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1, the problem is fire, can try out real gold
When encountering things, the inner strength of the person determines the result:
Some people panic;
Some people just want to be a shrunken-headed turtle;
Some people think more and more about the plot, the more worried they are;
Some people even get out of control.
At this time, the person who can stabilize is the real cow.
He neither magnifies the problem, nor does he become more and more busy, and every sentence and every action points to the solution of the problem.
After the solution is not counted, he will further think about how to prevent it from happening again.
The problem is fire, being able to test real gold.
Some people become allies of the problem, a magnifying glass, making a mess of life, while the strength of some people makes the problem tremble.
Be calm and be the terminator of the problem.
2, the benefits of good tutoring
Without seeing the benefits of action, you cannot have the impulse to act, let alone persevere.
To say what good tutoring has, the previous generation has brought good results through action, and the next generation has a lot less self-persuasion.
"Do you want to start, when to start, is it useful, will it be beneficial, can I do it, will I insist, will I insist", while others are still struggling, he has thrown off his arms and dried.
Of course, there are rewards for doing it, and there is a difference in learning nature, even if there is no utilitarian result for a while, it will eventually explode in accumulation.
If your parents set an example for you, you will have a lot less internal friction and directly dry;
If parents don't do it, remember that people are ultimately different from each other, and that is by faith.
You may have more torture than others, but your determination can be your child's spiritual strength.
In terms of spiritual inheritance, it is also an honor to be a hero of your family's pioneering work.
3, what you are, the world is what it is
If we do not respect the child, but only seduce him with rewards or intimidate him with punishment, then we are contributing to his sense of gain and fear.
Since we ourselves are trained to act in order to reap the rewards, we are unaware that there is an action that does not contain the desire for profit.
Proper education is to encourage children to be respectful and considerate of others without any bait or intimidation.
The vulgar heart likes to be obedient and does not like to fight.
The vulgar heart obeys the social current, obeys the parents, and tolerates everything.
The pressure from the outside makes us obedient and obedient, so gradually the spirit of rebellion is destroyed, the spirit of dissatisfaction is destroyed.
In fact, schools should educate students to be dissatisfied and not easily satisfied for a lifetime.
This spirit of dissatisfaction, if it does not fall into the pipe of satisfaction and gratitude, will begin to seek itself and will become true wisdom.
The true meaning of education is self-knowledge.
What you are, the world is what it is.
--Krishnamurti
4. When the child is depressed
When children are depressed, it is useless to force or urge them, it will only make them feel more frightened and discouraged.
All we have to do is step back, take the pressure off, reassure them, comfort them, give them time — as much time as they want — and wait until they regain enough energy and courage.
Children's ignorance and clumsiness often make them miserable, and we must be careful not to constantly and compulsively make them aware of their weaknesses.
I play these games with babies and share their joy while playing, not because we want them to go to college later.
If there is no happiness, replaced by some relentless calculation of future IQ and SAT score, then we deprive the spirit of the game, and the game dies.
The more a mother responds to her child, the less the child cries, the closer the connection with the child, and the easier it is to cultivate the child's sense of trust.
5) Children are not trains, they do not learn at an average rate
Kids are not trains, they don't learn at average speed.
Their learning is eruptive, and the more interested they are in what they learn, the faster those eruptions are likely.
When they learn on their own terms, for their own reasons, they learn faster and more effectively than when we teach them.
Children try new things, like small green buds drawn from plants. We have to be careful not to break them.