Text/BeiShu Source: Beishu Youyue (beishu2016)
In feelings, it is always easy for the authorities to be confused.
When you like a person, you will often filter out some of the other party's bad things because of this love, mistakenly thinking that as long as you work hard enough, you will definitely get feedback.
However, what feelings are most afraid of is wishful thinking, and you are hot to pay the heart, in exchange for which it may be ruthless.
So, when chatting with the opposite sex, if you receive the following messages, don't talk, because these replies are already telling you that in fact, he doesn't like you as much as you think.
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"What am I looking for?"
I've seen a passage like this:
When asked "are you there" on WeChat, there are two common replies:
Replying to "I am" means "I want to continue chatting with you"; and replying to "what are you looking for me to do" is actually saying to you: "What are you doing".
Deeply believed, it seemed like a very simple sentence, but it revealed a completely different mind of the respondent.
In interpersonal communication, some words are not only simply to convey information, but also to express the feelings behind them. Between the opposite sex, this is even more true.
The so-called words are all love. If the other party also has a good feeling for you, he will definitely respond positively and patiently in each chat, which is a signal that he is reluctant to end the chat with you.
On the contrary, people who don't like you will not give you so much enthusiasm, and when they receive your message, they will either turn a blind eye or coldly reply to you with a sentence of "what am I looking for", which is clear that they do not want to deal with you, with a taste of disgust.
In any relationship, you are not afraid of the difficult road ahead, and you are afraid that the other party does not have a heart that loves you.
When you are full of enthusiasm for a person, and the other party is just reluctant to deal with you, or even ignore your love, impatient, then don't be bored with yourself.
The other party has no intention of talking to you about this relationship, no matter how much you pay, the only one who is hurt in the end is yourself.
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"You can't control it"
A reader shared her experience backstage:
By chance, I met a boy, the two added WeChat, and began to chat quite in tune, and she slowly developed feelings for each other.
However, before her love could be pronounced, a basin of cold water was poured down.
Before that, she chatted with each other from time to time, couldn't help but care about the other party's situation, and often opened with asking what the other party was doing, and as a result, several times she was scolded with a sentence of "you can't control", and the rest of the words were like fish in her throat, so that she could not continue to talk.
After that, she canceled the other party's WeChat top and gradually reduced the contact.
In real life, everyone is busy, busy working, busy making money, busy receiving all kinds of information.
And being able to take time out of a busy schedule to care about a person is because you care and want to enter the other person's world.
But if the other party has no joy in this, but is full of disgust, and even says the words "you can't control" fiercely.
Well, your greeting is nosy to him. He doesn't want you to be involved in his life and doesn't want to interact with you more.
Loving someone doesn't want to be a bystander in her life, but wants to be a participant.
For a relationship, you are willing to give, but he is not willing to accept, it can be said that the relationship between you has ended before it has begun.
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"Don't want to talk to you"
Think about whether you always want to share everything with the other person when you like someone, even if there is nothing special, but it is a pleasure to be able to make small talk or show the other person the daily life of your work.
Remember a writer who wrote in his work:
"Having someone who can chat with me is more important than watching TV and eating." For example, if the weather is good today, I can tell her that the weather is good. If it's cold, I'll ask her to add a dress. ”
The vast majority of life is trivial, trivial.
The chat between lovers is often some ordinary boring topic.
It may be talking about how the weather was today, what we ate for lunch, what difficulties we encountered at work, and so on.
Behind these ordinary words is actually expressed: I love you and want to accompany you to old age.
And when a person doesn't love you, all of the above, you can never get in him. He won't take the initiative to share his life with you, his nagging, his heart, his tenderness you won't be able to see.