What kind of married life do men want in middle age? The answers of the three men were highly consistent. -01- What exactly is the marriage of each of us? Is it the graveyard of love, or the validity of love

What kind of married life do men want in middle age? The answers of the three men were highly consistent.

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What exactly is the marriage of each of us? Is it the graveyard of love, or is it the guarantee of the validity of love?

I think that when everyone gets married, they want couples to love each other and be loyal to each other after marriage. From every detail of life, they can feel the continuous love between each other, they can definitely help each other, and then grow old with a blank head.

However, many couples reach middle age, their feelings are rifted, and contradictions emerge endlessly, consuming the love they had for each other when they were young.

Many couples have survived the most difficult seven years of itching and have lived together for more than a decade. However, for some reason, the man's determination to leave his wife eventually led to a rapid breakdown in the relationship between the couple.

It also scares the other half of the marriage, but they don't know what they're doing wrong, much less what kind of life a man wants.

There are too many women, and at the moment when men ask for divorce, they all feel incredible, obviously living well, why do men suddenly ask for separation?

In fact, the reason is very simple. Many women feel that marriage is too simple, always look at conjugal life from their own perspective, and forget to consider men's feelings.

The reason why some men feel that they can't live in middle age is because they can't find the feeling they want in women.

If they don't get the married life they want, men will feel disappointed and even find life boring.

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So, what kind of married life do men want in middle age?

Curious about this question, I interviewed several readers, but I did not expect that their answers were highly consistent. All in all, they all want a simple life.

Wen An, 48, a partner at a professional firm, said: "I want a simple life, and I can eat a hot meal every day when I come home."

Wen An said he and his wife have been together for more than 20 years, and both are particularly busy, rarely getting together for dinner at night.

In the early years, Wen Zhi'an and his good friend partnered to open a company, and they worked hard. Now the company has a certain size.

When a company starts a business, it must drink and socialize, and sometimes work overtime, so Wen always comes home very late.

When I got home, everyone in the house rested for a while. In Wen Zhi'an's view, I was facing a dark, empty home, like plunging headlong into a black abyss that he couldn't struggle with, which made him hate this kind of life.

Therefore, he hoped that every time he came home, there would be a bright light in the house to warm him up, and his wife would be able to cook a meal and sit at the table waiting for him.

However, his wife is also a very busy person and she rarely has time to follow the rhythm of his life.

My wife is in elementary school and she is always responsible for her duties. Naturally, she spends a lot of time at work, and she can't give Wen what she wants.

In this way, the two people quarreled several times because of this matter, and finally fell apart, and such a simple life became the kind that Wen Zhian most longed for.

Zhang Mingyuan, a 46-year-old professional executive chef, said: "The husband and wife life I want is definitely my wife's unconditional support for my work, without giving me any worries."

Zhang Mingyuan is the executive chef of the online celebrity restaurant. He is usually busy with work at night. The wife called him several times because the family needed it, or he couldn't find him, the two got into a big fight, or he answered the phone and was fined by the chef.

Therefore, Zhang Mingyuan hopes that if his wife has a problem, he will not always look for him. If she can solve it herself, she can solve it herself. If she can't fix it, wait until he has time to finish it again.

But Zhang Mingyuan's wife believes that many things happen for a reason, and he really needs to stand up, otherwise how could she contact him?

Zhang Mingyuan also knew that his wife had paid too much for him and the family, and it was right to tell him that there was an emergency at home, but it did have a huge impact on his work.

So he wants their married life to be a simple relationship, help each other, understand each other, the wife can support his work unconditionally, unless something happens to him at home, don't contact him, let him get promoted early, give his wife a better life.

Peng Hao, 45, a career guidance teacher, said: "I want the couple to live as simple and straightforward as the two of us supporting each other."

Although Peng Hao also needs a simple life, he said he would not ask his wife to sacrifice anything for him.

In Peng Hao's view, he believes that husband and wife should be mutually supportive. Don't ask the other party to pay more and sacrifice for yourself because of your own selfish desires.

Peng Hao's lover is a clerk who works nine to five hours a day. She finally became a small leader, but it was difficult to take time off.

Peng Hao is a governess. He usually attends classes in the evenings and on weekends, so he has to do more to take care of his family.

Peng Hao believes that women suffer more or less unfairly at work. If he takes on more family responsibilities, his natural wife can make more progress at work.

Therefore, in his wife's view, Peng Hao is indispensable to his success today. Naturally, in his lifetime, he gave Peng Hao more tolerance and understanding.

Therefore, their husband and wife relationship is particularly loving, which is also what he aspires to and realizes.

To put it bluntly, the conjugal life that men want is actually very simple, filial piety is enough.

Can't be romantic, can't be vigorous, two people together, can live a calm and simple life, it is enough.

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The French thinker Montaigne said: "A happy marriage is a sweet union in life, full of firmness, loyalty, countless beneficial and reliable help and mutual obligations."

A happy marriage is inseparable from the careful management between husband and wife. Take this as the obligation of marriage, and carefully guard the married life, in order to find warmth and sweetness in marriage.

Although many middle-aged men hope that the life of the couple can be simple and clear, and can maintain a comfortable and comfortable relationship, but this requires the joint efforts of both husband and wife.

What kind of fruit you want, you must choose the right seed, carefully care for it in the process of its growth, let the fruit form the shape you want, this is the true meaning of love, but also the maintenance of husband and wife life.