Author| Inspector (1607 words, about 4 minutes to read)
I often hear the old people around me say: "From the way children look when they are young, they can know what their personality is when they grow up, and whether they have any success when they grow up." ”
Because many people believe that a child's childhood experience will have a certain impact on his life.
Some children look stupid and stupid, but as the children grow up, the shadow of "stupid" gradually fades.
There are also some children, when they are young, the performance of people is a "smart bean", but as the child grows, this feeling becomes less and less obvious, and many parents even say that the child is far less intelligent than when he was a child.
★ Why do children, as they grow older, have no more of the "smart energy" they once had?
An old tsinghua principal once revealed that many parents were "deceived" by their children's "fake intelligence"
These "fake smart" children are not good at turning knowledge into productivity, but are better at doing questions and exams, and this rigid theory is often difficult to adapt to the ever-changing nature of society.
There are many children who are not really smart, their intelligence is only manifested in the performance of better grades, in fact, the real intelligence is not only excellent grades, there are many aspects of performance, such as a person's emotional intelligence, a person's social skills and so on.
If children are only better at learning, then they will not be able to survive well after entering society.
Children are really smart, maybe the grades are average, but the performance is relatively excellent in all aspects, and when they grow up, they can simply mix in society.
There are many "fake smart" children in life, especially these three types are the most obvious, and I hope that parents can pay attention.
Low compressive resistance
Many children grow up under the excessively strict protection of their parents, children do not know how to face setbacks, the ability to resist setbacks and pressure is very poor, a little bit of pressure can not resist, dare not face.
Not long ago, there was a news that a junior high school student, because of his learning problems was blamed by his mother, did not resist the blow, and finally jumped from the teaching building, ending his living life, which made people very sorry.
In fact, everyone has a bad exam, the exam is not a big deal, the exam is just to test their recent learning, do not need to care too much about these. Find the reason for the poor test and fight for it next time, instead of choosing to end your life.
On the road ahead, there will be many setbacks, and if even this small setback cannot be resisted, then it will be difficult to live a glorious life in the future.
●Therefore, parents should exercise their children's ability to resist stress.
Can not overemphasize the importance of achievements, to let children have a peaceful attitude towards achievements, and have a good ability to resist pressure, is a necessary condition for survival in the future society.
The pressure of every adult is very large, if you can't face even a small setback, if you can't resist even a little pressure, then it will be difficult to survive in society.
Inattentiveness and no effect
Some students seem to be studying hard every day, but their academic performance is always not improving.
It is not that his brain is not easy to learn, but he has not found the right method, is not attentive enough, and has not studied and studied with his heart, but is just a kind of "fake learning" appearance, just a model.
This way is useless, whether in learning or in life and work, this method is not advisable, do not concentrate, no achievements, and will eventually be eliminated and replaced, can not get any achievements.
Weak hands-on ability
There are some children, his learning ability is particularly strong, but the hands-on ability is very weak, as long as it involves hands-on things, it will be a mess, and even their own life is difficult to take care of, such children are difficult to survive in society.
Because to survive in society, it is not only possible to rely on a good brain, but also not to have the ability to do it. A person, even if he has good grades, if he does not even have the ability to take care of himself, he cannot survive in this society.
● Multi-faceted comprehensive development will make children have enough ability to cope with society.
Parents can't stay with their children forever, they can protect their children very well, and they always have to face some setbacks. Properly letting them experience setbacks is actually a kind of exercise for them, and they can better face the future path.
● The child's hands-on ability should also be cultivated, and there are many things that need to be completed by himself in the future.
Without hands-on ability but only ideas, the task cannot be completed. Therefore, parents can be appropriately lazy, let the child do more, in the process of work, can also exercise the child's thinking, so that their hands and feet are more flexible, the head is more clever.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
I hope that parents will put aside the idea that "children's good academic performance is smart, and poor grades will not be successful", and combine the characteristics of children in many ways to cultivate their ability in life and emotional intelligence.
Parents, have you trained your child's emotional intelligence?
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