework independently, thinking that they are young and do not worry about what they do. Even if you arrange housework for your child, you must check it on the side, and once you think that your child can't do it well, you can help it, so it can't play a role in exercise.
Parents appropriately regress, the child can take a step forward, can be properly discussed, housework activities especially need his help, enhance the child's sense of existence and self-confidence, but also mobilize his enthusiasm for labor.
3. Enhance children's awareness of family responsibility
From an early age, parents should let their children understand that every member of the family has the responsibility and obligation to participate in housework. No matter how old the child is, as long as they have the ability to do it, they should share the housework for their parents. Under the influence of such an atmosphere, children are willing to pay for the family and will also establish a sense of responsibility.
This sense of responsibility is not only in the family, but also has a profound impact on his later growth path, including after entering society.
4. Respect the child's right to choose
Exercise to do housework should be done by guiding the water to the water, let the child participate voluntarily, in the case of his resistance, should not be forced as a parent, so that he can only be disgusted. Give your child the right to choose, choose not to do housework, or choose which work to participate in, or discuss a list of divisions of labor through family meetings.
Tips: When assigning housework to children, be sure to make the task concrete, because understanding cognition is different from the perspective of adults, and it is difficult for children to understand the work that needs to be done if the expression is not specific.
5. Timely encouragement
After the child pays labor, parents must express gratitude, such as "thank you baby for helping the mother to set the dishes and chopsticks", etc., encouragement and recognition let him feel that his efforts are valued, have a sense of achievement, and have more enthusiasm.
In the process of labor, parents should be tolerant, even if they do not do a good job or inadvertently damage items during labor, they should also show tolerance and understanding, so that he can grow in continuous tempering.
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Housework seems to be a simple thing, and even many families have not discussed whether children should do housework or not, or what kind of housework to do, but there is a simple one. Children who regularly do housework have improved their self-confidence and sense of responsibility, and their ability to be independent is stronger. Parents take a step back, the child will take a big step, this is growth. Education is not limited to book knowledge or classroom learning, in the family, life can provide more opportunities for exercise, and these practical activities are the wealth of children's growth path.
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