Father-to-be 【Eighth Month】
To-do list!
# Prepare a maternity kit with the mother-to-be, keeping in mind the name and purpose of each thing;
#在准妈妈筑巢本能发作时, pack up with her and protect her;
#寻找从家到医院的最优路线;
#代劳一切需要弯腰的工作;
The 8th month of pregnancy is the last preparation time for the expansion of the world of two to a family of three, new parents will inevitably be overwhelmed by the rush of chickens and dogs, as a person who has come, today we will sort out what preparations need to be made before childbirth, including the sorting out of the items to be delivered and the adjustment of psychological expectations.
List of packages to be delivered
If you choose to give birth in a public hospital, please put away the list of pending delivery packages, if you choose to produce in a private hospital, then many things in the list will be provided by the hospital, please consult the hospital in advance for specific supplements.
Supplies for expectant mothers
Items needed in the delivery room before giving birth:
- Complete maternity report
- Id card, medical insurance card
- A bank card that can be used to pay for hospitalization deposits
- Headphones, phone charging cable and power bank
- Energetic foods and beverages such as dark chocolate with higher purity, functional drinks (not recommended for Red Bull), and low-fat, high-carb foods are also suitable
- Water cup and brown sugar with straw (the nurse will make a large cup of brown sugar water for you to drink as soon as giving birth)
- Toilet paper and tissues
Items needed for postpartum hospitalization:
- 2 sets of comfortable nursing clothes (some hospital maternity kits also have nursing clothes for mothers)
- Comfortable socks, maternity shoes;
- Lip balm (after childbirth, the lips of the woman will be severely dehydrated or even chapped);
- Complete set of toiletries;
- Breast pump
- Nipple cream
- Maternity mat
- Pajama pants or sanitary napkin plus disposable panties
- Portable private area cleaner
- Basin (it is best to prepare a basin that is deep enough and large enough, as it is likely that a sitz bath will be required)
- Water cup with straw
- Disposable toilet seat mat
- A set of clothing to be worn when discharged from the hospital
Tips: Father-to-be don't think that food or drinks to supplement physical fitness is a fuss, because the pain before childbirth will gradually consume the physical energy and energy of expectant mothers, resulting in many pregnant women in the late stage of childbirth due to fatigue or lack of strength and can not successfully complete the birth, forced to choose the way of turning and dissection, and expectant mothers in the face of this result alone is a double blow of body and psychology, saying that it is a lifetime of shadows are not excessive, so expectant mothers must replenish energy and physical fitness in time when waiting for delivery.
Baby supplies
- A lot of diapers are not wet (do not underestimate the speed of use of diapers, be sure to bring more!) Multi-belt! Multi-belt! ）
- Buttock cream
- Saliva towel and small square towel
- Cotton scarf
- Wet tissues (many hospital nurses prefer to use cotton towels, wet wipes are just used as a backup, or used by mothers to wipe hands for convenience)
- Soft tissues
- One small can of milk powder and a small bottle
- A small basin for a baby (some nurses may use to wash your baby's ass)
- Baby's clothing, covers (Under normal circumstances, the hospital will have a full set of sterilized maternity bags, including baby clothes, covers, etc., so you only need to prepare a set of beautiful clothes for the baby to change when you leave the hospital, purely to meet the needs of mothers to pat and pat. ）
- Carrying basket or car seat (everyone must be full of joy when the baby is discharged from the hospital to see his family, and he wants to hold it in his arms every second, but also pay attention to the safety on the road)
Psychological construction
In addition to adequate preparation of items, expectant fathers and expectant mothers should also be mentally prepared in the face of the upcoming big changes in their lives.
Changes in the relationship between husband and wife
The period when the child is born is the period when mother and baby are most closely linked, and this phenomenon is called "the original maternal love".
During this period, new mothers are very sensitive and attentive to the needs of their babies, usually from the end of pregnancy to a few weeks after the birth of the child, and the father-to-be is the most neglected role during this period.
So fathers-to-be should be clear, no matter what plans you have made before, no matter how close your past relationships have been, you have to give in to the laws of nature.
Know that the support and protection given by mothers to children can not only smoothly let the child pass through this critical period of birth, but also create a sense of security for the child, which will continue to have a positive impact throughout the child's childhood and even after he grows up.
However, this has also led to the weakening of the relationship between husband and wife, the United Kingdom did a survey of the relationship between husband and wife, new parents believe that the birth of a child brings them more "anger and uneasiness" than happiness, and some even use "pain, sadness, upset and frustration" to describe.
There was a similar survey in the United States, which looked at 300 couples with children over the age of 6, and about half of the couples believed that their satisfaction with their marriage declined after the birth of their first child.
This is not sensationalism, but to correctly recognize and look at this matter, do a good job of psychological construction in advance and adjust psychological expectations, but this idea will not last too long, when the child grows up, the couple will become intimate again because of the child's bond.
Difficulties that can be encountered
A few weeks after the baby is born, the relationship slowly returns to normal, but more trials will follow.
- Sleep deprivation
"Sleep deprivation" is a torturous TV drama section, after the birth of the baby, you can feel it personally, at the same time, the father-to-be will return to the company under this torture.
At this time, the mother-to-be has also been tortured and exhausted by the baby at home, so the father-to-be should help his wife share some work while completing his own tasks, and remember not to emphasize how tired and upset he is after a busy day.
- Follow the command
The survey shows that at this stage, the dissatisfaction and resentment of wives against their husbands are unprecedentedly high, and the relationship between husband and wife is full of crises, so if you want to avoid the birth of this crisis as much as possible, it is to make your mother the overall person in charge of a job.
At this stage, it is best to be planned by the mother, the father is responsible for the implementation and assistance of specific affairs, remember that the father-to-be only needs to work hard and obey the command.
Moms are always authorities, they know the child best, what happened to the child, what the child wants, no one knows better than her, because the child is the meat that fell from her body, and now she is with the child all day, and the father-to-be is just guessing, so everything is the best way to complete the task.
- Make rules
The above is still 1 to 2 months away from you, so take advantage of this time to make an unwritten rule, such as no matter what dispute occurs, do not doubt the other party's love, and deal with the problem in the principle of tolerance and tolerance.
Maybe these rules won't make any substantial improvement in the bad situation in the first few months of your child's birth, but when you're all exhausted and angry, maybe these rules can avoid a quarrel or quarrel, and what you're doing now is worth it.
Remembering the first two months of the child's birth, it is really a mess of chicken feathers, and anxiety, irritability and irritability are common emotions.
But the more so, the more we should deny ourselves, whether it is the responsibility of the father or the obligation of the husband, we should work hard and obey the complaints, after all, the wife has overcome the pain of childbirth alone, and how can she accept the "anger" of the husband when she returns home.
This article refers to books
The First Pregnancy Book for a Man
Mark Woods [Translation] Jia Yuting
"Pregnant with My Wife"
Rob Kemp [Translation] Wu Fan
Sears Encyclopedia of Pregnancy
William Sears Martha Sears Linda Holt BJ Snell [Translation] Xun Shouwen
Heidi's Encyclopedia of Pregnancy
[Beauty] Heidi McCoughf et al. [Translation] Pauline Hu
Note: The pictures in this article come from the Internet