Introduction: With the progress of society and the development of the times, people's ideological concepts and thinking cognition are also undergoing earth-shaking changes, and more and more independent women in the new era no longer regard marriage as a compulsory topic in life.
Although this idea is still a little contrary to mainstream values, it does not prevent them from living the life they want in their own way and handing over a perfect answer sheet of their own.
Presumably, everyone is familiar with the name Ye Haiyang, she is a new era independent woman who has become the CEO of a company at the age of 28 with her continuous efforts. Having achieved economic freedom, although she did not want to get married, the idea of wanting children sprouted in her heart, so she chose to go to the United States to "buy sperm and have children" and use scientific and technological means to help her achieve this wish.
Judging from the various interactive videos ye Haiyang posted on social media with her daughter, as well as the growth records of her daughter, her baby daughter Doris grew up to be sunny and cute and bright, and her eccentric personality and beautiful high appearance are even more endearing, so it has also gained the envy and love from many netizens. Of course, the quality of a thing always has its two sides, when some netizens are envious of it, some netizens have questioned it.
In the questioning voices from some netizens, the most expressed is the "absence of father's love", in response to this, Ye Haiyang has also intuitively expressed that she will do her best to give her daughter all the love "from the mother" and "from the father" to let the daughter grow up happily.
On the contrary, in daily life, those seemingly complete families, the father becomes the "invisible person", all the big and small matters about the child's growth process are left to the mother to take care of, and only see themselves as a "money-making machine" to support the family.
Ignoring any problems in the process of children's growth, posing as a high-ranking person in the whole family, directing everything in the family, and having no companionship and care for the role of mother, let alone understanding and help, so that the role of mother is forced to become a real "widowed" parenting in the process of child growth. So, what are the drawbacks of "widowed parenting" in the process of children's growth? What harm will it bring to the child's growth?
01, easy to lead to children's lack of security
Mother's love is like water, father's love is like a mountain, and the father's "love" is the most practical and reliable harbor for children, and the most powerful support behind children's grievances.
The role of father is a symbol of safety as the child grows up, a presence that gives the child strength. When the role of the father is absent for a long time in the process of the child's growth, the child will not feel the sense of security transmitted by the father, and over time, some children will become cowardly and timid, lack of security.
02, easy to cause children to have bad psychological problems
In the process of growing up, the father's long-term absence will make the child feel a sense of abandonment and loneliness from the heart. Many problems that should be solved by the father, when the full power is replaced by the mother, will have an impact on the child's heart, either leading to excessive self-protection or excessive self-defense, both of which are undesirable extreme psychological manifestations.
The integrity of the family structure does not mean the soundness of family responsibilities, and the lack of family structure does not represent the lack of family responsibilities. So, for a family with a complete structure, how to ensure that the role of the father is "not missing", so that the child can thrive in a healthy family atmosphere and a good family relationship?
03, the father should consciously take time to accompany the child
When the "little angel" comes to the family, as a parent there is an obligation to be responsible for this little life, and the father needs to realize that the growth of the child is not a matter for the mother alone.
No matter how busy the work is, fathers need to consciously set aside time to accompany their children, whether it is to accompany their children to play games when they are young, or to accompany their children to talk when they grow up, etc., which are indispensable. In this way, children can feel the love and companionship from their fathers in the process of growing up, and grow up happily with their hearts.
04. Pay attention to your child's mental health
In the process of children's growth, most of the mother plays the role of psychological counselor, but many times, the child's psychological problems, solved by the father may achieve double the effect with half the effort.
For example, in the face of the child's timidity and cowardice, only by the mother to guide the preaching, the child may only be able to understand from the heart, and at this time, if it is replaced by the father, then the child can not only understand in the depths of the heart, but also subjectively feel the protection and security from the father, and can become brave and determined more quickly.
05. Committed to creating a good family atmosphere
As the saying goes: "Father loves mother, is the best education for children", a good and harmonious family atmosphere, for the growth of children has an absolute role in helping.
Therefore, as a father, in daily life, we must also understand the wife's difficulty, give the wife enough care and help in all kinds of small details in daily life, and avoid leaving all the family affairs to the wife's full authority, and the behavior of shouting and drinking to the wife at every turn.
Tips: Only by striving to create a warm and harmonious family growth environment for children can children grow up carefree and happy in a relaxed and pleasant atmosphere.
In the early hours of the morning, mom came to nag:
I hope that every father can fulfill his or her due responsibility and keep his mother away from the sadness of "widowed parenting". Fathers and mothers can work together to create a good and harmonious environment for their children to grow up and escort the healthy development of their physical and mental health.
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