Oral description: Su Yong (36 years old)
Text: The Vanishing City
One
Others are looking forward to the New Year, but I am most afraid of the New Year, why? Because I'm a "door-to-door son-in-law".
Strictly speaking, I am not a door-to-door son-in-law, but the mother-in-law who lives in my house is too strong, so that I unconsciously have the "door-to-door son-in-law" of the resignation. Although I am also a small boss in the eyes of others, when my mother-in-law scolds me in front of my wife and children, I often feel that I am one meter and eight meters, and I am not as good as a dog.
I am also a flesh-and-blood man, how can I be resigned to an elderly rural woman who has nothing to do?
So, several times, when my mother-in-law was at home sprinkling a little bit of triviality, I couldn't help but clench my fists. It can be said that I dreamed of driving my mother-in-law and my sister-in-law out of my house.
However, every time I think that this mother and daughter are homeless in this world, I can only loosen my fists and hold my head in pain. Who let me accept more than 300,000 yuan borrowed from my mother-in-law in order to realize my entrepreneurial dream? The money, but the mother-in-law could not withstand my wife's pleading, and sold the house in my hometown to make it up!
After selling the old house, my mother-in-law and my sister-in-law (my wife's sister) had no nest, and the two had to come to the provincial city to join me and my wife. Since it was our two sons who caused the couple to be homeless, it goes without saying that I had to accept their accommodation unconditionally.
Two
A few years ago, my parents who were far away from home took out hundreds of thousands of dollars they had accumulated in their lives and helped me pay the down payment, and since then, I have to squeeze out more than 4,000 yuan every month to repay the mortgage.
At first, I worked in a large factory with a good salary, and it was not a problem to repay the mortgage, but before I worked for two years, I caught up with the layoffs of the big factory, so I had to receive a compensation and returned home in frustration.
Mortgage to repay, wife and just pregnant, after unemployment I feel pressure, almost every day in the various talent market shuttle, non-stop resume...
However, in the face of the economic downturn, I never found a better job than before, go to those private small companies to work, all kinds of guarantees are very likely to be not guaranteed, and finally, I decided to unite two former colleagues who also encountered the same as me, and came out as the boss myself.
When we have a lot of money, we will often take our families to spend the weekend, drinking and skewering. At that time, looking at the crowds in the skewer store, the store entrance, the foodies still tirelessly lined up in a long line, we all felt that engaging in this must make money. I heard that the owners of some skewer shops earn millions a year, and our eyes are green with envy.
After some investigation, we decided to join a brand string store. What gives us a headache is that the franchise fee of that store is not cheap, plus other messy fees, opening such a small store, at least you have to prepare millions of dollars to play.
At that time, that brand was very popular with us, and I heard that everyone was making a lot of money. Driven by the dream of getting rich, we both decided to make a desperate bet to open the store.
Three
The family situation of the two colleagues was just as ordinary as mine, and my parents tried to help them raise some money, and they took out their own severance pay, repaid some loans, and finally, there were still thirty thousand or so left to arrive at the position.
At that time, my father was sick, and I didn't want to exploit them anymore, for fear that they would worry about it, and even hide the unemployment from them. Thinking about it, I decided to borrow some online loans. But my wife felt that the interest rate of the online loan was too high, and she resolutely disagreed, saying that she might as well ask her mother to think of a way in her hometown.
I have long heard my wife say that it has not been easy for her mother over the years. Her father was a miner, because her family was poor and old, so she married a peasant girl with little culture, that is, her mother. Her father hurt his wife very much, and after her mother married her father, she never went out to work again, and usually took care of the housework at home, taking care of the children, and chasing soap operas.
Although my mother-in-law has been hot since she was a child, her old husband is loyal and honest, and he is willing to be led, and the salary card is completely handed over to his wife, and usually my mother-in-law only gives him some tobacco money. Even so, my wife and her father were happy to fart and have no complaints about my wife's queenship.
