Women who have had children will complain to varying degrees, and indeed, being a mother is a very tiring and hard thing. They have to suffer in trivialities until the child becomes an independent person. In fact, how nice it would be to have Dad's help at this time!
But at this time, the father seems to be at a loss, they will only be silly, looking at the baby in the arms of their wives, enjoying the joy brought by the child, but what can they do? On the contrary, having him will seem to get in the way. In fact, I don't want my wife to complain and collapse, and the following things dads are best to help.
First of all, get up in the middle of the night to coax the baby
The biggest breakdown of a woman after giving birth comes from not being able to sleep a full night at night. The child has to get up in the middle of the night to feed, urinate, burp, change diapers, sleep, and so on. It's hard to get a good night's sleep anyway.
If at this time, the father can stand up and take care of things other than breastfeeding, the child's mother will definitely be relieved, so that the original guilty mothers can alleviate a lot of complaining. But if she gets up several times in the middle of the night, but you go to sleep and purr continuously, then Baoma's mentality will collapse.
Secondly, I usually never bring a baby, and from time to time I come out to point fingers.
This kind of dad is really annoying. In fact, whether it is a father or someone else, you usually don't care about the child, then in the matter of educating the child, please take the mother as the mainstay.
But it is not good to not ask questions, but it is not easy to come out and point fingers, and even accuse her mother of not having a good education. This is a very bad behavior, which will also affect the feelings of husband and wife and affect family harmony.
Therefore, smart men should be more kind to their wives, accompany their wives and children more, and participate and discuss their children's education issues more rather than provoking.
Finally, understand the postpartum body-out-of-shaped wife. Women are naturally beautiful. But the October pregnancy has made them lose the attractive figure they should have. Well, lose weight, but there is no time to take care of the child. Beauty, money to spend on children, not willing. Thus, beauty and women were insulated. If they are rejected by their husbands at this time, it is the biggest psychological blow to them.
Of course, in addition to the above aspects, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also a problem that husbands should always pay attention to. You have to do a good job of coordination between the two sides.
After all, having children will keep them under the same roof for a long time. Two women under the same roof, it is inevitable that contradictions will arise.
And the one who can play a lubricating role is the husband. If you can't do this, but don't care about yourself, or simply mother and baby male mentality, then it is estimated that the cold must be the wife of a person with a foreign surname in the family.
Moreover, the mood after childbirth must be well controlled, otherwise it will not only affect the recovery of the body, but also easily hurt the feelings of the husband and wife, recommend this good book, learn to control the flood power of pregnancy emotions, so that you are no longer depressed after childbirth.
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