When many of our parents are anxious about their children's education problems, a retired teacher from Tsinghua University said, "As long as you pay attention to the three points of the child, it is difficult for the child to succeed!" This surprises us, which three are they? Let's read it together!
Education has always been an eternal topic, many parents think that education starts from school, when you are young, you should have an unfettered childhood, in fact, there is an old saying that "three years old to see big, seven years old to see old" to educate children to start from an early age, family education is very important for children.
Education is an indispensable experience for each of us to grow up. Everyone is home-schooled from birth, learning and growing up under the influence of mothers and fathers. Family education is closely related to the educational concept of the whole society.
"Raise a child for a hundred years, worry about ninety-nine." From the moment the child was born, every parent broke his heart about the child's growth and education.
When I was a child, I worried that my children would grow up and not have nutrition, and when I grew up, I worried that my children would be bullied outside. As long as the child is around, parents always can't help but manage the east and the west, and finally end up with a thankless result.
But in my opinion, as long as you control these 3, the child will not succeed by you!
Control your child's desires
Nowadays, everyone's living conditions are much better, and parents have begun to meet their children's various requirements, as long as the child feels happy, even if the blood is worth it.
As everyone knows, it is this kind of thinking that makes children lose themselves in their growing desires and eventually achieve nothing.
When I was a very good friend in college, because the difficult childbirth process was very dangerous, it took 12 hours to give birth to a son, so the husband and wife loved the child very much, and at home it can be described as calling the wind and rain, living off a "little bully".
When the child was 8 years old, he fell in love with taekwondo and insisted on asking his friends to take him to sign up. At that time, my friend was still very happy, thinking that the child had finally found the talent he was interested in, and immediately took the child to participate in the taekwondo training class. But the good times did not last long, and in less than a week, the child shouted not to go, saying that his back was sore and his hands were swollen. Seeing the child's unhappiness, his friend also clings to him.
A few days later, I saw my friends playing together learning street dance, and begged my friends to sign up to learn. Unexpectedly, during the practice, the action was too violent, and the handle was broken. After a few months off, the child, who was supposed to continue practicing, turned to painting again.
Fast forward a few years, children of the same age have their own strengths, a skill, but the children of friends are still picking and choosing...
Children's desires are always multi-mixed, impatient, and not qualitative, which requires parents to control and manage, if children are allowed to develop freely, then in the end they will only do nothing.
It is not the following: "What is easily obtained will never be cherished; but what is painstakingly obtained will always be put in the heart." ”
Keep your child's mouth shut
As a parent, I have had this kind of trouble!
"Mom, I'm going home to watch TV!"
"Wait a minute, my mother has something to say to Aunt Zhang."
"No, I'm leaving now, the TV has started."
"Why are you so annoying as a child?" Can you be quiet for a while? ”
Especially when you are talking to others about something important, the child is always interjecting or throwing a tantrum, which is very rude and ruining the atmosphere.
In the past, when I was in class, when it came to the climax, there were always some children who wanted to extend the topic, and in a few minutes, the whole class was driven by this casual child, completely disrupting my thoughts. It can be said that teachers do not like children who interject in class and make trouble, even if the children are honor students.
Children's habits will follow them for a long time, and if the interjective nature does not change, it will be very unfavorable to their future workplace work. I would like to ask, what company owner always wants an employee who loves to interject, wants to perform, and does not know how to respect people?
Manage the laziness of the child
A person's success is not accidental, but this person is willing to work hard, willing to study, on the contrary, the vast majority of children now, lazy, eating, drinking, and having fun, everything is doing, and this is really terrible!
Once, my aunt suddenly called me and said that she was traveling abroad and asked me to make her grandson an early lunch and dinner, so that the children would not always order takeaways, which was not good for her health. It wasn't difficult, so I promised to come down.
When I hung up the phone, I rushed over, and as soon as I entered the door, I saw socks thrown randomly on the ground, a scented takeaway box, and a thin layer of dust on the ground. The aunt had only been out for two days, and the child had already made a mess of the house, did not clean, did not even open the curtains, and could faintly see the children playing games under the covers in the dim light.
I asked him, why don't you open the curtains and play games? And the answer he gave me was: too lazy!
I really think that the living conditions of children now are much better than when we were young, there are people to pick up and drop off when they go out, people to go to school, people to clean up books, clothes to be washed, beds to be taken care of, as long as you open your mouth, everything is helped to do, and you are very happy.
But is such a lazy child really good? Will the child who doesn't even bother to open the curtains open his brilliant life in the future? It is impossible, in the most recent mid-term exam, he was caught cheating because he was too lazy to think about answering questions, and was severely warned by the school, and he was already in his third grade, and this punishment is likely to follow him for life!
Therefore, parents, if you want your child to have a career, you must quit being lazy!
When parents always hope that their children will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes, hoping to cultivate their children into talents. However, if a child wants to become a talent, it is not a one-time thing, it needs a long period of accumulation. Smart people know how to break down into pieces and complete their goals step by step.
To achieve the big goal of children becoming talents, you can first set a small goal that can be achieved, such as allowing children to develop good habits.
The following good habits that benefit people for life must let children develop!
Go to bed early and get up early
Quality sleep is essential for your child's physical development. Going to bed early and getting up early is not only of great benefit to the child's physical health, but also allows the child to be full of energy and do everything well throughout the day.
Keep exercising
Running, soccer, basketball, skipping rope, gymnastics... These various forms of exercise can not only exercise the body, let the child grow taller and stronger, but also enrich the child's life and bring a good mood to the child throughout the day. Therefore, be sure to let your child develop at least one exercise habit.
Read more books and read good books
Reading and fitness are the most valuable investments! Reading can make the child's mind become broad, the vision become broad, the thinking become profound, and the vision become long-term; let the child understand the truth, understand right and wrong, and will be a person! Having your child take an hour a day to read is more effective than any education.
It is worth noting that a good book can make a child, and a bad book can also ruin a child. There are always some bad books in the market that are not conducive to children's physical and mental health, parents must help their children to control the good pass, choose a good book that is suitable for children, children are interested in, and beneficial to children!
Learn first, play later
It is said that doing things should be combined with work and leisure, which is of course no problem. However, be sure to let your child remember and firmly implement the phrase "learn first, play later".
A relaxed and comfortable life is built on a strong economic foundation, and those who work first and work later will definitely be miserable. Unless you have a lot of money and confidence that your child can eat and clothe without doing anything, you must let your child develop the habit of learning first and playing later.
Education is a long-term process, each stage of the children face different problems, as a parent, we must pay attention to the changes in children in time, timely adjustment of educational methods, so that children in the correct education methods to grow.