Unfortunately, her wife and her father later died in a mining accident, when her sister had not yet graduated from elementary school. If it weren't for the loss of money to their family in the mine, their mothers really didn't know how to live.
In the eyes of the townspeople, it is a lot of money, but it is just enough to buy a house in a small county, and the little money left is only enough to solve the problem of food and clothing. So my wife just graduated from high school and came to the provincial city to work.
Talking about the marriage stage, I saw that my mother-in-law and mother-in-law were not happy with their teenage daughter alone, and offered to give her family an eighty-eight thousand bride price. After renovating the wedding room, I only have this little money left. My wife is also aware of my situation.
Of course, her mother would like to ask me for a higher dowry, but then I will have to bear debts, and after marriage these debts will have to be repaid by our husband and wife, and my wife is not stupid.
She repeatedly told these to her mother, and stressed that the conditions of her own family were not good, she could not come up with a decent dowry, the bride price was high, and she must have been laughed at, my family was good and evil in the city, I was a university graduate, working in a large factory, she was a migrant worker in the city who could marry me, and finally, her mother agreed to the marriage of the two of us.
Four
It is a pity that after marriage, my wife and I have only had a good life for more than a year, and the sudden unemployment has disturbed our warm and beautiful world for two.
In order to successfully persuade my mother-in-law to raise some money for me from my hometown, my wife exaggerated the profit margin of the string shop and promised her mother that I could return the money to my family in a maximum of one or two years.
The mother-in-law was really touched by my wife's dream of getting rich, plus she had long been fascinated by the colorful life of the big city, and did not want to stay in the small county town of "backwater", not to mention, the kind of place that lacked a big economic lifeline, there were few employment opportunities, and it was difficult for my sister-in-law to find a better job there...
Thinking about it, my mother-in-law simply bit her teeth and sold the house in her hometown, took her sister-in-law, who had been hiding at home since graduating from junior high school, and came to her eldest daughter hundreds of miles away.
Five
When my mother-in-law and sister-in-law first came to my house, my daughter was still in my wife's belly and was about to fall to the ground, and the children's room prepared for our daughter by our little two was temporarily empty, and the mother-in-law and sister-in-law naturally lived in it first. Since then, my daughter has not had the space to grow independently.
After my daughter was born, I was busy every day in the skewer shop, but fortunately, there were three women in the house with the children, and I was not too worried. But every night when I came home tired and half dead, I had to be pulled by a moment, a moment to pee, a moment to drink milk, a moment to drink water, and a moment to wake up with a feverish child, I was really annoyed.
But my wife said that her mother had been tired of helping us with the children during the day, and she couldn't shout anymore, and it was not good for her mother to see me naked. I could only sleepily listen to my wife's call, and my head was often groggy when I worked during the day.
There are a bunch of women living in the house, and I am a man, needless to say how inconvenient it is. Especially in the middle of summer, from my mother-in-law to my sister-in-law are dressed very thinly, as soon as I enter the door, there are a bunch of bare arms and bare legs, shaking my eyes, I don't know where to look, I am a big man who has become the most conservative dressed, even if I sweat, I have to dress neatly.
I kindly asked my wife to persuade her mother to pay attention to the dress, an old lady, wearing too little really hot eyes! My wife sighed and said that she had said that her mother had said it several times, but her mother was doing her own thing and did not change! Her mother also said that she used to wear this at home, how did she get to her daughter's house, and she had to restrain herself?
My wife reminded her that there was still my son-in-law in the family, and her mother actually stared at her strangely and asked her if she had a brain problem. What do I have to be wary of as a junior? By age, she can give birth to me! Is she still afraid of being seen by me?
My sister-in-law is also a master who can't afford to be annoyed, and my wife advised her to take off the skirt that was too short to be short, and the girl's family had better pay attention to the image! She refused as soon as she took a bite, saying that she had the freedom to dress, and said something: "Sister, are you worried that I will seduce my brother-in-law?" As far as his poor sour look is concerned, I can't look at him no matter how handsome he is! "You say you're angry?
