In the background message of the Happy Growth Alliance, it is not difficult to see the entanglement of many parents and teachers: how to make children learn less hard and have good results? Is it enough for the child to find interest? We have to say that true learning has always been a hard thing, and the whole world is the same!
What we have to do is to cultivate the quality of children's hard work, help them set long-term goals, and work hard for the goal, which is a responsibility of parents and teachers, and it is also a kind of ability that children should cultivate through learning.
Studying is never easy, and it's the same abroad
Looking at the people around us, but all those who have achieved certain achievements are through hard work, there is no pie in the world, only through their own unremitting efforts, hard work is possible to succeed. Learning is the same, who did not work hard all the way to the exam, who was not a lot of homework when he was a child, and sometimes did not do well and was criticized twice by the teacher? After all, children are not adults, their minds are immature, and they do not feel any happiness in the process.
Some parents think that education abroad is happy, in fact, in foreign countries, excellent students have to study very hard to achieve good academic results. For example, primary education in Singapore has a wide range of teaching fields, in addition to some special courses, there are also fields such as art and language, which fully develop students' talents. But isn't there often a ruler hanging behind primary and secondary school classrooms in Singapore? It is said that if the child does not perform well, the teacher has to hit the palm of the hand three times, and it is necessary for two teachers to be present to execute.
Therefore, it is right to let children grow up happily, but the learning process must be hard, and the educational method of edutainment does not mean that children do not need to review outside the classroom and do not need to study hard.
Without a boring and hard learning process, it is impossible to have happy academic performance
Most children can not take learning as a happy thing, the achievement of excellent academic results, the need for children to play games, others when watching movies, calm down to learn. Some children are precocious in mind and have their own lofty ambitions from an early age, so they have their own goals in the learning process and work hard for it; some children do not set ambitious goals, but at least have a short-term goal like entering a good middle school or a good university.
But in either case, they first have a goal, and in the process of achieving the goal, they work hard to pay, and the process is not happy. Happiness is reflected in the results of learning, when children achieve excellent results, hard work is rewarded, the joy of learning will appear. But it is not excluded that a very small number of people with high IQs, who have extremely strong talents themselves, do not need to work too hard to achieve good results, but this is only an isolated case, not within the scope of our discussion.
Let children know that it is a responsibility to study hard
In the process of cultivating their children's learning, parents are more to let their children work hard to cultivate their upward and fighting spirit and sense of responsibility under the condition of hard work. In the school stage, their main task is to learn, and for children at this stage, it is their responsibility to study hard. It is difficult for us to imagine that a person who does not study hard when he is a child, has no goals, does not know how to pay, eats, drinks and has fun all day, and when he grows up, he will become willing to pay, work hard, and fight hard in the process of work.
Therefore, it is not so much to cultivate children in children's education to be able to learn independently and have the spirit of hard work, but rather to cultivate them to establish positive and responsible excellent qualities since childhood, so that they have a sense of responsibility and hard work after they grow up and step into society.
Why should the United States study our test-taking education, because we will suffer
Now many people are criticizing China's test-taking education, and the highest voice is that children are burdened and stifle children's nature. It cannot be denied that some of the knowledge learned in the classroom is not something that all students must master, and even a lot of learning content is of no use to the child's future growth, and the child does not need to spend too much time to learn, which is not the content we want to focus on today. What we care about is that in the current context of test-taking education in China, if you can't change this system, how do you adapt to it?
The so-called survival of the fittest, education is the same, such as the college entrance examination, if it is according to the so-called quality to enroll, how many cold students in China can enter Tsinghua, Peking University and other institutions of higher learning? The college entrance examination system cannot be changed because we cannot find a better system than the college entrance examination for the time being, and everyone knows that it is not the best education system, but we cannot change it soon. In this system, all children can do is to adapt to it, and they must learn to work hard and have the courage to challenge, only in this way can they survive in this system.
The reason why the United States does not want to enroll too many Asian students, especially China, is because Chinese students are too good at exams, and most of the students enrolled in many key universities in the United States every year are Chinese students, so the United States in turn studies why Chinese students are so "excellent". From this point of view, China's test-taking education has cultivated the ability of Chinese students to stand out in the competition of thousands of troops, and the most important reason behind this is that we are willing to work hard, will endure hardships, and work hard at all costs for the exam.
Don't think that if your child is interested, you will like to learn, it is just a natural illusion
Some of our parents are always envious of foreign education methods, in fact, in addition to prejudice, some excellent foreign education methods are worth learning. For example, the primary and secondary school stage in the United States attaches great importance to the accumulation of students' basic knowledge and the cultivation of learning skills, and the education of children is mostly in the form of encouragement, and the direction of education is also towards the development of children's interests and hobbies, teaching according to aptitude, which is the future development direction of our education system. If one day our country also implements such a system, and encourages students to focus on the development of their own interests, then as long as they are interested, can they succeed without hard work?
We believe that interest may be the best teacher, is the motivation for tireless learning, but this is only the initial motivation for learning, many children are interested in many aspects, but not their ability to succeed in the future, the reason is simple, they do not work hard for this interest.
For example, Jobs, some people think that his success is because of his extraordinary talent, but this talent is also to constantly experience pain in the long process, constantly try to fail or accumulate. Nothing can be achieved overnight, and the same excellent people must be successful through continuous efforts and hard work.
For example, if a child likes to draw, but he has not worked hard for it, can he become a painter in the future? Because the child is interested, he studies more something, learns more goals, and even makes a lot of sacrifices for it, which is the reason for his future success. So don't think that children who are interested will like to learn, this is just a natural illusion.
In learning, it is necessary to cultivate children's comprehensive ability, otherwise it is difficult to achieve success when they grow up
Under the adverse influence of exam-oriented education, some students study very hard under high learning pressure, almost without hearing anything out of the window, and become well-known nerds. A really good education should not only allow children to learn knowledge, but also cultivate children's comprehensive ability, team spirit, emotional intelligence and anti-quotient in the learning process. Exams are simply for the sake of exams, this is by no means a scientific way of learning, and children have only become machines that can take exams. But if you vigorously reject school education because of this, you will only go to the other extreme.
The valuable qualities that children cultivate in the learning process will accompany them throughout their lives, which will enable them to work and live better in an increasingly competitive society in the future, which is the ultimate purpose of our education.
Children like to play by nature, parents do not let them know that learning is hard, how can they take the initiative to study hard?
We must let children know that any road to certain achievements is always accompanied by twists and turns, full of hardships, in order to have good academic results, you must work hard, to work hard, this is the responsibility of every child to learn. We must let children experience the joy of hard work and good results, and cultivate a value that can not be gained without paying. To let children know that different stages of life have different missions, in the student stage, learning to master knowledge, for their later life to achieve the ability, is their most important mission at this stage.
For this mission, they must learn to be patient, learn to give up, and learn to give, which is not only the need to learn, but also a kind of cultivation in life. If in the learning stage, they think about playing every day, thinking about a happy life, and do not experience the process of life and working hard for the goal, they will not be able to work hard for the purpose of work and for the goal of life when they grow up, which is precisely the main problem facing children now.
Now the children of the zero zero, life is basically no burden, they grow up in a kind of no pressure environment, they feel more happiness, they have no need to worry about life from a young age, so happiness is a matter of course for them, and hard work is an unnecessary idea. No goals, no stress, and an emphasis on happiness, which is the current state of life for most post-zero children. How to cultivate the quality of children's hard work, help them set long-term goals, and work hard for the goal is a responsibility of parents and teachers, and it is also a kind of ability that children should cultivate through learning.
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