On February 8, Beijing time, the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics freestyle ski women's big jump final began to compete, Gu Ailing in the first two rounds behind the French player Ludd, the third round surpassed himself to make a previously unparalleled left-axis rotation of 1620, got a high score of 94.50 points, and also won this precious gold medal with a total score of 188.25 points!
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These days, the genius ski beauty girl - Gu Ailing, continues to brush the screen! Everyone likes her so much for a reason, her open and hanging life, let everyone marvel at the author of the online article does not dare to write the cool article heroine!
In 2003, Gu Ailing was born in the United States.
In June 2019, she renounced her U.S. citizenship and became a Chinese citizen. This also means that points previously earned in the United States are cleared to zero. Then, like a warrior, she went out in armor and saved points little by little, winning 7 medals in 8 months in 2020 and 6 top titles in only 36 days in 2021. Finally win the ticket to the 2022 Winter Olympics for China.
You think this is excellent, and her studies are eye-opening. Although skiing is a lifelong love, Gu Ailing is clear that she has a more important identity, that is, full-time students. When he was three or four years old, Gu Ailing once asked his mother, "What are the best universities in the world and the most difficult universities?" The answer given by the mother was "Stanford."
Since then, Gu Ailing has made up her mind to enter Stanford University. In order to balance "snow industry" and "study", she reduced her four-year studies to three years, and paid more effort than the people around her. The day before the SAT (American College Entrance Examination), Due to the delay of the plane, Gu Ailing did not arrive at the hotel until 11:30 p.m. The next morning, because it was raining and she couldn't get a car, in order not to delay the test, she ran a kilometer in the rain to arrive at the test room. Kung Fu paid off, and in the end, Gu Ailing scored 1580 points in the exam with a full score of 1600, ranking in the top 0.4%. Not only was he nominated for the "Presidential Scholar Program" in the United States, which is one of the highest honors that an American high school graduate can receive.
"Without skiing, learning can become very uninteresting. If I think I'm going to go skiing next week, I should study now. And while skiing, I should have enjoyed it because I was looking forward to it last week. ”
To do one thing is to focus on it. An 18-year-old girl, tell us simple truths.
"Genius ski girl" + "high IQ school bully", it is already a very great thing to have these two labels at the same time, but Gu Ailing is not willing to stop here, she also opened up many new aspects of life.
Ballet, piano, football as a child, horseback riding as a teenager, rock climbing, basketball, trail running and bungee jumping, model catwalk are all beautiful aspects of her life and are one of her passions. They brightened her life and taught her to embrace life optimistically.
Gu Ailing is too good, her casual side is worth learning, but what I admire most is her self-confidence. There is a blogger on the Internet who analyzed Gu Ailing's weakest women's big jump project before the game and was most likely to win the bronze medal, Gu Ailing left a message: Why do you have no confidence in me? There was also a pre-game mother who advised her to go to 1440, but Gu Ailing insisted on the third jump challenge 1620, listening to her post-game interview, we learned that her 1620 action had never been done on the snow or trampoline, but only thought in her head, and did it on the air cushion for a day or two. In the case of the worst bronze medal, she chose to skate to her 100 percent best, and she didn't play to beat the other players.
Everyone is envious of Ailing's excellent results, but also pay attention to her family education, everyone is curious about what kind of family can raise such a child?
Netizens said that Gu Ailing is so excellent, people have a bully gene. Mom is a graduate of Peking University and Stanford, a large VC/PE executive in Silicon Valley, and was a member of the Peking University short track speed skating team and ski instructor. Dad graduated from Harvard, is said to be a software engineer at Google, and grandpa is also a stanford graduate. Grandma (Gu Ailing calls her Grandma) Feng Guozhen is a football player. Our ordinary family is certainly not as good as the efforts of generations. But self-confidence is not a patent of a privileged family and a good background. The light of self-confidence comes from the heart, and every child must learn to firmly believe in their own value. The strong are confident. The self-confidence of the strong does not need to be defined by others. From the bottom of their hearts, they yearn to work hard to the extreme and fully enjoy the blood of the process.
We don't have to envy "other people's children", nor can we always compare our own children with other people's children. We can talk about how to cultivate children's self-confidence.
First, respect trust and give choice
3 to 6 years old is a critical period for the formation of cognitive, social, personality and psychological qualities in young children. Parents should create an equal and democratic family atmosphere in the home, give children full autonomy to choose, and treat children as equal individuals. Young children will have their own thoughts, interests and needs, in this process, parents should ensure their safety, on the basis of reasonable encouragement and guidance for physical and psychologically immature individuals.
Gu Ailing's mother actually did not want her daughter to ski, because freestyle skiing was too dangerous, but she still respected and supported her child's choice. Respecting the child's choice and allowing him to accumulate and improve his experience in the process of independent choice, he will become more and more accomplished and more confident.
Second, appropriate affirmation, positive feedback
Every child has their own shining point, they are very engaged and confident in their favorite field. As a parent, the first thing is to learn to observe, to observe the things that the child is interested in. The second is to be good at discovering its advantages and giving praise and affirmation, which is the source of strength for children to be full of confidence and continuous progress. So what kind of praise and affirmation is appropriate? "You are awesome", "You are really capable", "you are so powerful" and other superficial praise does not play a substantial role, Gu Mother's parenting secret is "When Ai Ling just went to school, the teacher said: Don't correct the child's typos, don't hit the child's creativity; praise their intelligence less, praise their efforts more." I just did it." Gu Ailing said: Since childhood, grandma has especially loved to say: We love Ling is the best. Only when the child knows where his "stick" is, the child has the direction that he can work on next time, stimulate his internal drive, and then enhance his self-confidence.
Third, lead by example and set an example
Role modeling is very important in family education, a pair of confident parents, a communication barrier-free atmosphere, a loving and harmonious family to cultivate children must be confident, good at socializing, kind people. Gu Yan is a very emotionally stable mother. When Gu Ailing had a fever, was injured, and the situation occurred frequently, she was very calm and composed, and she would not drag her daughter's hind legs at all. Now 86 years old, my grandmother still insists on running a mile a day. Parents should let their children do what you expect, first of all, they have to do what they say, then the child will also taste the rewards and joy of hard work, which is also very helpful for the establishment of their self-confidence.
Fourth, mistakes are allowed and repression is prevented
We've made a lot of mistakes and we've been beaten a lot. Childhood is the most wrong time, it may be out of curiosity, it may be out of inexperience, it may because you don't know how to express it, or you may not have strong self-control... Children are sometimes unable to realize their mistakes due to their age characteristics and need guidance from their parents. If the child makes a mistake, the parents do not investigate the cause and punish it, which can easily cause the child to be dissatisfied, and will also lead to the child's escape psychology after making mistakes in the future. As long as they do not harm themselves and others, appropriate mistakes can allow their cognition to develop and experience to accumulate. Therefore, parents should allow their children to make mistakes and encourage them to communicate and communicate, let them express what happened, and let children try to solve them on their own. In the process of making mistakes, reflecting and correcting, experience a sense of success and build self-confidence.
Children don't necessarily become genius boys and girls, but every child can become a better version of themselves.