Recently, the question of where children go to press the old age money can be described as a lot of controversy -
Some time ago, I also discussed with you who owns the child's money, and found that most parents still tend to help the child keep it first.
So, today, let's talk about the topic of pressing the old money!
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No matter how young the child is, it also needs to spend money
Many parents naturally think that children have no choice, let alone the need to spend money on shopping, so they directly take away his old age money or pocket money, as everyone knows, this is a completely big misunderstanding.
No matter how young the child is, it also needs to spend money. The famous female writer Sanmao once said a very classic sentence: "Even if you are a child, you do not have to worry about food and clothing at home, and when you walk, you still expect a few copper plates to ring in your pocket." ”
What will happen to children who have been confiscated and pressed for their old age money since they were young?
1, bottoming out, spending money without restraint
For children, if they have been deprived of "economic power" by their parents, they may feel aggrieved and unfair because of this, and they may be unrestrained in spending money in the future.
A similar psychological experiment was conducted by a Toronto scholar who divided 6-, 8- and 10-year-olds into small groups, giving each child $4 in pocket money to use at will and observe their reactions.
The result is surprising, those children who usually have pocket money at home, but they know how to save, and did not squander all the pocket money, and usually at home by their parents strictly managed, no money to spend children, all the money at once spent.
Similar incidents are actually quite common:
Before, there were two boys about 14 years old in Chongqing, who spent more than a thousand years old money on the day before the start of school, just to avoid the confiscation of the old age money by their mothers after the start of school.
In summary, whether it is pocket money or pressure money, usually it is still necessary to give a little child appropriately, only by letting them use more exercise can they learn how to manage better.
On the other hand, those children who have not pressed the money since they were young, because they are usually controlled too strictly, either to find a way to hide money, or when they really have money, they completely explode and have the problem of "retaliatory consumption", which should be the result that parents do not want to see.
2, stingy and stingy, will not manage money
We all know that excessive profligacy is a bad habit, but many people ignore that the concept of excessive saving money will actually bring a lot of trouble to children's lives.
Children who have been confiscated by their parents since childhood are often prone to this deformed view of money, even if they grow up with money on hand, they are not willing or dare not spend it, life is trembling, every time they spend a sum of money, there will be a strong sense of guilt, obviously they have worked hard, but they still can't use it openly.
And this personality not only affects their mood, but also has a great negative impact on social interaction.
After all, in the adult world, there are some personal contacts, and sometimes too calculated to cut the door, which often affects you to make friends.
This made me think of yesterday's Valentine's Day, saw a post on the Internet, there are many girls complaining about their boyfriends too slammed the door, Valentine's Day is not willing to spend money to buy flowers, copy a bunch of flower expressions on WeChat to send to themselves, but also said that it took a lot of thought, and there are more to send 0.52 to their girlfriends as Valentine's Day red envelopes.
In order to save some money, many people "persuade points" in the comment area.
The scene is somewhat inexplicably funny, but it is also a wake-up call: misers and iron roosters are not very popular, if you do not want your children to embark on this road in the future, you still need to cultivate their financial quotients from an early age, and some money can be appropriately spent on them.
Learning to manage the pressure on old money is a "compulsory course" for children's growth
There is a sentence in "Poor Dad Rich Dad":
"Even if you don't teach your children about money, there will be other people who will teach you in the future, and this person may be a creditor, a profiteer, a policeman, or a liar."
Instead of handing over the opportunity of education to others, it is better to start cultivating children's concept of money from an early age, starting from pressing the age of money, which is also a "compulsory course" in the process of children's growth.
Before, I also shared with you several ways to help children manage the pressure of money, such as the rational distribution method, guiding children to learn to consume rationally, using money in practice, or shopping for wealth management products, depositing in banks, etc. Today will not be repeated.
Let's focus on how to use the pressure money to guide children to pursue their dreams.
Many people mention money, may think of whether to save, or not to spend, these options, and the way to spend may be to give children cram schools or buy learning tools and the like, but forget to use this money to guide them to explore their personal interests and potential, pursue their dreams.
This Winter Olympics, Malta's only participant + opening ceremony flag bearer, the story behind her is moving.
From the age of 18 began to learn snowboarding, as a late start, no resources, and not famous athletes, she paid more than others, in order to buy a good set of equipment, she had to do odd jobs, usually also need to rely on frugality to support herself, to support her dreams.
Although she was ridiculed as an ignorant pipe dream to participate in the Olympic Games, she still insisted on loving it, and when she was training in the United States, in order to save some rent, she lived in a caravan every day, and in the winter, there was no air conditioning in the caravan, and the water and toothpaste were frozen in the morning, and the conditions were extremely difficult.
But she still gritted her teeth and insisted on practicing, not giving up hope, and finally represented the country in the Winter Olympics, watching her happily eat Chinese bean bags, standing proudly in the competition venue, we seemed to see the light.
Therefore, parents, you may also try to see if your children have any specialties or hobbies, such as videography, dancing or sports, and then encourage children to put their old money into their dream list, and guide them to save more money to achieve their dreams, is this quite meaningful!