What is the essence of liking someone?
Some people say that like is a kind of "psychological visibility", through getting along with each other, let you feel the warmth and happiness of the heart.
Some people say that liking is a kind of "need satisfaction", and getting along with each other can amplify their own value.
Some people also say: Like is love at first sight, is a kind of good feeling, is a kind of affection, is an unspeakable affection fills the heart.
In fact, the mystery and greatness of feelings lies in:
We can't describe this good feeling in concrete words, but we can feel that this good feeling is real.
What does it feel like when you fall in love with each other?
It's roughly:
Floating lightly from head to toe, feeling something wandering in your body, you don't want to leave the other person for a moment.
However, it is preferable to have the real feeling of a person facing each other, rather than the feeling of being across the phone screen.
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Boys talk to the same girl every day, do you like her?
Recently, a female reader left a message.
The girl said:
A boy took the initiative to chat with her every day, and at first she was more vigilant, but politely and politely replied to the boy's message.
But as the frequency and time of the chats increased, she found her mindset changed.
After a week of chatting, she gradually liked to talk to this guy because she found that there were still many common topics between the two people.
After chatting for half a month, she was willing to show her little secrets and emotions in front of this boy.
Now that we have been talking for almost 1 month, she has found that she likes this boy.
In this regard, the boy is somewhat indifferent.
The girl thought that the boy took the initiative to chat with her and also liked her performance.
But she waited, waited, but she could not wait for the boy's confession.
At this time, she panicked, was it her own delusion?
However, a boy does not like himself, why does he insist on chatting with himself every day?
Have you ever had a similar experience?
Chat with the same opposite sex every day, maintain a certain frequency, after a period of time, will you like each other?
In fact, in many cases, people will like a person because of "frequent chat".
But this kind of liking, full of uncertainty, is more likely to become an illusion.
So, what is the idea of boys taking the initiative to chat with you?
First: I really like you
You know, people only become active when they meet someone they like.
His attitude toward you, the tone of his speech, and the way he gets along with you are obviously different from the way he treats others.
Only if you like you, will be close to you; only like you, are willing to take the initiative.
In the process of male and female interaction, the boy's initiative is actually a hint: he likes you.
However, if you always stay in the active state, the feelings of the two people have not made substantial progress, nor is it a normal relationship.
Second: Boys just get bored and will come to you
If a boy talks to you every day, but never shows a good feeling for you, nor does he confess to you.
Also, the process of the two of you chatting lasted for a while.
At this time, it shows that boys just use you as a means to "eliminate loneliness".
When he needs you, he will naturally look for you; every time he talks to you, shares some topics, pours out negative emotions to you, etc.
Once he finds the "next home", he will leave you without hesitation and turn around to show courtesy to the other person.
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The feelings generated across the screen of the mobile phone are not highly credible
The opposite sex initiates and frequently chats with you, which is nothing more than: you are funny, he is boring; you are attracted to him, he likes you temporarily.
However, only through online communication, but without offline dating and face-to-face feelings, this feeling will sooner or later "see the light and die".
There are many similar examples: like each other because of the chat.
But offline dating, after the formal meeting, only to find out: the good feelings have all been lost.
The reason why people like the person who chats every day is nothing more than habit, because of boredom, because of inner loneliness and emptiness.
For example:
You work outside the home alone and live in a rented house.
The daily trajectory of life is fixed: going to work, eating, leaving work, going back to the rental house.
In this process, emotions are not released, and inner loneliness cannot be filled.
Once someone breaks into your life and is willing to listen to you and is willing to share it with you, you will not hesitate to like him.
But even if you change anyone, you will still feel like it.
Such likes are not real and have little credibility.
So, how to face this kind of "feelings generated by chatting"?
There are only two ways.
First: offline dating, test good feelings
Dating together, eating, watching movies, and only face-to-face contact can you feel what your heart is like to him.
Is it liking, is it freshness, or is it a good feeling that disappears in an instant?
Adult feelings, if only passed across the mobile phone screen, it is too hypocritical.
Second: Stop there and watch your feelings change
If you feel that you can't contain your liking for him, but he is indifferent to you.
At this time, force yourself to stop and no longer take the initiative to chat with him.
And, in the process, you go to other people of the opposite sex to chat, maintaining a certain frequency.
It only takes a few days for you to determine whether your feelings for him are true or false.
The feelings that come out of the phone should only exist in the phone.
It is invisible and full of uncertainties.
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Talk to the opposite sex every day, will you like him?
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