Wen | heart
In the original work of "Parental Love", the author Jiang Yaning described his aunt An Xin like this:
My aunt was such a good aunt, she was only two years older than my mother, but she could do anything. The sweaters, sweaters, woolen vests, cotton clothes, cotton pants, and cotton shoes of seven of our brothers and sisters are all from the hands of my aunt, and without my aunt, we are afraid that we will become frozen bones on the road.
Sometimes I wonder if my aunt is only two years older than my mother, and more than my mother's mark, but why is my mother so more delicate than my aunt? Our sisters have discussed this issue many times, and they are very upset for our aunt, and I think it is still my second sister's opinion: our mother is purely accustomed to herself.
Anjie's mother died, and her father fled with a pair of children born to his little wife and little wife, leaving her and her brothers and sisters to live together. Although her sister An Xin was only two years older than her, she automatically took on the responsibility of her mother and took care of Anjie. It is reasonable to say that Anjie should be emotionally close to Anxin and very dependent.
But in fact, whether you read the original book or watch the drama version of "Parental Love", you will find that Anjie is deliberately alienating Anxin. Some people say that Anjie is selfish, narrow-minded, cold and heartless, and her sister loves her so much, but she has no gratitude.
Now that I have read "Parental Love" again, I have finally understood the complex human nature hidden in Anjie's estrangement from Anxin, which is selfish, inferior, love and hate.
Anjie's alienation from Anxin initially stemmed from hatred
Anjie was extremely reluctant to marry Jiang Defu. As a regular employee of a state-owned enterprise, she has culture, looks, and dreams. She has expectations and goals for the people she wants to marry in the future. And Jiang Defu this person is completely contrary to her expectations.
After she first met Jiang Defu, she complained to her sister when she returned home: Look at the appearance of the countryman, there is still a pen inserted, listening to him, I am sure that he knows no more than a hundred words, and the hero pen is simply bad in his pocket.
Anjie is very clear about Jiang Defu's dissatisfaction with An Xin, but still for the sake of the family and his own interests, he has won over the marriage.
In the original work, Jiang Yaning wrote:
My father was constantly in and out of my mother's complicated family, and on several occasions my father was discouraged, and it was my uncle and aunt who gave my father strength and courage. In the subsequent pursuit, my father had already brought with him an element of negativity, and the competitive spirit of the peasants who did not steam steamed Father thought: Lao Tzu has taken down many difficult strongholds when he fought, and I am afraid that you, the bourgeois stinky lady with two long braids, will not succeed?
Her mother fought completely alone in this war, and she finally raised her slim jade hand to her father and obediently followed her father, who was combing the middle point and had a hero's pen in the pocket of his jacket, into the cave.
Anjie, who is not familiar with the world, does not know that although after her father escaped, their family was designated as a small owner, but the eldest sister-in-law is the daughter of the village bully, and An Xin's fiancé Ouyang Yi is also a bad composition, and was later designated as a rightist.
This makes Antai and Anxin panic, and they are worried about the future of the family. At this time, Jiang Defu, who happened to be a naval officer, took a fancy to the little sister, which was like a dying person who saw a glimmer of life and would naturally grasp it firmly.
Anjie has always been protected under the wings of her brother and sister, naturally she does not know the crisis of the family, all she sees is that her brother and sister pushed the reluctant her to Jiang Defu for their own interests.
Especially when Jiang Defu was sent to the desolate Shubian to take up his post, Anjie was even more devastated, preferring to be pregnant and carry two children rather than leave Qingdao.
At that moment, she felt "like a good family woman who was abducted by human traffickers", and the person who sold her was her own brother and sister.
Anjie, who couldn't survive for half a year, once again compromised and went to the desert island to find Jiang Defu.
When an Angel arrived at the border island, although it became a beautiful scenery on the island, she was concerned and envied by the people on the island everywhere she went, but she lost her job from then on (in the drama version, Anjie was a teacher on the island, and in the original work, she went to the border island as a family member of the army, and did not work), and completely became a housewife who relied on Jiang Defu for survival.
When the jar was broken, she also gave birth to seven children in one go, and at this time she was full of disappointment in life. She didn't have the patience a mother should have, she was tired of such a busy and noisy life, and her eyes were always looking into the distance, as if that was what she thought home and children looked like.
