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Live in the present moment and look in a mirror all the time to see what you look like.
01
Your spouse is your subconscious
Man is originally a whole, but in order to adapt to the environment, he develops some mental activities, suppresses another part of mental activities, and the result becomes half a person.
When looking for a partner, people are attracted to people who have mental activity (not really nothing, but repressed) that they don't have. In this way, the two people combine and become a whole again.
People's repressive parts, the parts that the spouses have, may or may not accept.
If it is accepted
Two people together will be very harmonious
If it is not accepted
There will be constant conflict
Despite the constant conflict, nothing can be separated. In other words, people are not in conflict with their spouses, but with their own subconscious. Only by "reconciling" with one's own subconscious can the marital conflict be eliminated.
02
Your children are your subconscious
Chinese parents all hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes, that is, to use their children as their own stand-ins, to project a mask of their own insufficient performance (that is, repression or semi-repression) to their children, so that their children can complete their unfinished mission.
Some parents do this consciously, some parents unconsciously. There are also some parents who find that their children do not meet their expectations at all, so they are very disappointed in their children, and they try their best to reform their children, and they turn to psychologists if they can't reform themselves.
There is a parent, she is very good, she hopes that her child is also very good, the child is not yet born when the prenatal education began, after the confinement to take the child to learn early education. When I went to kindergarten, my children were very good, but in the middle class, children had "behavioral problems", did not abide by discipline, often robbed other people's things, quarreled with children, loved to cry, and sometimes wet their pants.
Parents take their children to see a psychologist, and psychologists say that it is related to family education, but parents think that there is no problem with family education.
The fact that the parent herself is excellent indicates that she has an "excellent molecule" mask (A). People are not born excellent, or not excellent, but there is both an excellent side and a non-excellent side, parents "play" the excellent molecular mask, which means that the "backward molecule" mask is suppressed.
She is definitely very repulsive to the mask of backward elements, she hates backward elements, afraid of becoming backward elements, so she strives to forge ahead and strive to be excellent elements.
The better she is, the more the backward molecular mask is suppressed, and finally even she herself is deceived, thinking that she does not have a backward molecular mask, but the backward molecular mask exists in her.
Now, the mask of repressed backward elements is projected onto children. Maybe the child is not so far behind, just like other children.
However, the mother has a strong backward molecular mask, which is very sensitive to backward molecules, and immediately identifies the backward molecular substance of the child and wears a backward molecular mask for the child.
If she accepts the laggard mask
She will allow the child to fall behind
Then accompany the child to grow up together
The problem is that she does not accept the backward element mask, she wants to "eliminate" the child's backward element mask, so she enters into a state of hostility with the child's backward element mask (and also with the child).
In a hostile state, the child is very injured, he will certainly resist, and the result is getting worse and worse.
03
Your parents are your subconscious
Many people hate their parents very much, think that their parents can't do that, they are very unaccustomed, try to reform their parents, and as a result, the relationship with their parents is very tense and often conflict.
When a person feels that his parents are not right, it means that he has projected the mask of "wrong elements" on his parents. Thinking that they are right and their parents are not right will try to reform their parents, indicating that they have used the mask of "correct molecules".
In fact, everyone will make mistakes, and people who think they have always been right suppress the mask of wrong molecules, and then project it onto others, and are allergic to other people's mistakes.
04
Your siblings are your subconscious
They are all inherited from their parents, but the personality differences between siblings can be very large, because everyone only "inherits" part of it and suppresses the other part. If you put brothers and sisters together, it will be closer to the "family personality".
Since everyone inherits only a part, and the repressive part is reflected in others, sibling interaction is subconscious.
If the sibling relationship is harmonious, it means that everyone accepts that they do not have (in fact, repression) and the other person has a part, accepting the difference. If brothers and sisters are incompatible, it means that everyone does not accept their subconscious.
05
Your co-workers are your subconscious
Unless you don't have feelings for him, neither like nor hate. If so, he probably touched another mask in your heart. If he makes you love and hate, then he must be your subconscious.
And what doesn't end up in your original family will be staged in your own intimate relationship, or in the office, inadvertently, your dislike for a colleague stems from your jealousy of your sister. Your promise to the leader comes from your carefulness with your parents.
The people around you are your subconscious. They are your stand-ins, your projections, your mirrors, they externalize your mask so that you can see yourself.
Whether you like them or hate them has nothing to do with them, it just means that you like yourself, or you hate yourself, that is, to accept yourself, or not to accept yourself.