Text: Fish Daddy
Source: Raising Boys (ID: Breedboy)
During the Spring Festival, I feel that the rhythm of life is easily disrupted.
But we must ensure that the child's work and rest rules are good.
Especially when the school is about to start, it is necessary to adjust the child's work and rest time.
Don't let your child stay up late, because the harm is really great.
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Nowadays, sleeping late has become a fad.
There is even a saying called "late sleep syndrome", which many urban people suffer from.
Some people think that this is fashionable, and sleeping late is the time for their own dialogue with themselves; others say that it is helpless, forced by the pressure of life.
As it slowly seeps into children's lives, parents need to be vigilant.
Because adequate sleep is one of the prerequisites for a child's growth and healthy growth.
More and more children generally go to bed late, and the potential harm caused to children by sleeping late is unknown to parents.
Let's look at the children around us, how many of them can go to bed before 9:30?
Even sometimes when I stay up late to write, there are children shouting downstairs at 12 o'clock in the evening, especially on weekends.
I think of when we went to sleep after dark watching an episode or two of TV or reading an extracurricular book.
It is true that the times are different, but the needs of the body are still the same.
This is especially true for growing children, and adequate sleep is more conducive to children's long bodies.
Many parents say that their children are excited at night, can't sleep, and sleeping has become a big problem.
Sleep is not good, the problem is even greater.
Because the secretion of growth hormone in deep sleep is conducive to the improvement of immunity in the body, including physical immunity and cellular immunity. If your child gets sick frequently, have you considered this factor?
The importance of sleep to the human body can be especially reflected in the physical health of the elderly.
Young people do not feel obvious because their bodies can withstand it.
I found that my grandmother at home was particularly susceptible to illness if she didn't sleep well at night.
And when she sleeps well, she will be refreshed, so I can tell from her snoring what her mental state will be the next day.
While the child's body is developing, sleep is more important.
Children who lack sleep are particularly prone to drowsiness when they go to school during the day, and they are also prone to wandering in class.
Children who go to bed early have higher qi and blood, the brain runs smoothly, the memory is good, and the reading is more effective with half the effort.
And lack of sleep can have a great impact on mood, irritability, irritability, difficult to calm, and even show excessive stress reactions that cannot fall asleep, and the more sleep deprivation, the more excited their emotions are.
When the mood is high, blood pressure, breathing, and heartbeat will accelerate, if you are in a state of excessive excitement for many years, can the body be healthy?
If you do not lay a good physical foundation for your child when you are a child, can your child withstand it in a high-intensity learning environment and social competition in the future?
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Let go of the things in your hands and accompany your child to sleep on time at night.
If you are still allowing your child to sleep late, then you must first change yourself, the whole family mobilizes, and protects your child's sleep.
The formation of children's good habits, in the final analysis, the guidance of parents is the key.
In a family, from birth, a child's behavior habits are influenced by the person who takes care of his living life.
You procrastinate at night, chase the drama and stay up late, and you have not arranged the child, and the child naturally does not sleep.
If you wash your child on time, tell bedtime stories, and turn off the lights to sleep, your child will also be on time.
Therefore, first reflect on whether you have paid attention to this problem and done it seriously.
However, many parents are forced to go to bed late, but this does not mean that their children will go to bed late.
I'm a late sleeper because I have to read and write in quiet nights. My wish though is to go to bed as early as possible. I know that children can't sleep late.
So no matter when, I will first put down the matter at hand, accompany the child to sleep first, and wait for him to fall asleep. I get up again to read and write, which can also be used as a rest. Doing so will not disrupt your child's routine.
Even if there are friends at home, I will let the child's mother accompany the child to sleep first.
The rules of work and rest must be observed, not for children, but also for parents themselves.
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If your child sleeps well, the sleeping environment is the key.
At night, it is best not to let children contact tv, computer, mobile phone and other fluorescent screens at home, because these are particularly easy to make children addicted, do not want to go to sleep, some children play mobile phone games, do not sleep without passing. His parents couldn't do anything with him, so why let him play with his mobile phone at night?
If you read together before going to bed, it will be better to read books and listen to stories together.
