Wen | high baby
She is a single mom and is 59 years old. But the gray hair and the wrinkles crisscrossing her face made her look at least 70 years old.
She retired 4 years ago with a pension of $2,500. However, after paying her salary every month, only five or six hundred yuan came to her.
Where did the nearly two thousand dollars go? She said she spent it on her daughter.
Her daughter is in her 30s and has a family and no regular job. She was worried that her daughter's future life would not be guaranteed, so she took out nearly 2,000 yuan from her retirement salary of 2,500 yuan every month and bought insurance for her daughter.
After 15 years, she said, the insurance company will be able to pay her daughter a fixed salary every month.
Someone asked her: Is the little money you have left to spend?
Each time, she replied with a bitter smile:
Somewhat nervous. The clothes they wear are all bought for me by my sisters. Chai rice oil and salt or whatever, eat as much as you want, and don't eat if you don't. No way.
On the floor of her kitchen, there was a food bag with a few dried potatoes and a few thin eggplants.
She said she bought it when the market was about to close.
At that time, it was cheap to buy vegetables, and potatoes were always given eggplant. You don't know this, do you? Hey, a lot of people don't know.
She smiled triumphantly, pointed to the eggplants that shrugged their heads, and said.
Outside the kitchen, is a little balcony. The balcony was full of all sorts of large and small courier boxes, as well as some empty drink bottles.
Those were bought by my daughter, and young people like to shop online. No way.
She smiled softly as she spoke.
These things are not bought for free, these cardboard boxes, drink bottles, can be sold for money. You see, this, this... It's all money!
As she spoke, she opened the kitchen door and went to the balcony to sort through the boxes.
"There are also many selling, and you can sell for thirty or forty every month!" A week's worth of vegetable money is enough. ”
She closed the balcony door gently and went back to the kitchen, looking through the dappled glass windows at the cardboard boxes on the balcony in the distance. The corners of her mouth were smiling, but the crow's feet at the corners of her eyes became deeper because of her smile.
Why doesn't my daughter buy her own insurance?
Someone asked her.
"She doesn't have a fixed job!" Last year, I helped people sell clothes for a year, and there were more than three thousand yuan a month, which was ok. However, this year, I will not do it, saying that I am too tired and have less money. No way. ”
"So she didn't save any money last year?"
"Not saved, young man, at a great expense. No way. ”
"Then why didn't she go looking for a regular job?"
"This kid has a low education and won't go to high school after high school." Without a good education, where to go to find a fixed job? No way. ”
"Then why not let the children read more books?"
"She herself didn't want to read, saying that studying was too hard, and we could only rely on her." Alas, no way! ”
She is 59 years old and takes nearly 2,000 yuan a month from her 2,500 yuan pension to buy insurance for her 30-year-old daughter. In order to allow her daughter to receive a fixed salary from the insurance company every month after 15 years.
Fifteen years later, she's 74 years old.
There is a word called nibbling old. But her child is not eating the old, she is devouring her mother. She devoured her mother's old age, and she swallowed her mother's life in its entirety.
But who is to blame?
At the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics, Gu Ailing, who is "strong in strength, high in appearance, talented, good in character and good in achievements", turned out to be a success and successfully attracted everyone's attention.
Many people are sighing: Gu Ailing simply satisfies all my imagination of a beautiful girl!
In fact, she is an all-round sports girl. In addition to skiing, long-distance running, basketball, gymnastics, yoga, horseback riding, football, rock climbing, archery and other activities, Gu Ailing also has all kinds of hands.
In fact, in addition to sports, Gu Ailing also has piano, ballet, vocal music and other artistic specialties.
However, so many hobbies did not delay her studies. Last year, she graduated from high school a year early and was admitted to Stanford University in the United States with a high score of SAT 1580 (out of 1600 points).
Her middle school principal said of her: It is rare for a student like her to be able to combine so many studies and sports so well.
Isn't this what every mom dreams of raising her daughter to be?
So, behind Gu Ailing, what kind of mother does she have?
Gu Ailing's mother, whose name is Gu Yan, studied in the Department of Chemical Engineering of Peking University as an undergraduate, went to the United States to continue her studies after graduation, and then stayed on Wall Street.
Gu Yan said that at Stanford, she studied with the best people in the world. There she saw the sky out there and learned how the best people in the world thought. By the time she graduated, she was the student with the most job offers in her class.
When she was in college, Gu Yan was a member of the Peking University Short Track Speed Skating Team and a ski instructor.
Gu Yan said that she did not deliberately train her daughter to ski. However, the 2-year-old daughter has been able to ski since she can walk.
When the reporter asked how she had raised such a good daughter. She thought hard for a while before saying that when Ailing first went to school, the teacher told her not to correct the child's typos casually, which would hit the child's creativity; praise their intelligence less and praise their efforts more.
She said she did just that.
Gu Yan said that in fact, she did not support her daughter learning to slide freely, because the action of flipping in the air was too dangerous. However, her daughter's love of skiing made her choose to compromise and silently support.
Gu Yan is a very emotionally stable mother, when her daughter is sick, injured, and the situation is frequent, she can always deal with it calmly and calmly.
Gu Ailing and her mother have a very close relationship, and when she mentions her mother, she will proudly say:
Every kid thinks their mom is the best, but I really think my mom is the best mom. My mom does more than the mothers of other children, and she's always doing everything alone.
As a Chinese, Gu Yan is well aware of the advantages of Chinese education. Therefore, every summer vacation, she would send Gu Ailing back to Beijing to take a math class in Huangzhuang, Haidian.
And every time he finishes his Olympiad class in Haidian, Gu Ailing, who returns to the United States, will become a bully.
There is no mother in this world who does not love her child. And loving children is what a hen does.
We can't say that the mom at the beginning of the article doesn't love her own child.
When the child was young, she thought that studying was bitter, and she was a sad child who was a mother. There was no way, so it was up to her; the child grew up, there was no fixed job, and she worried about the child's life later. There was no way, so he took out nearly 2,000 yuan from his retirement salary of 2,500 yuan to buy insurance for his children.
How can it be said that she doesn't love children? However, her method is wrong, she is actually harming her own children.
Gu Yan said, I graduated from Stanford, I told my daughter, you do not have to be admitted to Stanford, more importantly, you will not give up studying for the rest of your life.
That's what she said and that's what she did. She said it was better to talk than to teach by example.
We as parents cannot be with our children all our lives, and we cannot become Gu Yan every one. However, we should all understand what the best maternal love looks like.
The best maternal love is not how much wealth is left to the child, and it is not to rely on exploiting our own life in exchange for the life that the child wants. The best mother's love is to give the child the right education and help the child to become a person who can create value, or at least a person who can support himself.
The best maternal love is to be an example for a child.
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About the author: Gao Baobao
He wrote novels at the age of 15 and was admitted to the Graduate School of the University of Chinese in Hong Kong at the age of 38, with 20 years of experience in Chinese education.
She single-handedly raised her daughter to a Bachelor of Education (First Class Honours) from the University of Hong Kong and a Master of Education from the University of London's Number One School of Education, ranked no. 1 in the world. Only one year after graduation, the little girl's annual salary has reached 500,000.
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