Every couple who enters the marriage hall hopes to be with each other to the end, but how much can they really do? Husband and wife have to experience too many ups and downs along the way, and once they become husband and wife, they become a community of destiny.
Be able to face the future tribulations together, and also enjoy the sweetness of marriage together. When one party is sick, it is your duty and responsibility to take care of the other party.
People say that there is no filial piety in front of the bed for a long time, there is no blood relationship between husband and wife, it is not easy to take care of each other, and long-term care will also bring great pressure to one party.
You should be thankful to be able to get such inseparable care, and if the other person's efforts become a matter of course, the feelings of the two people will also change.
Just like the following husband, after taking care of his sick wife for twelve years, he has a long-term relationship with the divorced nanny, and the daughter is on the side of her father, saying that her father actually has words of suffering.
The sick wife was bedridden for 12 years, but the husband had a home outside
Ms. Feng, 54 years old, had to quit her job to recuperate at home due to severe diabetes. Since the 12 years since he fell ill, his husband has been inseparable from himself and taking care of him. Three meals a day were served, and the husband never complained that it was his duty as a husband to take care of his sick wife.
Five years ago, Ms. Feng was unable to stand normally due to complications of diabetes and began to lose her ability to take care of herself. The husband also has a lot of financial pressure, and if he continues like this, he can't even keep his job.
So he wanted to find a nanny who would cook food for his wife. This solves the problem of eating for his wife, and he can work and earn money with peace of mind.
Ms. Feng also agreed with her husband's idea, and the husband finally found a divorced nanny, Wen Yao. Wen Yao is also very considerate, in order to facilitate the care of Ms. Feng, she rented a small house near Ms. Feng's home.
Three meals a day are prepared for Ms. Feng, and then Ms. Feng's husband comes to her residence to get food. After five years of delivering food in this way, Ms. Feng has never seen the nanny her husband is looking for.
But women are sensitive, and she finds that since finding a nanny, her husband has come home less and less often. Sometimes the husband still does not go home for several days on the grounds of business trips, and now he and his husband have little communication, and every time the husband comes back, he sleeps in a separate bed with himself, and sleeps directly upside down without chatting.
Until 2020, due to the deterioration of the leg condition of the feng lady, she had to undergo amputation surgery and install a prosthesis. Ms. Feng began to resume training and was able to get out of bed and move.
I used to think that my husband was disgusted with his bedridden and increased the burden, so he became very indifferent to himself. Later, Ms. Feng learned that her husband had lived with the nanny outside.
Knowing the truth, Ms. Feng could not accept it, and she went to the nanny's rental house to ask them for an explanation. After arriving at Wen Yao's rental house, Ms. Feng saw her husband's clothes folded on the bed, and her husband also told him that he was ready to return to the family.
But Ms. Feng was not reconciled, she blocked Wen Yao's door and scolded, and the neighbors around her came to hear it and advised Ms. Feng to be considerate of her husband.
The husband took care of his sick wife for twelve years, and his inner pain was unknown
After the husband arrived, he also began to tell his helplessness, he was a college student who was admitted from the countryside, and after marrying Ms. Feng, who worked in a state-run unit, his wife's family looked down on his rural origin, and his life after marriage was very depressed, and his relationship with his wife has not been very good.
Ever since my wife fell ill, I have been around to take care of her. Unexpectedly, one illness was twelve years, during which time the wife ignored her own care and often spoke aggressively.
Ms. Feng's daughter also stood up and said that for her father to take care of her mother, her father did his best to do his best. But the mother was too selfish and strong, and never considered her father's feelings.
Now her parents' marriage is not happy, and she understands her father's feelings very well. Finally, after mediation, Ms. Feng's husband finally agreed to return to the family.
When couples are in trouble, they also need to say "thank you"
If there is a difficulty between husband and wife, taking care of each other is a should and an obligation. But what can persist to the end also requires emotional maintenance. It is not easy for Ms. Feng's husband to take care of her for 12 years without complaint or regret, and as a wife who receives care, she should know how to be grateful.
After there is no affection between husband and wife, it is meaningless to reluctantly. Although Ms. Feng's husband promised to return to the family, if Ms. Feng did not know the change and did not know how to thank her husband for his efforts, it was still difficult for them to maintain this relationship.
Ms. Feng is accustomed to giving orders, her personality is too strong, and her husband who has suppressed her heart for a long time will not be able to support it. If you meet an empathetic woman again, the husband is likely to change his heart.
But in any case, cheating in marriage is still immoral. Everyone can pursue their own happiness, but all need to be within the scope of the law.
How to manage the future marriage between Ms. Feng and her husband has become the main problem, and if Ms. Feng wants to save her husband's heart, she must make changes herself, start to care for and understand her husband, and pay her feelings with her heart, rather than just morally kidnapping each other and taking each other's efforts for granted.