The 4-year-old child was dissuaded from kindergarten 4 times, and the teacher's words are worth pondering
Tong Tong, the 4-year-old son of a friend's family, has been dissuaded by 4 kindergartens in a row, and the reasons for the dismissal are so similar.
Although Tong Tong was born prematurely, under the careful care of Tong Tong's mother, she grew very strong, and she could not see that she was only 4 years old. Under the love of her mother, 4-year-old Tong Tong is almost unable to take care of herself, after going to kindergarten, she will not eat independently, she will not go to the toilet independently, and she will not call the teacher when she defecates, and she will directly pee in her pants. They can't get along well with other children, grab people's toys without a word, bite people at every turn, fight, and be rude to teachers.
For various reasons, Tong Tong was politely rejected by the teacher after half a semester in the first kindergarten;
After half a month in the second kindergarten, he was persuaded to leave by the head of the kindergarten;
The third kindergarten is more direct, the interview has not passed, and the teacher bluntly does not accept children who cannot take care of themselves;
It was difficult to trust the relationship, went to the fourth kindergarten, and as a result, because of the "lifting of pants", TongTong's mother was persuaded to resign again by the head of the kindergarten after the class group and the teacher exchanged fears.
In the mutual pity, the teacher said bluntly: Don't treat every teacher as your child's nanny, the kindergarten is a place to cultivate children's good habits, and it is a place to teach children to understand good habits such as politeness, not partial eating, and not picky eating.
Looking at the teacher's words, Pino's mother also felt that the teacher was telling the truth, and also advised her friends to reflect. Later, friends took the child to the hospital to insist, and found that the child's growth and development were very slow, whether it was fine motor, cognition, language or social skills development, it was only the standard of 2-3-year-old children.
After the doctor's careful inquiry of Tongtong's parents, the cause of developmental delay was found: the family was too doting on the child, doing everything, depriving the child of the opportunity to move and think, and losing the ability to learn to take care of himself.
Listening to the doctor's words, Tong Tong's mother also blamed herself, and she did not expect that her love for her children had become hurt.
Pino's mother actually understands Tong Tong's mother, the child is premature, natural care is more, but the habit is like killing a child, blindly pampering the child, and finally let the child be dissuaded by a number of kindergartens.
02 If you want your child to be "free from sin" in kindergarten, these preparations should be done in advance
For children around 3 years old, going to kindergarten is indeed a challenge: leaving home and parents, entering the collective life of kindergarten, teachers and classmates are strangers to children, and the fear in their hearts can be imagined, so the kindergarten door can always see a crying scene of "life and death".
If you want your child to adapt to kindergarten easily, not cry or fall in love with kindergarten, parents need to be prepared for 3 o'clock before their children go to school.
Teach your child to express and prepare your emotions
Parents know their children very well, as soon as the baby's mouth moves, they know that he wants to drink water; when the little fart moves, they know that he wants to go to the toilet, but in the kindergarten, just by "mouth, little fart", the teacher can't understand.
Therefore, before going to kindergarten, parents should teach their children to express their needs and ideas, what they want and what they want to eat, and try to let their children express them in words.
Familiarize yourself with the daily life of kindergarten and be mentally prepared
2-3 years old children, receptivity and comprehension ability are greatly improved, parents can accompany their children to read kindergarten-related picture books, tell interesting things about kindergarten, let children know that going to kindergarten is very interesting, psychologically accept and like kindergarten.
If conditions permit, parents can also take time to take their children to experience the kindergarten in advance, let the children be familiar with the kindergarten environment, teachers, and tell the children that in the kindergarten, the teacher is the father and mother, is trustworthy, and anything can find a teacher.
The most important thing is to let the child understand: going to kindergarten is not that mom and dad don't want him, and when school is over, mom and dad will come to pick him up.
If the child does not understand the kindergarten at all before going to kindergarten, suddenly leaves the parents and goes to an unfamiliar environment, it is likely to produce resistance, fear, and school-weariness, so that it cannot adapt to the life of the kindergarten, which is also not conducive to the child's mental health.
Follow the rules and be prepared to socialize
Most of the children aged 3-6 are in a socially sensitive period, but at the same time they do not know how to socialize, and there are no parents around, entering the group life alone, both nervous and expectant.
Therefore, before entering the kindergarten, parents should teach their children to abide by the rules in the kindergarten, such as playing games to have a sense of queuing, not to lose their temper, to have a good talk, not to compete for toys, etc. If the "overlord" behavior at home is brought to the kindergarten, not only will parents be complained about, but children will also be easily excluded by children and disliked by teachers.
After going to kindergarten, the reason why many children resist going to kindergarten is that they do not understand the life of kindergarten; second, they have separation anxiety; and third, they lack self-care ability. Therefore, parents can help their children prepare for kindergarten in advance, such as increasing their children's awareness of kindergarten, improving social skills and self-care skills.
Want to eliminate the child's fear of kindergarten, the best way is to enhance the child's understanding of the kindergarten, parents may wish to accompany their children to read more kindergarten-related picture books, through the picture book really presented kindergarten scene, let the child understand the kindergarten, eliminate the fear of the kindergarten, learn the correct behavior and practices, to help the child prepare for the kindergarten.