My daughter's children are about to go to school, the task of taking the children has been completed, and if there is no accident, it is time to go back to her home and live with her husband.
But Su Min made another choice, she did not want to live with her husband, in order to escape from marriage, 56-year-old she used a loan to buy a car, chose to escape from marriage, self-driving travel, and has lived for herself ever since.
She said: "Our family is AA system, I live with my husband, not only does not cost him a penny, I also have to cook, clean and wash clothes for him for free every day, which makes me very upset." ”
After several years of marriage with her husband, her husband paid little attention to the children, and her husband spent a lot of money on himself, but when Su Min asked him for money, he said that he had no money.
32 years of married life, so that Su Min suffered from the cold violence of her husband.
In the second half of 2020, Su Min finally made up her mind to escape from marriage! Stay away from your husband! Take a walk-and-go road trip and live for yourself!
A belated "rebellious" life
Su Min had wanted to escape from marriage more than once, and that home had depressed her, made her miserable, and suffocated her, and she had suffered from depression during all the years she had lived with her husband.
Depression is so severe that whenever he is emotionally agitated, he will cut his own skin with a knife.
In 2018, Su Min and her husband had an argument, the topic of the quarrel was to see what the child thought, the two quarreled, Su Min was emotional, and picked up the fruit knife on the table.
Without hesitation, she slashed twice into her wrist and shouted at her husband, "I have no idea!" ”
After that, the two quarreled more and more fiercely for this trivial topic, and Su Min, in a fit of anger, simply stabbed three times directly in the chest.
Blood soaked Su Min's chest, Su Min thought, it is really not interesting to live, bleed to death.
Seeing that Su Min was so extreme, her husband was anxious, and immediately took away Su Min's knife, then covered Su Min's wound with a towel, and hurriedly called a car to take her to the hospital.
After arriving at the hospital, Su Min learned that she had moderate depression, and since then, she has taken medicine to treat depression.
Su Min, who is taking medicine, knows that her illness is a heart disease, and taking medicine will only ease her emotions, not cure her illness, and if she wants to cure her illness, she must run away from marriage.
But at that time, she was still taking care of the children at her daughter's house, and the children had not yet gone to school, so she could not easily leave, so the idea of "escaping from marriage" could only be hidden in her heart and realized later.
One day in 2019, taking advantage of the child's lunch break, Su Min played with the mobile phone, and by chance, Su Min clicked on a blogger's home page, she clicked on the video to see, it turned out that this was a blogger playing a self-driving tour.
At that time, Su Min knew that life could still be like this, and he could travel wherever he wanted to travel in a car.
She was envious of the life of this self-driving blogger, thinking that if one day she stopped taking care of her children, she would be like this blogger, buy a car, embark on a road trip, and live for herself from now on.
After that, Su Min became obsessed with watching self-driving videos, and she followed many bloggers to study how they traveled, how to park, how to find camps, etc.
Time has entered 2020, this year, the grandson has almost reached the age of kindergarten.
Su Min took the initiative to ask her daughter: "The child is already so old, it is about to go to school, it seems that I can't help anything, otherwise I will move out." ”
The daughter did not agree, so many years, she lived in this family, understand the temperament of her parents, she is worried that after her mother returns home, she will argue with her father and commit suicide.
Daughter: "I'm worried about you..."
Before her daughter finished speaking, Su Min understood her daughter's meaning, and what her daughter was worried about was nothing more than that she and her husband would quarrel and commit suicide.
Su Min patted her daughter's hand and said to her, "I don't live with him, I go out for a self-drive tour." ”
Su Min said this sentence very seriously, but the daughter thought that her mother was joking, and her husband knew it, and said in a slightly sarcastic tone: "As far as your little money is concerned, do you still want to travel?" ”
For her husband's ridicule, Su Min did not pay attention to it, over the years of marriage, her husband always used words to suppress her and ridicule her, she has long been accustomed to it.
When she came to her daughter's house to take care of her grandson, she kissed her grandson happily, and her husband said coldly: "The saliva is poisonous." ”
When cooking, her husband asked her how much she had done, and if she did more, she would say that it was wasteful, in short, it was all kinds of prickly.
When Su Min decided to travel by car, her husband did not forget to be sarcastic, and when he saw Su Min follow the blogger's secret video clip, he would also throw a sentence: "Earned tens of thousands?" ”
At that time, Su Min did not think too much, she only thought that when the epidemic stabilized, she would swim out by car without saying a word, so that she would not have to face these bad things every day.
In September 2020, Su Min said goodbye to her family, drove the car she bought with a loan all the way south, escaped from marriage, fled her family, and started a self-driving trip.
Many netizens called Su Min's behavior: a belated "rebellious" life.
Escape from life after marriage
On October 9, 2020, Su Min began updating her self-driving video on the platform, and she posted a video of a car driving on the highway.
The music of "Blue Lotus" plays in the video:
"Through the dark years, I also felt wandering, when you looked down, you found the road under your feet, the free world in your heart, so clear and lofty..."
This song represents Su Min's state of mind, she left her husband, left the home that made her suffocate and depressed, at this moment she only felt extremely free.
She drove and looked at the scenery around her, and her mood was extremely comfortable.
In this way, Su Min drove to Chengdu by car, and after her classmates learned that Su Min had come, they immediately took her to the hot pot restaurant to eat skewers.
The old classmates have not seen each other for many years, Su Min seems very happy, at the dinner table, Su Min told her old classmates about her self-driving trip, and the old classmates were very supportive of her behavior.
With the support of her classmates, Su Min has strengthened her determination to always travel by car.
