Remember this girl?
When you go on a blind date, you have to open your mouth to spend 10,000 pocket money every month.
Directly intimidated by the young man: "What qualifications do you have?" ”
The girl was right: "You can't give because your financial strength is not good, the boyfriends of the girls around me are willing to give, they think this money is nothing." ”
No wonder, it turns out that the girl's values are influenced by the friends around her, then we have to reflect, what friends are you making?
I agree with the young man's saying: "You take someone else's money, you have to use something else to repay, you have to think clearly, will this be appropriate?" ”
Maybe the girl still didn't think clearly, this is not, changed a face and identity, and ran out on a blind date again.
This time, the girl no longer revealed her profession in beauty, only said that she was a working person, and did not mention pocket money, but changed to a higher requirement.
The boy who was close to her looked honest and responsible, working in a private company, earning more than 10,000 a month, and looking quite handsome.
The girl sat still and directly put forward her own requirements: "The house must be more than 180 square meters, after marriage, I have a room with you, a room for the child, a room for your parents, and a room for your parents. ”
It sounds like that, but there are also questions, 120 square meters also have four bedrooms and a living room, why 180 square meters?
The girl did not answer the call, and put forward a second request: "The bride price is 500,000, my mother raised me so well, beautiful and versatile, I have learned a lot of art since I was a child, 500,000 is a must." ”
It is said that people who study art are more intelligent, how can this not be reflected in the girl, open their mouths and put themselves in the seller's market, smart people know that they are priceless, so simple to quote the value, give the other party the space to counteroffer, is this not putting yourself in a bad position?
Girls want a bride price when they get married, which in traditional thinking is a kind of color, and it is also a blessing from parents to their juniors.
Under normal circumstances, when talking about marriage, the man's parents run to the woman's home, ask what etiquette to follow, and then put forward the amount of the bride price, and after the parents of both parties agree, they are sent to the woman's home as a gift, which is called etiquette.
I really haven't seen the girl on a blind date, directly put the bride price on the table, but also boasted that she read a lot of books, I really don't know what she learned?
Sure enough, the girl asked for a dowry of 500,000, which made it difficult for the boy to accept, he estimated that he liked the girl's appearance, and did not refuse, but said in a consultative tone: "500,000 is too much, I can't get it." ”
The girl is worthy of being a good hand in business, and she tilted her head and asked, "So how much do you earn in a month?" ”
Knowing that there were more than ten thousand, the girl's eyes rolled, and said: "Then you can't pick up a girl in vain, my mother has spent so much effort to cultivate me, my mother said that if a man is not willing to spend money, he just doesn't love you, my mother will not lie to me, I believe my mother." ”
There is a saying that goes like this: "A good mother brings blessings to the house." ”
A short-sighted mother will also let her daughter take many detours, this girl, from a young age, under the indoctrination of her mother, to find a reliance, the list of trees to cool off.
As everyone knows, when you are incapable, the tree will also think that you are a burden.
Learning to play chess and calligraphy well is not to please others, but to give you more space for thinking and a pair of aesthetic eyes.
When girls talk about feelings, they believe that their parents' words are correct, but they must also have a sense of discernment, absorb the values of the right, and discard the wrongs, rather than accepting them all.
The same is true for boys, you can like a person, but if the other person says something wrong, you can completely refuse, there is no need to pay for other people's lives.
The boy was very simple, and as soon as the girl said a few words, he revealed the bottom line, he said: "I can come up with 200,000 to 300,000 dowry, and marriage will definitely cost money, which I am prepared for." ”
When the girl heard this, she had to move forward: "I want a car, at least a BMW 5 Series, if the car is just a means of transportation, it is not interesting." ”
The implication is that the car still has to be her face, how hypocritical it must be, and the successive demands are more excessive than ten thousand pocket money per month, and also make the boy shake his head: "This girl can't be punished." ”
Although she looks very cute, if she looks good, she can ask for it so recklessly, and she can only say that her thinking is simple.
For girls, if they want to meet the right person on a blind date, money should not be the first to be proposed.
First, you have to understand the other person's abilities.
A man's work is the guarantee of future life, you can also see the ability and knowledge from the other person's work, and make a judgment that it is not possible to further communicate.
Second, let's talk about the values of life.
The same three views of each other can make life better integrated, if the two people's thinking is not in the same channel, even if you marry into the rich, your life may not be better.
Also, look at each other's life experiences.
Through experience, you can judge a person's personality, the other party's attitude when encountering difficulties, and also affect the pursuit of future life.
No one's life is smooth sailing, even if the current income is not cheap, there will be times when setbacks, whether you can successfully survive setbacks is the embodiment of a person's ability.
Women must understand that you are marrying people, not money, and the other party's economic strength can be used as a reference condition, but it is by no means the only criterion for judgment.
For boys, what you should pay attention to when you are dating is not whether the other party is beautiful.
First, you have to look at the values of girls.
If the girl is a gold worshipper, no matter how many gifts you give to each other, she will not be satisfied.
Remember Zhai Xinxin?
She is self-proclaimed beautiful, many times in various names to let her boyfriend buy a house and a car, but also transferred the other party's money to her own name, but regardless of what difficulties the other party encountered, in the end, the man because of the huge debt and ended his life, Zhai Xinxin is still glorious.
A person's values are wrong, it will be like a snake and scorpion beauty, only know how to take, will not give, and then bring you eternal pain, meet such a girl, must stay away.
Second, understand the character of girls.
Kind girls will know how to think differently and will also give due respect to their elders.
And the girl who considers the problem very self, will only care about her own feelings, do not experience the emotions of the other party, such a girl even if she marries home, there will be endless family conflicts, you never know, why she will be wronged?
In her heart, as long as the idea is not satisfied, it is that you do not love her enough, so the ancients have a good saying: "Marry a wife and marry a virtuous person without marrying color, marry someone with a heart without marrying wealth, the heart is better than looks, and understanding is more important than love." ”
At the end of the year, many young people will be pulled by their parents to go on a blind date, if you correct your mentality, there is a great chance of meeting the object of your choice, if you put the wrong values, in addition to being laughed at generously, there will be no other results.
Just like the blind date in the text, even if she changes her identity and hides her job, she still can't change the sour smell on her body, and the slightly rational man will stay away.
Perhaps she needs to hit the wall a few more times to understand the mistakes of her thinking, and if she wants to live happily, only by being self-reliant can she give her a sense of security in life.
What do you think about that? Can you accept a dowry of 500,000?