Text | Miss Muang Lai
When the child does not want to read, tell him these 3 sentences:
Life can rest, but life doesn't start over.
Children who leave school early,
Where do you usually go?
The documentary "18-year-old assembly line" gives the answer.
Most of the workers here are post-95s,
After dropping out of junior high school, he went to work in a factory.
No education, no skills, only the cheapest jobs.
Work 8 hours a day while standing, but also 4 hours of overtime;
If the hand is cut off, it is impossible to ask for leave, and the health is not guaranteed;
Doing high-intensity physical work, but only cabbage and pickles are eaten;
Late arrivals were severely punished, and there was no time to even go to the toilet;
When the reporter asked these children:
Do you want to go back to school?
Many people say "think" and regret on their faces.
Once, they hated the burden of reading and poked at school early;
Now, they suffer enough,
Understand that even if you get one more diploma, the future will be very different.
Learning is not the only way out,
But before finding another way out,
Giving up learning is equivalent to giving up life.
For children who are not yet involved in the world, this is difficult to understand.
But the best education is empathy.
We can try to make them understand:
Sometimes you don't want to read, you can take a break;
Always don't want to read, just go to the assembly line to see;
If you don't read with an iron heart,
As a passer-by, I have three words for you.
"You're at the best of your life right now,
Definitely take the opportunity."
In 2019, Hubei Daily published the "Wuhan Migrant Workers' Wage Level".
The data shows:
Junior high school education, the average monthly income is only 3000;
High school degree, the average monthly income is 4000;
For those with a bachelor's degree, the average monthly income is as high as more than 7,000.
Admittedly, there is a way out of not reading, and dropping out of school may also return home.
But who can guarantee that it will happen to you?
Professor Li Meijin, an educator, said:
Dropping out of school is a major incentive for children to commit crimes.
After leaving campus,
Children face the temptation of flowers and flowers, the enjoyment of paper drunk fans, the companions of good and bad work,
It is likely to be assimilated.
In Xiamen, a group of 15-year-old children ransacked an electrical appliance store.
They all only have primary school education, but they dream of getting rich overnight.
In the documentary "Sanhe Talent Market",
A large number of out-of-school children have left their homes to survive by doing odd jobs.
Pay 100 a day, work for one day, play for three days.
Eat 4 yuan of vegetarian noodles without nutrition, and live in a damp and broken bed of 15 yuan.
After doing it for a long time, even if you want to go elsewhere to make a living, it is unlikely,
They thought,
Learning limits freedom, loses it, and every day after that will be happier;
But I didn't expect it,
Reading is a good habit of life,
Lose it, and every day after that is worse than yesterday.
"You'll find out when you grow up
Academic qualifications are a life-changing shortcut."
Remember Xu Mengnan, the "college entrance examination white paper" test taker 14 years ago?
At that time, he was a sensation in the country.
In 2008, Xu Mengnan was in a period of rebellion,
Blind letter "the college entrance examination kills personality".
He wrote to the education department, stone sinking into the sea;
Skipping class to go to an Internet café, and the grades plummeted;
The college entrance examination deliberately does not answer the questions, and the educational concept is written.
He firmly believed that he was a hero until the results of the college entrance examination were announced.
Xu Mengnan scored zero and was not admitted to any university.
He originally had excellent grades,
Because of his rebellious impulses, he lost his studies.
At the age of 19, he could only follow his father to work everywhere.
Only then did he understand:
Why was the family so poor, but his father encouraged him to go to college.
Because there are almost no rest days on the assembly line,
Repetitive dry work day after day.
Late arrivals are punished, and leave is deducted,
Even if the body is not good, it can only be braced.
Father did not want him to suffer the same,
Lift him up with all your might.
I didn't expect that,
The child himself gave up the only chance to turn over.
Xu Mengnan said regretfully:
"I tried to change to a good job, but a good job requires a high degree, and I just graduated from high school."
Look at those students who have a bachelor's degree,
Some people go to graduate school, some people go abroad, and some people become white-collar workers.
Even in the office building 996,
Compared to him, it is also decent and relaxed.
Like Xu Mengnan' "white scroll" candidates, there are many more:
In the 2006 college entrance examination, Jiang Duoduo only wrote a pen name, zero separation field;
In the 2007 college entrance examination, Chen Shengzhang deliberately did not answer the questions, and the white paper left the scene;
In the 2008 college entrance examination, Li Jian wrote an impromptu essay with zero separation field.
