Many mothers have had this experience, and babies around half a year old cry whenever they can't see their mothers! Many mothers think that the baby is too clingy, let themselves not be idle for a moment, even go to the toilet in a hurry, feel physically and mentally exhausted!
In fact, this is the normal performance of the baby, my family's seven-month-old second treasure is in this period, this performance is particularly strong!
When I put it on the bed and left on his own, he would quickly climb to the edge of the bed, stand up on the bed rail, and keep his eyes following my figure to the living room! I sometimes look back and see him looking at me all the time, not crying or making trouble!
But when I turned to go to the bathroom, I left his sight, he couldn't see me, and the cries of wow and cry immediately reached my ears!
If I put him on a mat and I sit next to him and watch him, even if I don't do anything, he will play with the toy with peace of mind!
But as soon as I left, he chased me and climbed! Wherever I go, he climbs? When you can't keep up, you crawl and cry!
I carried him back to the mat and sat by him, doing nothing, and he was still sitting on the mat playing with toys!
Although I also feel a little tired, but also often think that the more I grow up, the more troublesome, when I put him in bed when I was a child, I can play for a long time, I can go to the toilet, record videos, and complete a lot of things in a short time during his playing time, but now it is really a moment can not be separated, even the toilet is in a hurry!
However, I know that this is a necessary stage of a child's growth, and it is also a big step forward for him! Although my body is more tired, my mood is very relaxed, and I am not anxious because of such behavior of children!
There are three reasons why children cry when they can't see their mother:
First, the child knows how to recognize people! Generally speaking, a child can distinguish between his mother and other people in four or five months, and if others are not familiar with him, as soon as someone hugs him, he will cry! The child's crying at this time shows that he knows how to protect himself and has formed a certain sense of safety!
Second, the child has a sense of panic. Before the age of one, the child and the mother are in a symbiotic period, he thinks that the mother and himself are one, see the mother is at ease, can not see the mother is anxious, and produce a sense of fear! This feeling of fear made him unable to leave his mother for a moment!
Third, his mother made him feel at ease. The child can't see his mother and cry, but as long as he sees his mother, even if there are tears in the corners of his eyes, he will break into a smile, as long as he can see his mother, he is particularly at ease to play!
After knowing the reason why the child can't see the mother and cry, your psychology is not particularly warm, the child loves the mother so much, is so dependent on the mother, but many of our mothers regard the child as a burden, and the mother with a good attitude also treats the child as a sweet burden!
Many mothers feel very wronged, the child can't see the mother and cry, then I can't let him see me all the time, after all, I still have to go to the toilet, or do something else! So what does the mother do, so that she can get some freedom without causing the child to cry? Let me share my experience with you:
First, the mother tries to let the child see herself. For example, if the mother goes to the kitchen to cook, the mother can push the trolley and let the child sit in the trolley and watch the mother cook.
Second, the mother must tell the child where to go. Wherever the mother is going, we have to be patient and tell the child. For example, if the mother wants to go to the toilet, the mother must first hold the child to the bathroom and tell him: "Mother is going to come here to go to the toilet, and she will come to you after going to the toilet." Then put the child in a safe place in the living room, and when she turns away, the mother will also say to the child: "You play here, the mother goes to the toilet, and the mother will come back later!" Although the child is small, but the mother says a few times, he will form a conditioned reflex, and slowly understand the meaning of the mother!
Third, the mother has played the game of Tibetan cat and cat with the baby since she was a child. When the baby is two months old, the mother can cover her face with her hand so that the baby can't see the mother, and then release the hand and say, "Wow! "Cover your face and can't see your mother, you can see your mother by releasing your hand, and your child can slowly accept the situation of not seeing your mother for a while!"
Although the mother of the second child is very tired, but to feel the world of the child with her heart, the child can not only bring us surprises, but also bring us full of love!
Long Chunhua, parent-child writer, founder of Long Chunhua Parent-Child Practice Classroom, second-child mother, author of more than ten works such as "Raising Boys, Mothers Have a Way", "Children, You Are the Best Of Yourself", "Infant Behavior Psychology" and so on.