Girls tend to enter puberty earlier than boys of the same age, especially under the premise of better and better living conditions, many primary school girls in the fifth and sixth grades have experienced changes in physical development and menstrual phases.
At the same time as the physical characteristics are becoming more mature, adolescent girls have also undergone obvious psychological changes.
While the boys are still playing the game of fighting and killing, the girls have begun to discuss the stars they like, the novels they love, and their emotional and psychological development is obviously earlier than that of the boys, especially many girls with sensitive and delicate minds, and their minds will be filled with a lot of things that have nothing to do with learning.
Girls in the early puberty are actually more confused, they are not like boys, they can take a lot of things that are ashamed to say to the surface to discuss, and even find ways to understand. Especially emotionally, they are more fanciful, weaving all kinds of beautiful dreams for themselves.
If they do not get the timely care and help of their parents during this period, many girls will be deviated by bad friends and wrong values.
However, for adolescent children, the nagging and teaching of parents is often the most "annoying", often the more parents say, the more rebellious the child, so for the education of adolescent girls, often use another technique.
If your daughter is over 14 years old, be sure to take her to 3 places to see, witnessing with your own eyes is more effective than repeated nagging.
The first one: the road at three or four o'clock in the morning and the office building in the commercial center
Today, when the video live broadcast is crazy to create Internet celebrities, many girls agree with the "useless theory of learning", believing that many people are not college students, and they will still have money to spend and have a happy life.
Take your kids to the road at three or four o'clock in the morning! Look at how hard the sanitation workers work in the cold and windy early hours of the morning, when others are still asleep in the warm bedding.
Take your kids to the central office building! Look at the elegant and confident white-collar workers, see what a luxurious office building looks like, what comfortable office conditions are like, and where the working meals are.
Working in the cold wind, or working comfortably in a warm, air-conditioned room, let the child choose what kind of life he wants to live?
The easiest hardship to eat is learning! The hard work of studying is only a few years, but the life in exchange is completely different.
Tell the story of Teacher Zhang Guimei to the girls, tell the stories of the girls who have come out of the mountains through learning, and let the children know how knowledge has reversed their destiny.
Second: late night bar
In the documentary "Guarding the Liberation of the West", every late at night, the police station's reporting telephone calls rise and fall, most of which are because of drunken fights and drunken indecency incidents
The drunks were dressed up brightly and beautifully dressed like flowers, but they were all drunk as mud, full of nonsense, ugly, and did not even remember what happened.
When my daughter reaches the age of 14, she must be taken to a late-night bar and nightclub, and take her to the late-night police station.
Let the child know that there is no shortage of young and beautiful women and rhetorical men in the world, and understand that youth and face are the least valuable capital;
Let the child see those who are brightly dressed but drunk and lying next to vomit, see those who are beautiful but delirious, and understand how terrible it is to resist temptation and have no self-control;
Let the child look at the drunk people at the police station and understand why impulse is the devil.
Adolescent children are a stage of fluctuating values, on the one hand they begin to build their own opinions and cognitions, thinking that they are the truth; on the other hand, the lack of knowledge of the world, leading to their thoughts and decisions childish and ridiculous. This leads to adolescent children who are prone to deviations and go astray.
Girls think that as long as they twist in front of the mobile phone camera, there will be countless tips, fame and fortune. They believe that as long as they can marry a rich man, they will have no worries about food and clothing for the rest of their lives.
More and more girls think that beauty and love are more important than knowledge, but they do not know that appearance is the least valuable wealth and will one day wither and wither.
If the three views are not correct, how sad will there be in the future life.
Third: Obstetrics and Gynecology Department of the Hospital
An obstetrician-gynecologist once said that once a 16-year-old girl came to do surgery and came with four or five boys because the girls did not know whose child they were pregnant with.
The most terrible thing is that several parties do not think about it, they think it is just a small thing, but they do not know how much harm this operation will cause to the girl's body, and they are neither responsible nor conscious.
When my daughter reaches the age of 14, she must be taken to the obstetrics and gynecology department and the door of the operating room to see how much physical and psychological pain the girls who have not protected themselves have to endure.
For adolescent children, the most feared thing for parents is early love, especially parents with daughters, once the child crosses the line in early love, it is easy to cause lifelong damage to the body and spirit.
However, many parents are reluctant to do love education and physiological education for their children, and they believe that such education is taking the initiative to bring their children "bad" and "deviate".
At the same time, the "sweet pet drama" and "hegemonic drama" that fill the screen, the brainless network novel and the live video broadcast of various shows of love are all doing a wrong emotional guidance for children.
Many girls are in their 20s, know nothing about physical health, and can't handle the relationship between two people in love. They believe that love is the first in life, think that loving each other is "selfless" dedication, and even think that domestic violence is a manifestation of the other party's love for themselves.
If parents do not correct their children's wrong concept of love in time and do not carry out physiological education for their children in time, the child will become a "love brain" that does not distinguish between right and wrong and blindly dedicates.
The daughter is the treasure in the hands of her parents, and we hope that she will be happy in the future, however, many girls are now cultivated to love brains, weak in ability, and even have problems with values.
Writer Steve said in the book "Raising Girls": The living space of girls has become more and more complex and dangerous. They are destined to be richer and more difficult than ours in the future. The mission of parents is to raise a girl who is strong and independent.
At the same time, he also pointed out that if you want to raise strong girls, you must give them the right love, and at the same time, you must fight against the forces that may pull them into the trough.
There are adolescent daughters in the family, parents must not talk about the daughter to raise a "small family", but to enhance the child's vision, expand the child's pattern, let the child understand the story of excellent women, and give the child more guidance on the three views.
Only in this way will girls be more determined and calm through this period of adolescent confusion and have a more brilliant life.