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1. Two things to do in enlightenment education
From birth to puberty, it can become a stage of enlightenment education.
The first trick to intellectual enlightenment is language input. Talk to your child a lot and take it to read and recite as early as possible. Don't always use a child's tone, just express your interest occasionally.
The first tip of emotional enlightenment is to have more contact with children.
Cultivating a child's interest in reading is the best and easiest way to develop intelligence, so that intelligence can grow not only by addition, but by multiplication.
At first, when he takes a book to tell a child, he may not listen intently, listen to a few words and go to play with something else, or he may grab it and turn it over, or even tear it up, which is normal. Children often do not obediently listen to you, sometimes may want to know more about other content, or miss do not want to listen. Don't force, don't have to talk from front to back, the child will talk about which page he turns, or feel that he does not want to listen to it and will not talk anymore, come to Japan for a long time, go with the flow, do not let the child think that telling stories is a boring thing, the interaction is always pleasant. As for tearing books, let him tear a few books, he is feeling the world with his small hands, and "tearing" is also a kind of reading.
In terms of choosing books, it is roughly from simple to difficult, but do not overly consider what to read at how many years old; as wide as possible, but do not pile up at once, misplaced to create a sense of shortage, so as not to make children irritable with too many books; the most important thing is to choose several words at the same time; do not use cards to teach children to recognize words, you can hang some, as a toy, not as a learning tool.
Toddler poetry recitation. Treat ancient poems as ordinary children's songs; don't be too hasty, don't be too purposeful; and often recite them at a fixed moment or place, such as a nap after a meal or before going to bed.
Don't confuse enlightenment with "early learning." Don't pit schooling against happiness. Enlightenment education, the whole learning process is accompanied by a pleasant emotional experience, activating the child's interest, the form is not important, the feeling is important.
2. "Generational upbringing" separates the connection between lives
Many mothers seriously underestimate the value of mother-child coexistence, cannot coordinate the contradictions between their natural roles and social roles well, and often give up their obligations as mothers for some immediate practical benefits. Without these two things: rich language communication and the warmth of maternal love, the normal life potential of young children is likely to be unactivated.
Insisting on "intergenerational help" instead of "intergenerational support" is actually very simple, as long as the child can basically see his parents every day and often have the opportunity to have close contact with his parents, this can be. Parents and children spend an hour together every day, and the nourishment of the child is enough to grow normally.
3. "Boarding" is a bad thing
Emotional nourishment in the early years is extremely important... Warm embrace, loving eyes, gentle words, and skin-to-skin kissing are indispensable things for an intellectual life to grow normally.
At an early age, he was eager to develop his social attributes, pulling up seedlings to promote growth, reducing the time he spent with his parents early, and his original natural needs could not be met, so it was difficult for social attributes to grow normally and could not be expressed normally.
Children who have been boarding for a long time are subconsciously afraid of being abandoned by their parents and have resentment towards their parents, so they often show grievances, rejections, excessive entanglement and irrationality.
I don't think you should board before you go to college.
4. The most important condition for kindergartens is the teacher
Whether you really respect the child, whether you really love the child - it is very easy to examine, to see if the children like her.
The teacher will find some shortcomings of the child, and what parents have to do is not to go home and tell the child all the truth, but to focus on how to help the child solve the problem.
5. Psychological preparation before the child enters the kindergarten
The first is to evoke children's yearning for kindergarten. For example, play outside the kindergarten often in advance.
Secondly, in training children's self-care ability in life, it is advisable not to be silent and not to be public.
The third is that parents themselves have to overcome separation anxiety from their children.
Fourth, don't attack poison with poison. For example, deliberately practicing separation.
6, how to solve the problem of children are not willing to go to kindergarten
First, respond to your child's vulnerability with a relaxed and pleasant attitude.
Second, all words and deeds about kindergartens should be positive. When children are reluctant to go out in the morning, find ways to attract children to kindergarten, or make positive suggestions. Do not let the child go out in a deceptive way, some parents force their children into kindergartens through scolding, which is even more undesirable.
Third, don't make going to kindergarten a "task." Parents and children never "screw" together, children can form a good understanding and self-control, become "sensible". If adults never trust the child's rationality, think that the child does not understand things, and needs to be forcibly controlled, then the child will often use the behavior of "not understanding things" to prove that the parents' prevention is necessary - this is really a delicate problem, realized, that is, the sea and the sky.
7. Some suggestions for choosing a kindergarten
First, a good kindergarten is a place to "play", not a place to "go to school".
The task of early childhood education is enlightenment, not the instillment of simple knowledge that is scattered and fragmented. Enlightenment education must be free, happy, and the intellectual energy in the child's body can be stimulated.
Children are not required to sit obediently and listen to lessons, do not need children to go home to write written homework, and are not enslaved by "learning", only happy play, which is a normal kindergarten.
Second, a good kindergarten must have a good pie, and a good pie is felt from the beginning of enrollment.
Some so-called "key kindergartens", plaques hang more, let people queue up overnight, but just send a queue number, and then use the test to screen children, but also to test the parents. There are also some "special kindergartens" that sell certain specific skills and make high fees. The means to achieve "characteristics" is to let people who know a little English or painting and dancing teach children lessons. As a result, children can not learn much knowledge and talent, nor do they get better artistic influence, but they are deprived of a lot of play time, forced to learn, but the foreign language and painting talents are snuffed out.
Many people mistakenly think that they can buy education with money... The main value of the kindergarten is reflected in the invisible things, which need to be examined with care.
Third, under the premise of safety, the fewer rules and the freer the kindergarten, the better.
Kindergarten for a reason: Except for some activities and meals that require time uniformity, the rest of the time children have room for their own choices. You can choose to be late and leave early, you can choose not to take a nap, you can choose how much to eat at each meal, you can choose to go to the bathroom at any time, when the teacher leads everyone to sing, you can sing if you want to sing, and if you don't want to sing, you can not open your mouth without being blamed. Without competition and competition, children do not need to struggle with how many small red flowers they get every day, whether they get praise, whether they get good results... Children who enjoy full freedom are more orderly.
To examine how a kindergarten is, there is a simple way to do it, that is, the children are happy here or not. For example, in the morning, see if most children are happy to walk in, or clamor to refuse to go in.
Sorting: children are happy and willing to go to kindergarten; teachers are of good quality, kind and patient with children; close to home, convenient pick-up; good hardware conditions, rich teaching aids and books; greater fame and many honors.
(This article is excerpted from Yin Jianli's "The Most Beautiful Education is the Simplest")