The girl was dissuaded from kindergarten 4 times, and after reading it, she directly called "deserved", and such parents should really reflect on it
Children who are not independent will never grow up
As a parent, we must pay attention to cultivating children's independence from an early age
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Not long ago, I saw such a case on the Internet
A 4-year-old girl who was dissuaded 4 times in a row in a year
And these four kindergartens have given the same reason for the child's dismissal: the child's life is completely unable to take care of himself!
It turned out that this little girl named Tong Tong had been pampered since she was a child
As a result, she was born prematurely, so her family was extra protective of her, especially her mother
Eat to feed, drink water to feed, go to the toilet to follow, wipe your butt and get dressed, and don't let the children do it themselves
This leads to children in kindergarten every day, either not eating, or peeing pants and pulling pants
Although the teacher occasionally helps, after all, the teacher has to take care of a dozen or even dozens of children, so it is impossible to pay attention to her all the time
And Tong Tong, who has been pampered for a long time, has a difficult personality to get along with, is more selfish and overbearing, often clashes with other children, grabs other people's toys, reaches out to hit others, and if the teacher criticizes, he will also hit the teacher
So she went to school for less than half a year before she was persuaded to quit by the teacher of the first kindergarten
Later, he moved to a second kindergarten, but this time for less than a month, the head of the kindergarten personally issued a notice of dismissal to the parents
Then Tong Tong's mother contacted the third kindergarten, and as a result, when people heard about Tong Tong's situation, they directly refused
In desperation, Tong Tong's mother went around asking people to find a relationship, and finally sent her daughter to the fourth kindergarten
As a result, soon, there was a "pants lifting" incident, and this time the anxious TongTong mother actually went to the battlefield herself and the teacher to fight with each other
As a result, the teacher did not give in and pointed it out directly
"I am not a nanny, the teacher's duty is to take care of every little friend, not to take special care of your child, and what I need to teach my child is to understand civility, be polite, and make them independent, rather than doing everything for your child all day, pampering her, and following her"
As the saying goes, habits are like killing children, and many parents in life use the name of love
Pampering children from an early age and taking care of children in every detail, the result is not only that they are tired, but also seriously hinder the growth and development of children
Just like Kirito, in the end her dad took her to the hospital for a check-up
As a result, the doctor told them that the growth and development of Tongtong was obviously much slower than that of normal children, especially cognitive and social skills, which basically stayed in the stage of 2 or 3 years old
Now Tong Tong is actually four years old
And Tong Tong's mother, after experiencing a series of setbacks and bumping into walls, also deeply regrets that she really should not spoil her children too much
As parents, we must not feel that our children are still young
Do everything, remember that today you are used to him, tomorrow others will not
Especially parents of kindergarten children, we must reflect on ourselves
Remember, education starts with a doll
02
3 preparations that must be done before kindergarten
Around the age of 3, many parents will send their children to kindergarten
It is also the first time a child has left home with his parents
When I first come into contact with group life, even if some children have taken early education classes before, there is still a big difference
So at this time, everything around, including teachers and classmates
It is very strange to children, so there are many children who suffer from severe "separation anxiety disorder" or "phobia" during kindergarten, resulting in everything not going well in school
Then if parents want to make their children easy and enjoyable, they must be prepared in advance
These 3 things, parents must pay attention to
1. Prepare your emotions and help your child learn to express themselves in advance
Parents take care of their children from an early age, and many times a tacit understanding is formed between the two
As long as the child frowns, parents will basically understand what the child wants to do, or what needs
But for teachers, on the one hand, there is less time with children, and on the other hand, there are more children to take care of
So many times, instead of the child's small action hints, the teacher will react immediately to help him
This requires parents to teach their children to express themselves in advance
For example, in the case of going to the toilet, teach the child to say things like "I want to stink" when defecating, and the child will have a lot less trouble
2. Be mentally prepared to help the simulation adapt to the daily life of the kindergarten in advance
Generally speaking, 2 and 3-year-old children's self-awareness begins to develop, at which time their comprehension and hands-on ability will enter a new stage. Therefore, parents can help their children simulate adaptation to the daily routine of kindergarten in advance
For example, you can accompany your child to read picture books, do games, and depict the happy things of kindergarten for your children
At this time, the child will form a good expectation psychologically
When it comes time to actually go to school, it is less repulsive and difficult to adapt
In addition, many kindergartens will also hold some kindergarten experience activities on a regular basis, as parents, they should pay more attention to their target kindergartens
Once you find an activity, actively sign up to participate in it, so that the child can adapt to the environment early
Of course, the most important point is to let children understand in advance, even if they are in kindergarten
Mom and Dad still love their babies. Going to school doesn't mean being separated from mom and dad, it's just that your baby has to study and wait until school is over
Mom and Dad will definitely go early to pick up the baby and bring it home
In this way, it is possible to avoid negative emotions due to separation anxiety in children, which will affect the child's performance and learning status
3. Be prepared for social interaction and help your child understand the rules of interpersonal communication in advance
I often hear some parents complain
Their own children always can't get into kindergarten, and the result is that going to kindergarten every day is like going to a "slaughterhouse"
I have to cry every day
Indeed, a bad social environment has a significant impact on people's emotions
Even adults, if they don't fit in well, don't want to stay
For children around the age of 3, it is the time when they begin to crave socializing
They were very sensitive to social interaction during this period
But at the same time, they are relatively lacking in social skills and do not know how to deal with the relationship with the people around them
We often see children who express joy or like in a way that is to shout excitedly and even move their hands
Therefore, as parents, we must explain some social rules to our children in advance
For example, you can't cut in line, you can't hit people, you can't grab toys with others, and so on
In this way, when children enter kindergarten, they will get along with people much more smoothly
4. Be mentally prepared and help read related picture books in advance
Some people say that the reason why people are afraid of things and afraid of things is because of the unknown
The same is true for children
The reason why they have a mental fear of kindergarten is that they are not familiar with it
Therefore, parents must help their children understand the kindergarten in advance, and they can accompany their children to see relevant picture books in peacetime
For example, when my son was there, I read a lot of picture books with him
Including "I am the best in kindergarten", "you are my good friend", "after school, who will pick me up", "Mom, I want to go to kindergarten", etc., this series of picture books for children to familiarize themselves with the kindergarten environment and process has a great help, here is also recommended to everyone, I hope to help you
Well, that's it for today, see you next time