The little sister-in-law in the rebellious period likes to top her sister a few words, and what I can't stand most is that my mother-in-law is shouting and shouting at my house at every turn, either scolding my wife or training my daughter, and sometimes I always feel that she means Mulberry scolding Acacia.
Six
I hated more and more the mother and daughter who completely regarded my family as my own, and I couldn't help but complain to my wife secretly, but my wife said: Who told us to borrow so much money from her mother!
I was also angry: we borrowed money, not not to pay it back! I need to force a smile on her for the rest of my life? Besides, if we borrow so much money, they should be supported for a lifetime? Even if you should support your mother, your sister is also in her early twenties, how long will you have to eat and drink in our house?
My wife said a little aggrieved, in fact, she had advised her sister many times, but every time her mother would protect her sister as long as she was there, she would sell the house to support us, which means that she could support us unreservedly in our most difficult time, and now that the two of them have not eaten here for a few days, we actually hate them? What a white-eyed wolf!
My mother-in-law was still screaming with grievances on her face, meaning that she helped us with the children how hard and tired, but we did not appreciate it at all, did not open the salary, and always felt that she had eaten white rice.
At first, I also comforted myself that my mother-in-law and sister-in-law helped with the children, which was better than handing over to the nanny to bring peace of mind, and it would also make my wife more relaxed.
What made me angry was that when I came home one night, I found my daughter wrapped in a thick piece of gauze on her forehead and her eyes were crying into peaches!
I asked for half a day, my wife only swallowed and said that she went to buy vegetables in the afternoon, let her mother help to watch the child for a while, the result was that her mother and her sister only cared about making video calls with relatives in the hometown, the child played alone in the living room, accidentally stumbled, just by the tea table to break the forehead horn, saw the blood flowing, rushed home, hurriedly hugged her daughter to the community clinic for stitches.
I was so distressed to hold my daughter that I was secretly glad that the coffee table was not glass! But I still couldn't help but have a big fight with my wife, "Three women circled around a child, and they also knocked the child like this!" The mind is not on the child at all! ”
The mother-in-law rushed out of the bedroom door, and it was a cliché: "Su Yong, don't point to Sang Huai!" If we hadn't sold our house to support you in starting a business, would we have been angry with you in your house? Otherwise you hurry up and return the money to me, and we will go back to our hometown!" The sister-in-law was also whimpering and crying in the bedroom.
I wanted to blow them all away again, but my mother-in-law poked my weakness, and at this stage I couldn't pay her enough money, and in the end, I had to continue my days in my daughter's country.
Seven
As the saying goes, there is no copper in the waist, and a strong man has no face. In fact, in recent years, affected by the repeated epidemics and the internal involvement of the industry, our small shops have not yet been profitable, almost on the verge of bankruptcy. Back three or four years ago, borrowing money to start a business was the last regrettable decision I ever made. My wife often regretted that she had taken that heavy passbook from her mother!
Once we optimistically planned, the business is good to buy a second-hand house nearby, let the mother-in-law and the sister-in-law live separately, but the plan can not catch up with the change, now I am in debt, every day chicken flying dog jump, in the face of the mother-in-law and the sister-in-law's various ridicule, but powerless to fight back, sometimes it is better to live than to die! I am not a door-to-door son-in-law, but I am full of the pain of those "door-to-door son-in-law"!
Busy in the store on weekdays, I can still drag out as late as possible and then come home, trying to avoid direct confrontation with the members of my daughter country, but the five-day holiday of the Spring Festival is too painful for me. I don't have money to travel, I don't know where to hide in the quiet, and the thought of having to face a few disgusting faces at all times makes my head instantly bigger!
Friends, does your family have such a dead end? Welcome to give me a support!