There is a "dark effect" in psychology that refers to:
At night when the light is relatively dark, when people get along with others, they are more likely to reduce their vigilance and their own emotional perception is more sensitive.
In a dark environment, it is more conducive to cultivating mutual feelings; moreover, darkness can always give people a certain "camouflage space" so that people do not have to worry about their shortcomings being magnified.
Whenever darkness comes, staying at home alone, do you feel lonely and your emotions are unconsciously enriched?
Talking to the opposite sex at night, is it easier for you to catch the ambiguity?
When you encounter multiple choice questions at night, are you more likely to be indecisive and unable to make up your mind?
From a psychological point of view, people should not make decisions at night, nor should they overexpress their feelings at night.
-01
Don't show affection easily at night
Set a scene.
The girl messages you during the day, and she says, "What are you doing, I'm so bored."
At this time, the boy did not care, thinking that the girl had something to trouble herself.
At night, if a girl sends such a message to a boy, the boy will often have some subtle misunderstandings.
The scene of the chat is often affected by time.
Talking to each other during the day, you don't have too many thoughts; when you talk to the opposite sex at night, you always substitute more emotions.
Why is there such a change?
That's because, during the day, reason prevails.
During the day we play a "social role", to work, to deal with different people; to maintain sanity, so that we are not prone to mistakes.
At night, people's emotions begin to diversify, and the fatigue and exhaustion of the day come up, and people will become emotional.
Especially those who live alone, they will feel lonely, lonely, and bored.
At this moment, once the opposite sex breaks into his life and chats with him every day, he will fall in love with the other party and cannot extricate himself.
Don't easily confess to each other at night.
Tell you a case.
A boy left me a message, and the boy said:
After talking to a girl for about half a month, he somehow suddenly confessed to this girl one night.
But when he woke up the next morning and looked through the chat history, he was upset about his recklessness and impulsiveness.
The girl rejected his confession and was no longer willing to chat with him;
Boys are also annoyed by their own approach, and the behavior of confessing to each other, like the brain is out of control, is completely subconscious behavior.
This case illustrates very well: your emotions at night are largely an illusion.
Frequent chats, ambiguity in specific circumstances, will produce this illusion.
So, to determine if you're really in love with the other person, it's best to think during the day than at night.
-02
Don't decide things lightly at night
When people make decisions, they are more susceptible to their surroundings and the influence of other people's ideas.
For example, if you go out to buy clothes, you like white clothes, but your decision is influenced by the words of the clerk, and you eventually buy black clothes.
But when you go home, you begin to regret: I obviously like white, but why did I buy black clothes?
This is the human intellect, which is influenced by the thinking of others.
Decisions made at night are susceptible to the "dark effect".
After a busy day, your whole person is very tired, and your brain may enter a "rest state" at any time.
Have you ever had trouble?
Suddenly sleepy at work, you have no impression of what words you typed on the computer.
Writing when you are sleepy, and when you wake up and see what you write, you will feel funny.
Because your consciousness is no longer clear, making a decision at this moment will often make you regret it.
Here's another example:
Many people are used to spending and shopping at night, but such behavior is often irrational.
At night, you are more emotional and the decisions you make are more easily influenced by your own emotions.
Extreme excitement, irritability, anxiety, loneliness, etc., are easy to affect their decisions.
You've just paid your salary and you're going on a shopping spree, but the next morning, you're going to get a lot of dispensable stuff back.
This is the most typical example.
So when you've been busy all day and feel like you're in a state of exhaustion when you get home, don't make decisions lightly.
Even if you have to make a decision, it is best to discuss it with your family.
There is a saying in "The Sun Also Rises":
"It's extremely easy to be emotional about nothing during the day, but at night it's a different story."
There is also a passage in the Cai Gen Tan that describes the difference between day and night:
"In the dead of night, a man sits quietly and contemplates his mind, and he begins to feel that he is vain and poor, and he is really alone, and he is very interested in this; he feels that he is really present and is unable to escape, and he is ashamed of himself."
People are always like this, rational and awake during the day, and emotional and impulsive at night.
During the day is a real adult, not easy to be sad and happy; at night like a childish child, easy to be emotional.
Today's Topic:
Have you ever done something you regret at night?
(Article with picture source network)