A female college student Lei Lei recounted her experience of "dating rape", and after watching the show, my heart was very heavy.
Lei Lei is a female college student from other places to Shanghai to study, simple Lei Lei soon met a male barber, the male barber was very good to her, but Lei Lei just treated him as an ordinary friend, after a month of dating, the male barber asked her to attend a friend dinner, Lei Lei gladly went, during the banquet, many people advised Lei Lei to drink, at the beginning she refused, many people said not to drink and not to give face, as a result, Lei Lei drank the first cup, with the first cup also had a second cup, Lei Lei was overwhelmed with alcohol, and soon got drunk. When she woke up, it was already two or three o'clock in the morning, and she found her lying in the hotel with the barber beside her. Lei lei froze, she was overwhelmed, and rushed out of the hotel crying. The barber chased after him on the road, saying he didn't mean it, saying he liked her and so on. After that, Lei Lei never went to the barber again, but after returning from winter vacation, she found herself a lot fatter, accompanied by her classmates, went to the hospital, and the result: 22 weeks pregnant. Later, Lei Lei went to the barber shop to find the male barber, he did not admit it, and his girlfriend was around, not only did not give money, but also humiliated him in every way. By the time Lei Lei went to the male hairdresser the next day, she was already missing. Later, Lei Lei was rescued by the local teenage girl's accidental pregnancy hotline, and only then was she treated, and in the process of induction of labor, there was a difficult birth, and the situation was once very dangerous. At the same time, the psychological shadow and pressure brought to Leilei by this incident have been lingering. This is the typical "dating rape".
I also have a friend Tingting next to me, who also suffered from "dating rape". The story of the two is strikingly similar.
Tingting is a secondary school student, 18 years old came to Beijing, 19 years old because of work to meet Tongji University graduate Li, the same at a dinner, Li's classmates persuaded wine, Tingting drank the first cup also had a second cup, this party lasted until the early morning to end. After the banquet, Li took Tingting to his staff dormitory, and Tingting fell asleep in a daze. I don't know how long it took. Tingting felt that her body was very heavy, only to find that he was pressing on her, and she pushed him hard. He immediately pumped his mouth, saying that he was not human, and said that he liked her as soon as he saw her, and once again assured Tingting that he would be responsible for her. Unlike Lei Lei, Tingting believes that Li likes her and loves her, and he even admires this college student who graduated from a famous university, but he does not know that there are more bastards cultivated in the university. In the days to come, he looked forward to fulfilling Li's promise to her, and Li had never actually said that he loved her at all, and Every time Li looked for her, he was nothing more than sleeping with her. Later, after Li was transferred from Beijing to Guangzhou, Li did not fulfill his promise. The sad part of Tingting is that she is obsessed, and after she has a new boyfriend, she also expects Li to fulfill her commitment and has been hiding and cheating on her boyfriend. She actually acquiesced to "dating rape" to some extent, but this just exacerbated the tragedy of the story and seriously hurt the boyfriend who really loved her.
Dating rape, Lei Lei chose to say no in action, while Tingting chose to acquiesce in action. But what the two have in common is that they did not protect themselves with legal weapons. Many girls are obviously forced to "date rape" without their consent and knowledge, but after the dating rape occurs, many girls will feel that this matter is very humiliating, can not say it, thousands of pain to let themselves bear.
From the experience of these two girls, Leilei has a high IQ, a college student at a prestigious university, but the "sex quotient" is very low, pregnant for 22 weeks, more than 5 months, she did not know.
In the face of "dating rape", how should girls prevent it? To sum up the views of various aspects, there are probably the following points, I hope it will be of some help to simple adolescent girls.
1, the opposite sex to make friends, keep a distance, vigilance. Making friends carelessly can lead you into endless pain. The above Lei Lei paid a tragic price because she was careless in making friends and encountering people. Now, the Internet has developed, and many girls listen to some chat promises on the Internet, think that the Internet and reality are the same, and always think too well of each other. This is dangerous. Some girls have been tricked out by netizens, and there have been many such reports. Beware! When encountering confusion, it is best to talk to parents and elders, and do not wear a protective shield for the soul of the person closest to you.
2, do not easily go to the so-called "friend" date. Just like the two real cases mentioned above, Lei Lei and the hairdresser have known each other for only one month, and they feel that people are very good to her; Tingting was taken to the staff dormitory by Li when she first met Li. When you don't know a person well, it is easy to go to the meeting, which is undoubtedly a sheep into the mouth of the tiger.
3, at the date dinner, do not accept anyone handed you a drink that has been opened, etc. If you leave your original seat and forget to take an open drink, when you come back again, the bottle must not be drunk, either not or a new bottle. No one will have the words "bad guy" or "liar" written on the door of their head, and no one will show their bad intentions on their faces.
4. Learn to say no at a date dinner. The above two examples make men successful because they are both drunk and drunk. Lei Lei also said that she could not drink and did not want to drink, but the other party's friend has been persuading the wine, and said that not drinking is not giving face. At this time, while you are awake, be sure to say no. Whoever wants to drink, you don't drink, losing face is small, losing body is big.
5) Don't trust any man's promises and assurances, especially when he's ready to sleep with you. When a man wants to have sex with you, don't assume that he loves you and likes you. In order to achieve the purpose of sleeping with you, the man at this time must be something good to hear. When a simple girl accepts these lies in its entirety, she is also accepting the source of grief that is about to be sown.
6. Be clean and self-righteous, and correctly understand and contact some sex-related books. The avoidance of certain injuries is strongly related to one's own resistance. If you know some sexual knowledge and can clean yourself up, some harm will be nowhere to be hidden. #鸿水说 #