In order to solve the accommodation problem and maximize the savings, Su Min bought a roof tent and slept in the roof tent at night.
On the way to the road, she also met curious passers-by to ask, and whenever others asked, Su Min would politely reply.
Most people's questions revolve around "Why is a guy out," "Why doesn't your husband come out with you," and "where are you going next?"
Su Min did not complain about her family situation with passers-by, she just said lightly, she wanted to do so and set off, there was a smell of freedom in the air, she wanted to live for herself.
In addition to passers-by, Su Min also met self-driving travelers like her, most of whom drove in motorhomes, and few of whom traveled in small cars like her.
Su Min and their car parked together, chatted together, ate together, and shared travel experiences together.
Gradually, Su Min met many like-minded friends with her, and when chatting with these friends from all over the world, Su Min's state of mind became more and more open, some things that she could not understand before were gradually figured out, and the depression that once plagued her gradually improved.
And all these changes stem from her choice a few months ago, for others, a walk-and-go tour is casual and dashing; but Su Min said in an interview with the media:
"I came out to escape, that home was depressed, suffocated, didn't come out, I felt like I couldn't live anymore."
Whenever she remembered the scene when she was desperate to take a road trip, Su Min would feel extremely fortunate, fortunately she chose the right path.
In the May time just out, Su Min's husband did not keep her, and the only phone call she ever made was because she took the wrong road and swiped the 81 yuan on the card on the highway.
The husband told Su Min: "The card swiped is my money, and you have to pay it back." ”
After Su Min received her husband's call, she was not surprised, over the years, she was used to her husband's calculations, and her husband's phone call did not affect her good mood at all, she quickly transferred money to her husband, and did not say anything more.
Su Min only thought that this incident was a small episode of travel and did not pay attention to it.
As she drove the car, looked at the scenery that flew by, and felt that her departure was an incomparably correct decision.
Contrary to Su Min's husband's attitude, Su Min's daughter is very concerned about her, and even calls Su Min every day to determine where her mother has run and whether she is safe.
In order to reassure her daughter, Su Min would shoot videos of her daughter almost every day, telling her where her car was parked and where she was going to go next.
In addition to her daughter's concern, Su Min is also loved and cared for by fans.
At the beginning, Su Min posted the video on the Internet just to make a few more oil money, she did not expect that her video suddenly caught fire on the Internet, and this also made her have a large number of fans.
Many fans are private messages to Su Min in the background:
"Come on!"
"Auntie, we will always support you!"
......
Before at home, no one would support her self-driving trip, and no one encouraged her to move forward, but when she escaped from marriage and really embarked on the road of self-driving, she gained the support and encouragement of many strangers.
These private messages warmed Su Min's heart.
In addition to encouraging Su Min, these enthusiastic fans will also provide a lot of help for Su Min.
When Su Min travels to the fan's location, some enthusiastic fans will send some food to Su Min, and some fans will directly invite Su Min to the home for dinner.
This made Su sensitive, she said, when at home, I am taking care of others but no one to take care of me, whenever I am sick, I take cold medicine and sleep under the covers, my family never cares about this.
She also said that she had never received so much love, which made her feel understood and recognized.
When asked about "is it lonely to travel alone?", Su Min replied: "I don't feel lonely, because I can finally cook the food I like to eat, see the scenery I want to see, and no longer live for others." ”
As Su Min said, she finally did not have to live for others, she chose to travel alone, although the trip was not accompanied, but gained freedom.
Shaanxi, Sichuan, Yunnan, Hainan...
Su Min has traveled through many places by car, and has also seen the customs and scenery of various places, the motherland is so big, until now, Su Min has not finished the great rivers and mountains of the motherland.
During the years of travel, every time she went to a new place, she would shoot a travel video and post it on the Internet, and the videos posted on the Internet were both to make money and share her joy with fans.
With the continuous updating of the video, her cumulative playback volume is getting higher and higher, the cumulative number of fans is also increasing, and the popularity has increased, so that a large number of advertisements have launched invitations to her.
In the fashion short film "See Us", Su Min wears delicate makeup, and her beautiful curly hair hangs on the white lace top, which is in the same frame as Fu Seoul and Tan Zhuo.
I saw two lines on the screen: 73,219 pieces of clothing were folded, and this time I packed my bags for myself.
The simple two sentences summarized the first half of her life and the second half of her life, the first half of her life she lost herself for her home, and the second half of her life she lived for herself and walked the world.
Many netizens have said:
"It's amazing, Aunt Sue."
"Women deserve to be seen and deserve more job opportunities."
"Aunt Sue is so pretty."
From an ordinary housewife to an independent woman, Su Min did it!
Today, Su Min is still doing the business she loves, living the free life she wants to live, and has been traveling.
Looking back on the past life, the words that her husband taunted Su Min for not making much money by filming videos and had no money to travel seemed to have become a joke.
As mentioned earlier, Su Min chose to travel by car in order to "escape for his life".
In fact, she wants to escape not only from the family environment that taunts his husband and makes her depressed, but also from her humble self.
Over the years of self-driving trips, she grew into an independent woman.
Perhaps Su Min's husband is still the same as he used to be, but Su Min is no longer the former self.
The story ends here, I hope that everyone who has read the story understands a truth:
We are in a new era of modernization, in which we all have the right to pursue our own happiness, and women do not have to be dependent on the family to live a wonderful life.
Su Min chooses a person, a car, a wrapped trip, is her freedom, but also her right, we respect her choice at the same time, but also reflect on ourselves.
Reflect on whether your current self is happy or not, and what do you want to do in the future?
Su Min chose to travel by car and regain happiness, that was her choice, what was our choice?
I hope you can find the direction of the future!