What happened to these people?
Jiang Duoduo went to a technical school, because of his low education and low salary, he talked about the regret of the year;
Chen Shengzhang has done a number of low-level jobs,
Tossing and turning on the assembly line, crossing the class is almost hopeless;
Li Jian was admitted to the School of Translation and Translation with excellent writing and barely obtained an undergraduate diploma.
Xu Mengnan re-took the college entrance examination,
In order to advise other candidates not to follow their own example,
He distributed 4,000 flyers in 10 years.
On giving up on schoolwork, psychologist Amartya. Sen said:
"Children think that this is a perceptual choice made by feeling and experiencing themselves.
In fact, they are rationalized fools."
Not reading books, handing in white papers, is a personal will;
Reading more and getting a perfect score on the exam is a very small number of elites.
Therefore, it is always the second kind of person who "changes the world".
The first kind of person always thinks that he is a hero full of blood,
In fact, they are just unlucky eggs that give up halfway.
Because blood is not enough to support the future, heroes are not only hot blood, but also more powerful.
There is only one kind of heroism in this world:
Recognize the truth of life and still love life;
Understand the boring of learning, and still love learning.
As Han Han said:
Learning is done in any location, no matter where you are, for a lifetime.
The gaokao may not be the only way out, but it is the best shortcut.
Because every page of a book we read will eventually pave the way under our feet.
Continuous absorption, people can continue to take a step forward.
"Reading is not for others
It's for yourself."
In fact, good grades do not mean that "everything is lucky".
The reason why reading is important,
It is because it teaches us to persevere, to cultivate deeply, and to exercise self-discipline.
Forcing children to read,
It may not be able to make the child's future bright;
Distilling the spirit of perseverance from learning,
It is the wealth that will settle down in the future.
Kevin Xu, a professor of psychology at Peking University, said:
The rate of child boredom is as high as 30.4%.
They're physically in the classroom,
Hearts fly outside, with games, soccer, KTV.
These children may not be good seedlings of bullying.
It's just that they haven't understood it yet.
How fun it is to swim in a sea of knowledge is far better than playing games.
Kevin Tsui believes:
Children who have no interest in learning are prone to "hollow heart disease".
They don't know why they read.
Or the pattern is narrow,
I think that reading is for parents, for face, for comparison with others.
In fact, reading is for yourself.
In order to get out of the limitations of the original family,
End the hardships of the previous generation;
For the sake of confident capital,
Learn everything faster and better than your peers;
In order to have the confidence of freedom,
In the future, I can choose the job I love.
Admittedly, reading is utilitarian, boring, and tedious.
At this time, the mediation and guidance of parents is very critical.
Sisters 8-year-old children,
Because the exam is not ideal, there is a sense of boredom.
The sisters propose:
Since you don't want to study, go sell apples on the street.
The children rejoiced,
It didn't take long to hang his head in despair,
Because selling apples is too hard.
He was still young, but he could already perceive:
It's not a decent job.
It's hard to sell an apple,
No one praised him for "selling well".
But when he pronounced words such as "sweet and delicious",
Some people praised him as "a little literary".
Half an hour later, the child gave up selling apples, looked up and said:
"Mom, I want to read."
He experienced first-hand:
Every book you read will turn into wealth.
Sell more apples,
Nor is it as rewarding as learning one more idiom.
When the child does not want to read,
Often because the benefits of reading have not yet been understood.
So, to make more sense,
It is better to let the child experience for himself how useful reading is.
For example, in his spare time, he takes his children to sell waste paper,
Calculate how much you can sell.
Tell your child:
If you don't study now, in the future, this is how many days you will pay for.
When idle,
Take the kids to work,
Take a look at the work of undergraduate and master's students.
"There is no three-six-nine or so on, but there are high and low levels of income.
The same 8-hour workday, the more books you read, the more you can turn your days into poetry. ”
Parents have not yet said the answer,
But what the child should pursue, at a glance.
Parents don't have to desperately find resources to lift their children,
Children will lift themselves up on their own.
Because he knows:
Every book is read for yourself;
Every time you persist, you can accumulate gains.
Children have the strongest motivation to read,
Not "I should read", but "I want to read",
This love of knowledge and learning will become the guiding light of his life.
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Author: Miss Mang Lai, a national second-level psychological counselor, senior male and female observers, has published "Girl, Live An Atmosphere Is Wonderful Enough". Some of the pictures are from the Internet, and the copyright belongs to the original author.