Although Enron lived a life of material abundance and no worries, her spiritual level was not happy. She was paradoxical, enjoying the affirmation of her identity brought to her by the officer's wife, and missing the freedom and spiritual pleasure of being Miss Ann.
Anjie believes that his becoming what he is now is not unrelated to the impetus of his brother and sister at that time. Although An xin and An Tai did not have a good life for her later, Anjie still felt that she had been betrayed, so she had a grudge against her brother and sister.
Especially for her sister An Xin, she married her favorite Ouyang Yi, which made Anjie feel aggrieved, angry and even inferior, she hated An Xin from the heart, and naturally alienated the sisterhood between the two.
Anjie's dissatisfaction with marriage is the beginning of An Xin's estrangement, and she is afraid that Ouyang Yi, who has become a rightist, will affect Jiang Defu's career, which is the real reason why she deliberately alienated An Xin.
Anjie's selfishness and narrow-mindedness made An Xin feel cold
Anjie's marriage to Jiang Defu did bring a lot of benefits to An Xin and Antai, and there may be some that they did not expect.
In the original work, the author Jiang Yaning described it like this:
When my uncle and aunt joined forces to push my mother into my father's arms, in addition to thinking that my father had the ability to let my mother live a well-fed life, they also considered their own interests, but they highlighted the former and concealed the latter.
In previous campaigns, uncles and aunts from bad backgrounds, when filling out various political trial forms, in addition to honestly filling in the fleeing grandfather, in the social relations column, they would unceremoniously fill in my father. On a political trial form, the presence of my father's fat body pressed against it was enough to compete with my grandfather who had fled.
My father did more than that for them; the two sons and a daughter of my uncle's family, and the two daughters of my aunt's family were all brought to the army by my father, joined the party, promoted to work, and became a college student of workers, peasants, and soldiers.
For this reason, Anjie has always regarded herself as a hero in the family, and she is content to enjoy the compliments and meticulous care of her sisters and brothers.
In the TV series, An Xin and Ouyang Yi were sent to Xiaohei Island. In the original work, Anxin never left Qingdao, and every time she came from Qingdao to see Anjie, she came with a large bag and a small bag, and she left empty-handed.
Even Jiang Yaning, who was still a child, said:
We went to the dock to drop them off, amazed at the contrast between the luggage they had brought and the luggage they were about to take. In front of them, we were like my father's country relatives, which made us feel embarrassed.
Anjie was calm, and she felt that her sister should reciprocate her in this way. When Ouyang Yi was beaten to the right, she deliberately alienated herself from An Xin, for fear of affecting Jiang Defu's career.
In the original work, Ouyang Yi was a college student at Tsinghua University, and when he married An Xin, he was an assistant researcher at a research institute in Beijing, and later caught up with the movement, and returned to his native Qingdao from Beijing in a gray and slippery way, with a rightist hat on his head.
Jiang Defu didn't care about the hat on his head, just as he didn't care about Anjie's origin. Jiang Defu said to Anjie: "The party's policy is to punish the former and punish the latter, treat the sick and save people. The hat should be worn for him, and the relatives should also go with him, and the sports should not be mixed with the relatives who walked! ”
Having said that, Anjie was still estranged from his sister An xin's family.
Later, Ouyang Yi fell ill, or Jiang Defu asked Anjie to take him to the island for recuperation. Ouyang Yi this person has his high and unpopular side, originally under the eaves, but did not know how to restrain.
Once, he half-jokingly told Anjie that his brother-in-law's officials were really good, approving documents, holding meetings and saying some vernacular.
Anjie knew that Ouyang Yi was laughing at Jiang Defu's lack of culture, which also happened to talk about her pain points, so he hit back, is it good to be good, I don't know if you are a rightist who is good or not?
In a word, Ouyang Yi's face was sallow and sweaty.
Anjie was like that, she was used to the feeling of being on top and being looked up to. Her husband, Jiang Defu, as the highest official on the border island, can be said to hold the power of life and death of the people on the island.
