I am an only daughter after 85, my father is an ophthalmologist, gentle and introverted, my mother is a civil servant, when I was in high school, she was already the leader of the unit, and she was also the leader of the family, in our family, almost all the big things and small things are decided by my mother.
After graduating from normal university, I was hired to teach at a regular high school in the city. During college, I secretly talked about a boyfriend, he was in the last class, I joined the work a year earlier, hired to a township junior high school more than twenty miles away from the county seat.
When our relationship was not pointed out to the families of both sides, my mother had begun to ask people to introduce me to the object, and she instilled in me that to find a partner, we must find a tall and handsome, door-to-door, equal education, and promising work. And my boyfriend, whose parents are farmers, is tall and looks ordinary, and his job is still in rural townships.
After my mother's work, the most important thing is to let people introduce me to the object, and each one is her first glance to understand the situation, like the empress dowager's selection of horses, layer by layer, extremely demanding. I was tortured so much that I officially announced to them that I had a boyfriend.
After listening to it, my mother first asked about her looks, then about her work, and finally about her family situation, and she was eager to plan her boyfriend and the three generations of her family's ancestors.
She looked at the photo, learned about her boyfriend's situation, and was furious, and decisively said to me, broken, immediately broken! How can he be worthy of you? If there is no one to look like, there is no family situation, and the work is still in the township junior high school, which is not OK!
I tried to convince my mom: I understand that he likes him, he likes me, and I don't care about his conditions!
Mom listened to more angry, earlier told you that college do not talk about do not talk, after work a lot of excellent boys waiting for you to pick, who let you talk! Dad tried to persuade her from the side, but he got into a fight with Dad again, saying that if he hadn't worked for the transfer, he wouldn't have looked up to Dad!
Dad understood Mom's temper and made eye contact with me, I knew that Dad was advising me not to be hard with her, and to find a reason to hurry back to school.
For the next month, the family was surprisingly calm, and my mother never advised me again, nor did she mention the blind date again.
I always feel that something is wrong, and my boyfriend has rarely called me this month, so I decided to go to his school to see him.
We met at a restaurant outside, and he was full of concerns and indifferent to me, asking him if there was anything wrong at work or at home. He said no.
Under my repeated questioning, he bowed his head and said to me: Let's break up! We may not be suitable, the family trustee introduced me to a girl from the township government, and the parents of our two families have already met. I asked him why? Are you kidding me?
He bowed his head and said nothing, just hurriedly said sorry, forgive me, this may be our fate! Hope you can find someone you like in the future who is good for you!
At this point, I am a thin-skinned man, so should I beg him? His heart was so fierce, I was resisting when I was introduced by my family, but he gladly accepted what he introduced at home, and I held back my heartache and tears in my eyes and rushed out of the door.
I didn't know how to get to the platform, I didn't know how to get in the car, how to go back to school, I felt that my world instantly became gray!
During that time, I thought a lot, in the middle of the night, often can't stop crying, I thought he would become my life's dependence, so I didn't abandon him in the slightest, but he abandoned me first, he may be with his new girlfriend Qingqing me, but here I weep for him. Since he can go on a blind date, why should I be so self-pitying and self-pitying!
After figuring it out, I dressed myself up beautifully the next day, and said to my parents at breakfast: I broke off with my boyfriend, you let people introduce me to the object! When my mother heard me say it, her eyes lit up and she couldn't hide her joy, that's right! This is like My daughter, who will suffer from chaos when she is broken.
Mom kept comparing and sifting through people introduced by her family and friends, and she said that she had to find a tall and handsome person, as if in her heart, to find someone for herself rather than for me, because she never asked me what I liked!
Picking and choosing, finally a person entered my mother's sight, she took the photo and excitedly showed it to my father, this young man is really a good ah! Both high and handsome family conditions are also good, parents are teachers, but unfortunately it is from outside the county, but this is not tight, we can think of a way.
My mother eagerly urged me to meet him. The first time I saw Zhang Kai, he was indeed tall and handsome, and very gentlemanly. Thinking of finding one like this is also good, I want to let the ex-boyfriend see, I found a better than him in all aspects, let him regret it for a lifetime!
