We have a saying in China, "three years old to see big, seven years old to see old", in fact, to some extent with the "sensitive period" in child psychology has a certain similarity, because many of the child's sensitive periods mostly appear in 3-6 years old, if parents can sensitively capture children's behavioral information during this period, and use scientific methods to guide and educate, then children will be very relaxed after going to school.
For example, many children who write homework after primary school rub mostly because their parents do not capture the child's independent signal before school age, and do everything for the child, resulting in children's dependence on adults in behavior and thought, so that writing homework is unwilling to think, and there is a little difficulty to use procrastination to escape.
For example, those children who are not good at interacting with people and cannot integrate into the crowd are mostly parents who do not realize that their children let their children handle interpersonal relationships independently at the age of interacting with others, resulting in children not knowing how to get along with people.
There are also children with poor language skills and weak communication skills, most of them are because their parents miss the best language sensitivity period and do not effectively guide and cultivate their children in language, so they lead to children's "noble language late".
3-6 years old can be said to be a critical period that affects the child's life, and is an important period for the child's personality and intelligence and quality shaping, so what are the key growth points for 3-year-old children?
I have read a set of books dedicated to the sensitive period before the age of 6, one is called "3 years old is right, a lifetime is right", and there is a book called "accompanying children through the sensitive period of 3-6 years old", in these two books, the author talks about a lot of 3-year-old children's growth key points, I summarize the content as follows:
Child psychologists pointed out: "A certain period in the process of children's psychological development, compared with other periods, is more likely to accept and learn a certain knowledge and some behaviors in daily life, which is the most rapid stage in the process of children's development, so this stage is called the sensitive period."
Question 1: How to judge the occurrence of a child's sensitive period?
Observing our baby will find that the baby often does something for a long time or is very focused on something, which means that it is in a certain stage of sensitivity.
For example, babies will be very fond of eating after a few months of life or only know how to eat whenever they get a toy. Many of our parents will stop it immediately because they are afraid that the toys are dirty or that their hands are unhygienic. But this method just makes the child lose the opportunity to grow, because these behaviors indicate that the child is in the sensitive stage, called the oral sensitivity period. Children in this period cannot express that they can only discern things in such a way.
Question 2: When does your child's sensitive period occur?
Such a question is equivalent to asking me, what is the best time for a child's education? Children are very important from prenatal education, from the baby's birth after the sensitive period has been accompanied, but the most important sensitive period of the child, in fact, concentrated in the 3 to 6 years old stage.
In the book "Accompanying Children through the Sensitive Period of 3-6 Years Old", the author emphasizes a point of view: seize the best educational opportunity, children will absorb knowledge and learn knowledge faster and better, and use the right method to cultivate children with half the effort.
What are the sensitive periods for children? There are a total of 31 sensitive periods, which are also very short, and many times the sensitive period will be accompanied by some vicious habits of children, if parents do not pay attention, it is likely to stifle the child's development in the cradle.
For example, children like to scribble on the wall, cut all kinds of paper, parents will be afraid of children's safety, preventing children but this is the development of a hands-on sensitive period of children, at this time the child is only 3 years old, casually touch scissors, knives are very dangerous Most parents will stop the child's behavior. Some parents will say, "Our child's hands-on ability is too poor, and the scissors will not be used." So the rhetorical question, our parents have been worried about the safety of their children not to let them use, how can the children be? Right?
"Accompany the child through the sensitive period of 3-6 years old" to give parents a small skill: to the child to do a demonstration, let the child operate by himself, is the best way, the child's imitation ability is very strong, guide the child how to use, while encountering problems let the child find a way to solve it, will also exercise the child's brain thinking active, the more the child thinks about the problem at the same time, the more he will have the ability to solve the problem, the stronger the social communication ability. Why not be a win-win?
The sensitive period of the hand is also called the sensitive period of cutting, pasting, painting and so on, and this age is generally 3 to 4 years old when the child enters the kindergarten. This time is often accompanied by the following characteristics:
Children will pay attention to the need for tools and begin to consciously use tools such as scissors, knives, colored paper, etc
This period is the best time to cultivate your child's concentration, so that your baby can form a certain concentration and don't bother your child when they are serious about doing something.
During this period, parents and friends will find that whether in the classroom or at home, as long as there are sufficient materials, no matter what period the child can cut, paste, paint, and draw at will.
We analyze from the perspective of physical development, the child is also the development of small muscles at this time, training children's small muscle movements, cultivating children's hand-eye coordination ability is also a very important link, and it is also one of the important tasks for the growth of children.
During this period, we must not worry about the child's danger, we should cultivate the child's safety awareness during use, so that the baby can learn to protect himself during use, rather than stopping the child from using these tools because of danger.
"Accompanying children through the sensitive period of 3-6 years old" The advice given to parents in the book: Parents only need two things to do:
The first is to explain to the child where scissors, knives and dangerous tools are dangerous, how to use them, try to get dangerous tools, place them, and so on.
Then it is necessary to provide the child with the materials he needs and try not to disturb the child who is concentrating on his work. Where the child has a mistake or encounters difficulties in the process and does not bother, as long as it does not come to ask for help, parents and friends can completely watch the proverbial saying: the concept of not being angry, not being upset, not being embarrassed is very suitable for children at this age.
First, what are you going to do now? Let the child know how far he has completed and the logic of completing a job
Second, what do you want to do next? This is to let the child know what to do, how to complete it, and to have a concept in mind to be able to complete it with confidence and confidence.
Finally, is there anything I need help with? If the child does not ask for help, then take the initiative to help the child, let the child speak out the problems that need help, and it is also the cultivation of the child's logical thinking and the cultivation of language.
Children who do not ask are generally not clear about the way of thinking, do not know what to do, what to do; On the other hand, it is the lack of expression ability to express what it is not clear and unclear.
There are many difficulties and problems in the process of baby development, today we talked about a sensitive period, and then we talk about how to deal with the problems and difficulties encountered by children.
Some parents will say that this is not simple, and I will help my children to solve it?
In fact, children sometimes do not need help but a kind of inspiration, the well-known story of a mother who saw her child fall, not directly supported, but also fell and then let the child see how he got up, and finally the child stood up on his own. This story tells us that for children we should use the right way to let them learn to be self-reliant, so that children learn to live independently. Therefore, when children encounter problems, there are generally three problems:
If your child does something wrong:
First, why are you doing this? Can you tell me what you think? Remember that when children make mistakes, they will have their own thinking, and often do not know whether they are right or wrong.
Second, have you considered the consequences of doing so? At this time, the child will be encouraged to think that such behavior is wrong and will cause certain adverse consequences.
Finally, how do you think we should solve it? Let the child think of the solution to the problem on his own, let the child solve his own problems, and be responsible for his own behavior.
We said that the sensitive period and solving the child's difficult problems, this way is also used in the sensitive period to constantly ask the child, let the child form their own thinking, is the most effective way to promote the child's progress.
Children make mistakes in the sensitive period, is the desire for world cognition, how to inspire children, guide children is the problem that wise parents have to think about, "3 years old is right, a lifetime is right", "accompany the child through the 3-6 years old sensitive period" This set of books is recommended to everyone, the family has preschool children, it is recommended that everyone take a look, seize the sensitive period, use the right way to guide the child, cultivate children's good thinking, learning and living habits, after the child goes to school, parents will be very relaxed.
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