Jiang Defu was cautious, modest and peaceful, and had a high reputation on the island, and people also respected his wife Anjie, which was the honor that Anjie had obtained with the help of Jiang Defu, but she was accustomed to such a feeling of looking down on everyone, and after being ridiculed by her brother-in-law, she immediately turned her lips to ridicule, and also targeted him in the most deadly place.
Anjie does things, everywhere is full of selfishness and villainism, really not as good as Anxin atmosphere and frankness. She lacks empathy for everyone, does not know how to empathize, and has never put herself in the shoes of An Xin for her sister and brother-in-law.
Her life was under the protection of Jiang Defu and did not undergo any hardships and humiliations. That's why she can be happy in her own world, and she doesn't even think about whether what she does will bring harm to others.
An Xin is also for this, a little cold to his own sister's heart. She was prettier than Anjie, more capable than she was, but she was a little unlucky to catch up with that age.
Although she was hit hard by life, she was still strong and confident, always gentle and always open-minded. Compared with Anjie's arrogance and conceit, I admire Anxin's self-improvement and stubbornness.
No matter what Anjie does or says, An xin, as the eldest sister, can always be big and melt, and then carefully maintain this sisterhood.
An Xin and An Jie lived two different lives
Once I watched "Parental Love", I also envied Anjie, there was a husband who loved himself and had the ability to shield himself from the wind and rain; there was a sister-in-law Dehua who helped raise so many children together, and did not ask for returns for hard work; and there were children who did not want to bother, but they all grew up so well.
Anjie can be described as a winner in life in our worldly eyes.
However, with the increase of age, the experience increases, and I have a deeper understanding and understanding of the human nature of life. But I like An Xin more and more, like her not to forget the original intention, insist on being my own calm. She will always be the elegant girl who can talk about cooking smoke and pay attention to life.
By the end of her life, Anjie had already been assimilated by Jiang Defu, and her son-in-law Wang Haiyang explained her life like this:
Your father, Jiang Defu, and your mother, Anjie, have been on a long, painful journey toward each other since the day they were married. They each walked toward each other, each moving closer to each other, they walked and walked, getting closer and closer, and they saw that they were about to win the victory, but they came to a bad lucky passing by. So your country father, Jiang Defu, walked onto the city's asphalt roads, while your mother, Anjie, walked onto the country's field paths.
Anjie has never grown up in this life, and she is too well protected by Jiang Defu, so she gradually loses herself. She is self-righteous, willful, no one is really friends with her, she is actually just relying on the silk flower of Jiang Defu's life, and she will inevitably follow jiang Defu's footsteps and gradually evolve into the one she does not want to be the most.
Mr. Lu Xun once wrote in "Chao Hua Xi Shi": Life is sometimes inevitably in trouble, but the nobility of people lies in the fact that they still maintain their integrity in difficulties, and they must not indulge themselves and let wrong desires flood.
An Xin is different, she treats people kindly, is gentle and elegant, speaks decently, advances and retreats, and makes everyone who is with her feel like a spring breeze.
Although her life has twists and turns, but more and more frustrated and courageous, until the old age still maintains an elegant and noble temperament, Anjie looks at such a sister, the heart must also be full of mixed tastes!
Write at the end
An Xin and Anjie, like all the sisters around us, have an atmospheric tolerant and understanding sister (or sister), and there is a selfish and arbitrary sister (sister).
The two competed with each other in private, but in their hearts they missed each other. Meet and argue, don't meet and think. Although they hate each other, they all want each other to live well.
I remember Dou Wentao talking to everyone about brotherhood and sisterhood on "Round Table Pie", and he talked about his three brothers.
He said that the three brothers had not seen each other in several years, and there was nothing to talk about, so it could be said that the feelings between them were very indifferent.
But if he let his brother and his good friend Wen Dao (Dou Wentao's long-time friend and also a business partner) choose either one to go bankrupt, then he would not hesitate to choose Wen Dao to go bankrupt.
This is probably the purest and truest affection between brothers and sisters, and this feeling of blood connection cannot deceive people, let alone deceive themselves.
There are still a few days to the Spring Festival of national celebration, is the day of the reunion of all our families, I wish all our sisters, brothers, abandon the previous suspicions, temporarily forget their social identity, the winners do not be arrogant, the losers are not discouraged, all retain the innocence of childhood, and their flesh and blood relatives open their hearts, happy family!