Does building resilience depend on multiple blows or unconditional acceptance? If parents can understand the working mechanism of the brain, they will try to make their children happy. Instead of being sad. Man's inner strength depends

Does building resilience depend on multiple blows or unconditional acceptance?

If parents can understand the working mechanism of the brain, they will try to make their children happy. Instead of being sad.

Man's inner strength depends on the positive experience of the brain. In order to adapt to the world, humans are inherently more concerned with bad experiences. Eventually the brain evolved an inherently negative bias.

"Only when positive experiences outweigh negative experiences in a ratio of at least 3:1 can people really start to thrive and thrive"

"If the parent is angry with the child, the child will feel very anxious, at this time the anger of the other party activates the amygdala in the child's brain, and the amygdala sends a signal to the hypothalamus, and the hypothalamus summons stress hormones such as adrenal glands, adrenocoridal and norepinephrine. Next, the child's heart beats faster, his mind runs at high speed, and he will feel panicked and sad. “

The brain's hippocampus forms an initial neural tracking of this experience, which then directs the brain to consolidate it in a cortical memory network.

So, the stress, anxiety, irritation, and hurt that children have felt in the past will make them even more helpless in dealing with these emotions tomorrow. As a result, it is difficult to face more pressure.

Maybe the fear of the past can force people to work harder to get a certain good performance, but this does not mean that there are good feelings in the heart. Nor does it mean that it can really be stressed. And it may be because of self-criticism, internal friction, negative experience, can not withstand a lot of pressure

———— reading "The Brain Happiness Code" has a feeling