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After watching a movie "Love Myth", I fell in love with Ni Hongjie.
Ni Hongjie plays a "little wild cat", Gloria, who is very satisfied when she talks about her current life: "I am in the best state now, I have money and leisure, and my husband is missing." Gloria is very free and brash, she is an unrestrained woman, "a woman is not complete without dumping 100 men", "a woman is not complete without loving herself well", Gloria lives a very real life, she says she is a little wild cat, but I think she is cute.
But anyone who watches the movie "Love Myth", many people will fall in love with Ni Hongjie, who does not want to live as Gloria? She is so sober, she is a woman who is not bound by love, not bound by love.
Love is not important to her, what is important is to run her own colorful life.
Even Ni Hongjie herself said that she envied Gloria.
The word of mouth of "Love Myth" is bursting, and Ni Hongjie has once again ushered in the second spring of her career, and when she reaches middle age, Ni Hongjie's career not only does not light up the red light, but the operation is getting better and better. On the 23rd, Ni Hongjie's interview video was exposed, in which Ni Hongjie generously talked about her first marriage, and she also talked about her son for the first time.
Ni Hongjie got married very early, she got married in 1999, she got married so early because she wanted to find a home of her own. It is also the relationship of the original family, Ni Hongjie feels that no matter which side of her parents' home is strange to her, even the quilt is strange, because she usually can't live for three weeks, and then she has to leave again.
Perhaps her childhood experience was too impressive, and she wanted a home that really belonged to her and could settle herself down. She went with beautiful expectations for marriage, but who expected that this marriage would drag her into a bottomless pit, her husband failed to start a business, owed more than ten million to the bank, and Ni Hongjie, as a wife, was a common creditor.
Ni Hongjie later filed for divorce, and when she first divorced, her relationship with her son was quite good, but later when she went to see her son, her son's performance made her heart hurt. Ni Hongjie said: "When I go, Grandma will say, then you go to dinner with your mother, the food made by Grandma is not delicious, you go with your mother to eat delicious food outside the restaurant." My son said instantly, crying and saying, 'Grandma, I'm not going to eat.' "The child is still so young, can Ni Hongjie not be distressed?"
When Ni Hongjie talked about her relationship with her son, her tears flowed out unconsciously, obviously instigated by her former mother-in-law, so her son became more and more strange to her, and later simply did not call Ni Hongjie "mother", but called her "Ni Hongjie".
Because of the ex-mother-in-law's provocation in it, Ni Hongjie's relationship with her son was like an enemy, which made her very unacceptable. She also regretted that she didn't take her son with her when she divorced, but how to bring it? She can't always take her children to the crew, and she can't do anything about it.
"Maybe when the child is older, he is now faced with a choice, with grandma, he has to please grandma." When he grows up, he may be able to distinguish between right and wrong. ”
I hate this kind of mother-in-law who stirs up dissension behind your back, your relationship with your daughter-in-law is not good, this is a matter for both of you, why do you want to provoke the children? Of course, I also know what kind of bad heart this mother-in-law hits, she is a kind of revenge, she feels that let the grandson hate the daughter-in-law, let the grandson not kiss her mother, and then she will be happy. This is a very vicious psychology, and it is a tool to use the child as a tool to take revenge on the daughter-in-law, which is selfish and hateful.
Of course, Ni Hongjie is very sad that her former mother-in-law provoked dissension like this, but now she can do anything, she can only manage herself well, when she becomes better and stronger, and wait until the future she also has the courage to be good to her children. In fact, there is really no need to compete with the mother-in-law for a moment of courage, by her to provoke, I do not believe, and when the child grows up, I can't tell who is really good to himself.
The mother-child relationship of blood relatives is really not something that you, an outsider, can provoke.
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Ni Hongjie talked about her son's tears, revealing that the former mother-in-law provoked dissension, and she woke up all divorced women.
After the divorce, although the former mother-in-law always provoked her relationship with her son, she was still not angry and would often go back to see her children. Ni Hongjie did not want to embarrass the child, and she could understand why the child would listen to the grandmother's words, after all, the grandmother personally brought him, and the child could only please the grandmother.
In fact, many divorced women will encounter situations like Ni Hongjie.
Especially after the divorce, the woman did not get custody of the child, and the child followed the ex-husband. Men mostly do not bring children, so children generally live with their former mother-in-law, and the former mother-in-law will treat the former daughter-in-law as an enemy, and will not let the child be close to his mother. Some former mothers-in-law even blocked their daughter-in-law from seeing her children, selfish and selfish, this kind of mother-in-law is very evil, vicious in heart, and it is a kind of revenge psychology for the former daughter-in-law.
In the traditional view of marriage, if a woman is still obsessed with pursuing herself after marriage, there will be some stubborn old people who will accuse you of "improper style". In their view, when a woman is married, she should take good care of her children, take care of her husband, and even serve her in-laws.
I just want to ask: What do you think of women? Is it a person with an independent personality, or a nanny in your house?
Don't look at these stubborn old people themselves are women, but they will not speak for women, let alone have any empathy, they will only stand in the male perspective to accuse women: "Do not abide by the way of women, married and unstable life." 」 ”
Isn't that ridiculous, ridiculous.
So when I hear some people in my life say who is the "outcast" woman, I look at it with suspicion, with a hint of disbelief. I don't think that women insisting on divorcing and pursuing themselves is "abandoning their husbands and children", they are very brave, after all, that marriage is really a siege for them, a "cage".
What did that broken marriage give Ni Hongjie? The ex-husband owes more than ten million debts for her to carry, shouldn't such a marriage be divorced? Why should Ni Hongjie eat dumb losses? It is your son who disobeys and has nothing to do with your daughter-in-law, and why did you take away your daughter-in-law's child?
Ni Hongjie is very strong, she has experienced a broken marriage, after the divorce she filmed well, constantly improved her acting skills, and now she has ushered in a second spring in her career. Not only her career, but also her new love, she has come back to life, woman, you have to understand, you only have to manage yourself well, you have more confidence to fight for yourself, otherwise, what do you fight for?
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Therefore, women should not be afraid of the former mother-in-law to provoke your relationship with the child, do not be knocked down because of this, you must constantly improve yourself, you must fight your career well, only when you manage yourself well, when you want to be good to the child in the future, you are also capable. When your child is older, he will naturally be able to understand you.
Women still have to make themselves stronger, you only have the strength to choose for yourself, you are weak and only obey and endure. Don't define your happiness in a man, don't give up your self-requirements after marriage, and don't be afraid of some extremely absurd remarks of "three views are not correct".
You can choose for yourself, and when you become strong, you can also give your child more help.
I have seen a story where a woman is forced to divorce a man, and then her ex-husband's family does not let her see the child and denigrates her, and her relationship with the child is not good. But then she herself had the ability to help the child, and the child forgave her and understood why her mother chose to leave in the first place, because there was no way.
Make good money, woman; promote yourself well, woman. A man who is not worthy of your love is better not to, or to make himself strong, rather than weak and bullied only obeying.
This article is written for divorced women in the same situation as Ni Hongjie, hoping that you will improve yourself and live beautifully, only if you are really strong, others will not dare to bully you.
Today's topic: After the divorce, will the ex-mother-in-law provoke your relationship with the children? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.
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★ Author: YIBAO; emotional original author, writing about the warm emotional affairs of this world.