After interacting with Zhang Kai, he often drove from other counties to the city, every time he came to my house, he always brought gifts, was attentive to my parents, and even more changed his tricks to please me, came to our school several times, played basketball with male teachers, chatted and joked with female teachers, and people loved me.
We were soon engaged, and at the engagement party, my mother said that she hoped Zhang Kai would be transferred to the city TV station as soon as possible, and she could find someone to help from it. Zhang Kai's parents are both physical education teachers, tall and tall, and they keep thanking my parents.
After the engagement, Zhang Kai and I became closer, coming to the city in three days. On my twenty-fourth birthday, he opened a special session on KTV, we sang together, danced, drank red wine, for a long time did not indulge themselves like this, I will be Zhang Kai in front of me, one will be an ex-boyfriend, in short, I released the pain that has been pressed in my heart for a long time, I sang loudly, drank loudly, cried and laughed, laughed and cried...
The next morning, I found myself lying in a hotel bed with Zhang Kai, only to learn that we had done something we shouldn't have done last night.
After a while, I found out that I was pregnant, and immediately called Zhang Kai to discuss what to do? He said we are so young, don't we want to have children so early, okay? Plus we drank so much wine that day, and it wasn't very good for the fetus, so I came over and took you to the hospital these two days.
I also agreed, I was determined not to let my mother know about the unexpected pregnancy, so we quietly went to the hospital to get a fetus.
My parents went around asking people to find a relationship, and finally Transferred Zhang Kai to the city radio station smoothly, and our marriage was also put on the agenda.
I chose Ruyi Langjun, the most satisfied is the mother-in-law, the son-in-law is not only decent, the work is also decent, my mother has earned enough face in the circle of relatives, friends and colleagues. She generously gave the family another small area house to make a wedding room for us, while Zhang Kai's family was only responsible for decoration and bought a car.
Half a year later, we got married, and at the wedding, Zhang Kai sincerely said to me: Jiameng, I love you! I will love you and protect you with my whole life, and stay with you for a lifetime! At that moment, I was moved to tears, and decided to let go of the person in my heart and love the man in front of me wholeheartedly!
After the wedding, we went on a honeymoon trip to Hainan, he has a cheerful personality and likes to take risks, I have a quiet and timid personality, he always wants to challenge me to challenge some things that I can't accept, often make a small contradiction for this, fortunately, he does not count the sub-sections, turn around and can coax me to be happy.
After taking the wedding leave, after we went to work, everyone congratulated me and said that I was married to the most handsome man on the TV station. College classmates Xiaohui and Zhang Kai are from a county, and she once joked that Zhang Kai is the most handsome tv station in our county, and after marriage, we must watch him!
After marriage, everything is so beautiful, only a little difficult to talk about, always feel what is the shortcomings between us. In the first month of marriage, I thought that everyone was very tired and physically exhausted, but as time went on, I always felt that he was not passionate enough, and there was no glue like paint before.
The work of the TV station is really busy, he often works overtime, and he is always very tired and tired when he comes back.
But after a long time, he found that even when he was on vacation, he had the same problem, and he was always unsatisfactory, and he himself was also very upset.
After more than a year of marriage, we lived carefully, and the secrets between us were not broken and explained, and we were all maintaining the superficial love.
My mother-in-law always consciously or unconsciously reminded us that it was time to have a child, and my parents were also urging us to have a child, but I was so powerless!
How many times, before he came home, I cleaned up the house with romantic warmth and created opportunities, but he always avoided it consciously or unconsciously.
As time went on, it felt like we were getting worse and worse, he was getting worse and worse, almost incapacitated, and I felt like I was stuck in a bottomless abyss.
My marriage was ostensibly happy and happy, and it seemed like a match made in heaven, qinser and ming, but my pain was unknown! This was the best couple my mother had chosen for me, and she never knew what kind of life I lived every day.
Especially after learning that she had found my lover and forced him to leave me, I was full of resentment towards her.
My mother saw that I had been married for two years and had no children, and she was in a hurry, so she called me to the house and asked, why don't you want children? She even blamed me for not cooking well, the whole person was not in good spirits, did not take good care of his handsome son-in-law, but never asked me if I was okay.
