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The conception of new life is a process that tests women's bodies and minds extremely.
With the continuous rise of hormones in the body, expectant mothers will not only have severe pregnancy reversals, but even increase the risk of postpartum depression. But there are also many fathers-to-be who reflect that in the process of their wives' pregnancy, they will also have pregnancy reversal and postpartum depression.
A father-to-be in Guangdong uploaded a video of his wife's morning sickness infection to him, initially the wife began morning sickness, but what he did not expect was that he was infected by vomiting and vomiting, and his morning sickness was more than his wife, and he had no choice but to lie in bed, and his wife had to take care of him.
In fact, men will not only have morning sickness reactions, but also suffer from "postpartum depression", which is scientifically based.
Men also experience "gestational reversal" and postpartum depression
A New Zealand study showed that women are not the only group to suffer from depression during pregnancy and postpartum, and some men also suffer from depression and stress before and after their partners give birth.
Underwood, lead author of the study, and colleagues wrote in a report in the Journal of the American Medical Association - Psychiatry: About 9% of men in their lives suffer from depression, and 3% of men may experience a recurrence of depression, and these depressions may also be the driving force behind the emotional and behavioral problems of young children.
The UK's Daily Mail has also reported that studies have shown that new dads, like new moms, are at risk of depression in the first five years after the birth of their children, and younger dads are at higher risk of postpartum depression.
Why is depression common for new dads?
First of all, in the new life of joining this matter, Dad's feelings are most easily overlooked.
After the birth of the child, the vast majority of family members will focus on the mother and the child, and the attention to the father will be very low, which may trigger the psychological imbalance of the fathers, and then the mood is depressed.
Secondly, after the birth of a child, not only the economic pressure increases, but also the role change and the responsibility of the father will also make the new father male fear.
However, because of the influence of traditional Chinese thinking such as "boys have tears and do not flick", they can only bury their inner collapse and pain, and in the long run, negative emotions cannot be vented, and it is very likely that extreme outbreaks will occur.
The mainland has also done research on the problem of postpartum depression in men, and the data show that the prevalence of postpartum depression in men reaches 12.5%.
That is to say, 1 in 10 new dads suffers from postpartum depression.
If your husband is like this, it means that he is a responsible man, and it also shows that he loves you very much.
So, how can postpartum depression in new dads be prevented?
1. Actively participate in fertility education classes or parents' classes
During the pregnancy of the wife, the father-to-be should go to the pregnancy course with the wife, master the basic knowledge of prenatal care and postpartum adjustment, and pave the way for the transformation of his role in advance.
This not only ensures that the child is comfortable with various problems after birth, but also reduces the anxiety and stress of new fatherhood.
Second, negative emotions should be vented in a timely manner
After the birth of a child, if the new dad can't weigh the relationship between family and work, and feels stressed about it.
Negative emotions must be vented in a timely manner, although most men do not like to be like women, willing to share the parents with friends around them, but it is also a good choice to find a trusted, experienced friend to talk about their negative emotions.
Third, the mother should encourage the father more
After the birth of a child, it is often more difficult for men to enter the role than for women.
Moreover, in the process of taking care of the baby, the father will not be as careful as the mother, and it is inevitable that mistakes will occur. At this time, the mother should not blame the father, but should stand by the father's side, do a good job, and improve the confidence and interest of the father.
Fourth, if there is a serious emotional problem, be sure to seek medical treatment in time
If the father has depression or other emotional problems, the family must pay attention to it, and find a professional doctor or psychological counselor to help in time to avoid more serious consequences.
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