When interacting with people in life, one of the people we are most afraid of encountering is a person who is very stubborn and does not know how to communicate.
What would parents do if our children had already begun to develop stubbornness by the age of three? The stubbornness of an adult and the stubbornness of a three-year-old child mean differently.
What should we do when a child is extremely stubborn?
Have the parents of the children in the family ever encountered a dispute between two stubborn children?
When two children play together, when there is a bad phenomenon of stubbornness, how do parents solve it?
His friend Dabao just turned three years old this year, and as he grew older, his personality slowly became stubborn.
In ordinary life, he is very willful and very stubborn, saying that he wants to complete things by himself, no matter how much difficulty he encounters, he will not allow his parents to intervene.
If his parents intervened in what he thought was, he would start crying next to him, and then he would be happy if he had finished halfway through it again.
Some time ago, a friend took Dabao to his girlfriend's house to play, but the four-year-old child of the girlfriend's family and his friend Dabao appeared stubbornly on the same thing.
After my friend and girlfriend finished eating, they were getting ready to wash the dishes.
The children of the friends and girlfriends rushed to the kitchen to help them wash the dishes together.
In this long process of washing dishes, they were very tormented.
At home, Dabao washes a plate by himself and does not allow friends to help.
The girlfriend's children also asked to wash a bowl themselves, and they were not allowed to help.
Friends and girlfriends just stupidly watched the two children rubbing.
It wasn't until later that the two children began to quarrel over a bowl.
The girlfriend immediately took her child away, and the two children slowly stopped.
Why does a child at the age of 3 suddenly become very stubborn and pay great attention to the order of accomplishing things?
The reason for the child's stubbornness
Reason one: the awakening of self-awareness
Most children develop a self-conscious awakening when they are about three years old.
At this time, the child has begun to fully understand the things in this world.
They know that they are an independent individual, and in the period of time with their parents, they have seen the behavior of their parents and gradually understood that when their parents ask them to complete a thing, they can refuse if they do not want to do it.
They can choose to do something they like or dislike something, and then they start to become very stubborn.
At this time, they hope that all the things they experience in their lives are arranged by themselves, and they hope that everything will develop with their own minds.
When you see that the child begins to refuse your help, wants to complete a thing on his own and has to follow a certain order, makes a mistake and immediately cries, or even destroys everything he has done before and comes back, it means that the child's self-consciousness has begun to awaken.
Reason two, strong ability to imitate
If parents pay attention to recalling their childhood, then most parents should have experienced playing the game of police catching thieves or passing the family with their friends.
Children around the age of 3 to 4 are extremely capable of imitation, and they find it very interesting to see their parents busy cooking or working every day.
So, when multiple kids get together, they play role-playing games.
At this point, they will have a few people play the police, a few people play the thief, and then play the game of the police catching the thief.
Some children will think of themselves as adults, think of younger children as babies, and then play the game of home.
They are particularly capable of imitation, they want everything in life to be controlled and developed by themselves, and as long as their parents disturb their order, they will immediately get angry.
What parents should do when the child is stubborn
Method 1: Learn to respect your child
When children awaken to self-awareness, they most want to be respected and recognized by their parents.
Many times when children are doing one thing repeatedly and pursuing perfection to the extreme, parents are still stubborn no matter how they coax them around.
At this time, parents must not be angry with their children, we must learn to respect the child, and understand more about the various behaviors of three- and four-year-old children after entering the stubborn period.
When children find themselves respected, their sense of security will become stronger and stronger.
Method two, let the child know that stubbornness is bad behavior
Stubbornness is a bad behavior, if the child treats stubbornness as a behavioral habit, perhaps the child will still maintain a stubborn character when he grows up.
In order to let the child know that stubbornness is bad behavior, parents must let the child know that stubbornness is bad behavior in the process of getting along with the child.
Although we can't criticize children when they are stubborn, if children are very stubborn when they complete a thing and pursue perfection excessively, then we can also imitate the child's stubbornness to complete a thing.
If the child is always messing around when we are serious about completing a thing, then we can also pretend to be crying and start doing something again, and the speed of completion can even be slower than the child's completion.
When children find that stubbornness will make them bored, they will naturally restrain their stubborn personality.
Parents must not think that after the child enters the period of stubbornness, he has completely become a stubborn person.
Stubbornness in the child's world is completely different from the meaning of stubbornness in an adult world.
The child enters the stubborn period because of the awakening of self-awareness, while an adult is stubborn because of personality problems.
After discovering that the child has entered a period of stubbornness, we must patiently teach the child to make the child more excellent.
| Proverbs 22:6|
To raise a child, to make him walk the path of the profession, even when he is old, he will not deviate.