For life, don't regret the choice
——— my bitter optimism
As an old man in his old age, I would like to say to people after the 80s that the choice of lifestyle is completely different for our two generations. However, since you have chosen, don't regret it.
Why did you bring up this topic? Because recently I saw someone on the Internet saying: After the 80s is abolished, there are many house slaves, many car slaves, more debts, more divorces, more single sticks. Instead, there is less money, less hair, and less joy. Those who are married want to get divorced, and those who want to get married can't get married. There is no home that cannot be returned, and there is no home to rely on. There are even more bizarre, simply do not let the children get married and have children, saying that they have children, and when they grow up, they have to work under the drive of others to work as coolies, rather than suffering, it is better not to have children.
I think that the choices we make about lifestyles in our two generations don't matter right or wrong.
In my generation, when we were young, the country was limited by the level of economic development, the lack of materials, and the need to absorb more people to create wealth, so it practiced low wages and more employment. What is advocated is to live within one's means, to be diligent and thrifty, and to work hard. Four or five yuan a month to raise a salary and support a large family, can not not be carefully calculated. Grain is eaten in quantities. The clothes are three years old, the old three years, and the replacement is three years. Living in a public house, but do not have to spend money, but a family of five or six people, that is, thirty or forty square meters, but also a stove to cook, no bathroom, go to the public toilet, in a hundred meters away. I'm getting married, and I'm looking forward to splitting up the house endlessly. My wife has two classmates, working in an airplane manufacturing in Shaanxi, married and have no house, and clean up an abandoned public toilet and use it as a new house. At that time, in shanghai, couples without houses went to the park at dusk on weekends, nailed their marriage certificates to trees, and slept in the forest, just like queqiao meeting. Under such conditions, the husband and wife are harmonious, the family is stable, the pursuit is love, living is feelings, is love. As for private cars, don't think about it. I was a college graduate in the early '60s, with a job at all levels, and I couldn't afford a private car. After the reform and opening up, there is money to buy a car, which has exceeded the age of driving license, and there is no chance of driving in a lifetime. When life is good, but I can't chew it, I can't eat it.
I often say that the life of our generation is that when there are teeth, there is no pot helmet steamed bun, and when there is a pot helmet bun, there is no tooth. But we enjoyed it, never complained, never wavered in our convictions.
Now some people say that the post-80s generation is a waste, and I think it is inappropriate to say so. Reform and opening up, social and economic development, for the post-80s to provide more space to display their talents and abilities, this generation has the confidence, the value of life is also high, the implementation of high consumption, large houses to live, private cars to drive, eat nutrition, wear to catch up with the trend, but because of advanced consumption, Yin eat grain, and complain about more debt, less money, less happiness. Choosing a marriage object is to value money, marriage to a house to car to bride price, more money is not necessarily a good person, heavy things are light, money can not buy love.
This is the choice of a generation, it does not matter whether it is right or wrong, since you have chosen this way of life, do not regret it, let alone complain. We should firmly believe that we will get better and better at faith.
As the saying goes, "Being comfortable is not an adult, and an adult is not comfortable." People begin to consume wealth at the beginning, and all the consumption in adolescence is created and provided by parents. Entering adulthood, from consumers to wealth creators, and wealth creation is a difficult process. Always want to be at ease, can't become a person. When you become an adult, you have the burden of work, family, and raising and educating your children. Especially in middle age, there are old and young, and the work is the backbone, which is the age of bending down to pull the cart, which is arduous and cannot be shirked. At every age stage of man, there are different roles, not to escape, not to complain. In young and middle-aged people, suffering is not bitter, and old age is still bitter, which is the real suffering. And the bitterness or happiness of old age is all made by oneself in one's own life. Only by having the courage to assume the responsibility of each stage of life can we have a good life.
