When the child wants to go out on his own and no longer needs his mother, what should the mother do?
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Mom, don't follow me
My 8-year-old son, who has recently been obsessed with going out on his own, initially went downstairs to pick up the courier, because in the same building, there was no need to cross the street, no vehicles, I let him go by himself a few times.
Every time you take it back, you sigh and pretend to be tired, but your eyes are full of energy, waiting for you to praise him.
As a result, these days are not satisfied with going downstairs to pick up the courier, and I want to go further myself.
I always feel that it is okay to take a courier, really let him cross the street by himself, I am really 120 uneasy. Several times I didn't promise him.
Today is really difficult, let him go downstairs to buy hamburgers by himself, and have to cross two intersections.
Before going out, I first adjusted the communication equipment, confirmed that I could talk normally, took the money, took the mobile phone, made an appointment to call me at KFC, and then set off with great interest.
He is free, the old mother is waiting at home is really living like a year, thinking about whether he will meet bad people, whether he will encounter a car that runs a red light, whether he will fall...
In order to ease the nervous waiting mood, I began to clean up the books on the shelves, and I couldn't stop working at the beginning, and when I put it away, I suddenly remembered that the phone was muted.
Quickly pick it up and take a look, there are really missed calls, which is really a bit unreliable.
Hurry back, the child has already carried the hamburger he bought and left.
I went to the door and began to report to me, I took 100 yuan, my aunt found me 56 yuan, the money is in this bag. After that, I began to eat a lot, and while eating, I said that what I bought was delicious.
To say that this seven- or eight-year-old child is really awkward.
On the one hand, I am full of attachment to my parents and do not want to sleep by myself at night, on the other hand, I long for independence, and I long for myself to be alone and be a little man.
This small expression of the child's desire for independence also made me think about the mission of a mother.
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A mom's mission
The time that children really need their mothers really doesn't last that long. I'm thankful that even in my days as a stay-at-home mom, I didn't make childcare my whole job.
In the year of the 2008 Beijing Olympic Games, I graduated from graduate school and entered the bank to work, and I became a North Drifter. With her boyfriend at the time, and now her husband, she worked hard to make a home in Beijing.
We both come from the countryside and every step of the way in Beijing is not easy.
Fortunately, buying a house and getting on the car early, when the house price just entered 20,000, it was patchworked together, plus the unit gave a small loan, and the whole family bought a small house, which is a stable residence.
Houses, hukou, tickets, the pressure of the three mountains is one less, and in the next few years, I worked hard to pay off the debt of buying a house, as well as a mortgage. Although I paid back the arrears with a little money, I was still very happy.
Later, the debt was paid off, the child was born, and my job was adjusted to a leisurely nine-to-five to facilitate the care of the children.
Later, when the children reached the age of schooling, because they did not have a hukou, they sold their houses in Beijing and settled in Tianjin and went to school.
After having children, it seems that every decision I make is for the sake of children, and many people will say that I sacrificed too much for children.
But I never felt that I was sacrificing, on the contrary, it was the children who gave me more room to grow and the courage to challenge myself.
Just like I started doing self-media because I wanted to have a freelancing job and spend more time with my children.
So I took precautions, and during the nine-to-five days in Beijing, I began to secretly write articles and make my own accounts.
Although I didn't get rich by writing articles, I also earned some money, which gave me the courage to resign.
After coming to Tianjin, I found a part-time job with stable contributions, which can give free time and a small job.
But as a financial practitioner, having been doing the work in the field of parenting, occasionally it makes me a little frustrated, and I feel like I can do more.
So, as a middle-aged mother, I plunged into the bottom of the "chain of contempt" in the financial industry - insurance.
Selling insurance sounds ugly, but I learned it very hard.
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Middle-aged mother on a new track
I just gave birth to a child, I bought insurance for myself and my husband, because seeing this weak little life, realizing the responsibility on my body, I wanted my child to grow up without worries.
But at that time, I only knew how to buy insurance, did not study insurance products in depth, listened to the recommendation of insurance agents with good relations, and bought two serious illnesses. During this period, in order to take care of relatives' business, I also bought some other insurance.
Since last year, by chance, I have come into contact with insurance brokerage companies, and I have listened to classes for a period of time to gain a clearer understanding of the entire insurance system.
After listening, I was afraid for a while.
At that time, when I bought serious illness insurance, the insurance agent did not mention the matter of health information, nor did he ask me about my health, so I chose no or not.
Of course, I was also glad that at that time, my health was really good, and there was no health notification of the disease.
But what if? In the unlikely event that there is a situation that is not truthfully informed, in case there is trouble in the future settlement of claims, and the premium is paid in vain, what is the point of buying insurance?
Moreover, the agent did not recommend accident insurance and million medical insurance to me at all, which is the basic insurance that should be equipped most.
But I can also understand him, because it is too cheap, only a few hundred yuan, or a year, compared to the thousands of premiums for serious illness insurance, too worthless.
My experience has made me more and more aware that the threshold for selling insurance is very low, but it is difficult to do well.
Not long ago, a friend said that her physical examination found thyroid cysts, breast cysts, and wanted to buy herself a serious illness. It just so happened that she had relatives selling insurance, so I wanted to ask her and told her the results of my physical examination.
Relatives patted their chests and said, your indicators are fine, you can definitely buy, the physical examination report does not have to be provided, and the insurance company does not check.
My friend felt a little unreliable, so he asked me, and at that time I had not officially announced that I was doing insurance.
I thought, no wonder the reputation of insurance is so bad, when buying insurance, the insurance company really does not check, because the cost is too high. However, the insurance company may check the spot check before the expiration of the 2-year hesitation period, and it will check before the claim is settled.
If you do not tell the truth when buying insurance, the insurance company naturally has reasons to refuse the insurance. If you don't say it when you buy it, and don't lose money, won't insurance become a fraud?
In contrast, although I have not done sales, I am really suitable for insurance. Because today, when information is so developed, the era when you can sell insurance with one mouth is gone.
As an insurance broker, I have a vast product library behind me, and I can choose the best of the best and find the most suitable products;
I have more than ten years of experience in risk control in the financial industry, prudence and rigor are my occupational diseases, I will not run trains to fool people with my mouth;
I taught myself law, passed the legal professional qualification certificate, and liked to study the terms of the contract;
I do financial calculations best interest rates, and I can calculate the complex current price of income in insurance products.
I'm not good at words, but I can build my brand with my professionalism and character. So, I made myself an insurance broker.
I am a mother who moved from Beijing to Tianjin for the sake of her children and got a serious job, and I am a mother who makes herself better for her children.
Children are growing, and so am I!
I'll be there for him when he needs me, and I still have my own wonderfulness when he longs to get out of the house and face the world independently.
I think this is the real mission of a mother, a woman!
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