I found that when the children were in the country, they slept very early, sometimes going to bed at 8:30.
Because the nights in the countryside are quiet and life is simple. After eating early, go out for a walk and have fun for a while, and then go home to wash up after dark.
My son knew he couldn't watch TV at night, so he went to bed and pestered me to tell me a few picture book stories. After drinking the milk, I went to sleep.
Quiet environment, kids slept well.
After arriving in the city, because of the fast pace of life, time becomes tight.
Eat late and go to bed late. So no matter how hard you try, it will be after 9 o'clock.
Sometimes there is more to the family, and the child refuses to go to bed by himself, occasionally until 10 o'clock.
Fortunately, there is no habit of going to bed late, and by 10 o'clock, the child is basically clamoring to sleep.
At this time, we as parents should reflect on how to make children go to bed earlier.
Children of different ages sleep time reference, the younger the child needs more time
Whether in the country or in the city, the home should be quiet at night.
Children will fall asleep more easily.
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What should I do if my child can't sleep?
This is a problem that many parents encounter.
Some time ago, some mothers also said, "The child does not sleep every day when he naps, and he is noisy in bed, so he has to beat him hard, and when he is tired of crying, he sleeps, every day, what to do?" ”
I remember a time when my son didn't sleep at noon, he had to play games, and when he got to bed, he rolled excitedly. Later, I found out that the problem was still with the parents.
If parents usually play with their children before going to bed, the children will look forward to playing every time.
And many parents are determined according to their own mood, today happy to play, the next day unhappy will not play. But children don't care, they will take this as a must-have item before going to bed, or want to play.
Habit formation requires a persistent process.
Later, I would have a bedtime window time every time and tell him that after 5 minutes of sleep, we would stop all activities. After you've slept, keep playing.
Once the agreement is made, the child will be happy to implement it.
When the time comes, parents have to lead by example, really fall asleep, and then get up halfway to see their children is of course the highest realm.
I'm sure many moms already have the ability to take care of their babies half asleep and half awake.
I almost fell asleep several times.
When he woke up, he found that the child was also asleep and did not know when he fell asleep. But he should know when I fell asleep.
Just like a role model, sleep with your child, then sleep well, don't lie there and play with your phone, your child will not sleep at all, only care about why your phone is so fun.
Habits, like emotions, are contagious.
If you blindly warn your child to sleep by scolding, it is the most undesirable, and always mess things up in the end. We need a little bit of wisdom, like encouragement.
When my son was more than three years old, he was able to go to bed alone at noon.
At 1 o'clock, I would remind "There's a little friend who should go to bed, who is it?" ”
"I"
"Do you know what to do?"
"Close your eyes and cover the quilt"
"Okay, go ahead, sleep well and grow tall, and you'll be great!"
He would go to bed and lie down, covered with a quilt.
At that time, I would tell him to sleep well, because when I went to kindergarten, I also slept alone, did not move, closed my eyes, and slowly fell asleep, try it.
When he's well asleep, I'll reward him with fruit when he gets up, and occasionally reward him with an episode of cartoons. Consolidate positive behavior.
Now in the first grade, when going to school on weekdays, it is generally more than 9 o'clock in the evening to start washing, try to ensure that you fall asleep around 10 o'clock, and get up at about 7:30 in the morning, that is, more than 9 hours, in fact, it will be better earlier, but the boys seem to be more energetic, and the rhythm in the city generally falls asleep later.
During the holidays, it will be greatly affected, such as the winter vacation is easy to mess up.
So you still have to spend some effort to adjust it.
Many mothers will ask, what time to fall asleep to meet the standard of "early sleep"?
From the perspective of the secretion of growth hormone, it is much secreted in deep sleep, and it can grow better when going to bed early. In addition, in order to ensure that the child has sufficient sleep time, it is best to go to bed around 8:30 pm, no later than 9:30, so as to ensure that the child is in a deep sleep state around 10 pm, and the time to get up in the morning is preferably after 7 o'clock.
This standard of early bedtime may be more difficult for many families.
But no matter what, you still have to do it, plan and adjust well, no matter what, don't let the child become a late nighter.
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