In desperation, I told my mother about Zhang Kai's physical condition, my mother said it was okay, he may be under pressure at work, let your father help find a good Chinese medicine, give you all conditioning and conditioning, now medicine is so developed, it will definitely be optimistic.
Mom called Zhang Kai to come home, and Dad made a big table for him. Mom said that you have been married for more than two years, not far from home, and do not come back often, you are understandably self-motivated at work, but you can't always be busy! Have a child early when you are young, and with the help of us and your parents, it will not delay your work.
When Zhang Kai heard his mother say this, he looked at me, and his mouth listened to his mother's promise, but there was a strange light in his eyes.
We went to see a Chinese doctor according to my mother's arrangement, and she said that she would give us medicine every day.
Mom said to do, every day after work to my house to boil the medicine well, told us to drink once in the morning and evening, I forced myself to endure the bitter drink, Zhang Kai refused to drink, he said that he has been like this for several years, see a lot of doctors, do not use. I tried to persuade him that he would not drink, and I would lie to my mother that he had drunk it.
After drinking Chinese medicine for a while, my complexion improved significantly, and people also had a lot of energy, and felt more dependent on him. Whenever I begged him three times or four times, he was always powerless, and then he was angry and demoralized, and his temper became worse and worse.
In the long run, this kind of life almost broke me, he used overloaded work and constant overtime to avoid going home every day, and I was in tears during the long night, always wrapped in loneliness and loneliness.
In order not to let myself have a nervous breakdown, I bought various comforting devices on the Internet to relieve myself, and when he came home and saw it, he actually stomped on me and smashed it, scolding me for not being serious!
None of us mentioned divorce, and the faces of both parents, combined with our own faces in the workplace, made us struggle to maintain this marriage in name only.
At a college reunion, Xiaohui pulled me to a secluded place and asked me why I didn't have a child in recent years, and how was my life with Zhang Kai? I said okay! We're happy. She said happiness is good, I kindly remind you, your family Zhang Kai is very famous in our side! Talked a lot of girlfriends before you got married, handsome guys in front of the door is not much! I have never wanted to say anything about his affair, it seems that he has changed his mind since marrying you, which is good, indicating that you are powerful and have taken in the hearts of thousands of people!
While I was chatting with her, my heart was like overturning the five-flavor bottle, his past I had heard, but everyone talked about boyfriend and girlfriend before marriage, not surprising, can not be investigated, but who knows that he is such a mischievous point, the young body will be like this, he is deserved, but what do I count!
I must not be his funeral for the rest of my life, I am a normal woman, I want to be a mother, I want children! I can't bear it any longer, and I can't take care of so many people's faces.
I prepared a divorce agreement, no children, the house was originally mine, the car was his, the salary AA system, no need to cut the property, everything is so simple, two people only need to sign and go to the civil affairs department for a trip.
In the face of him, I am very calm, let's divorce it! Everyone is still young, there are all kinds of possibilities, give each other a way to live!
Unexpectedly, he tore up the agreement, jumped like thunder, scolded me for not being shameful, and hated him for looking down on him and abandoning him! He scolded me while calling my mom!
I scolded him for being selfish and self-inflicted, and dragging me down if he had a problem! And everyone is an adult, why bother to tie their fate to their parents!
My mother quickly arrived at my house, and when she entered the door indiscriminately, she gave me a slap, divorced from what marriage? What a big deal, can't move to mention divorce, live a family! Your dad and I are not good enough to live a lifetime, ah! Where to find such a good son-in-law, I will leave the words here today, no, quasi, away!
After saying that, I turned around and left our house, leaving a triumphant Zhang Kai and aggrieved me. Oh, my God! Is this still mommy? If it was a mother, how could she treat her daughter like this?
With my mother's strong intervention, my marriage could not be divorced. But they can't stop me from living a dashing life, since then, I have made friends three or five times a day, learned to play cards, sang KTV, massaged massages at massage shops, traveled everywhere, and I want to live my own happy life!
The despicable Zhang Kai saw that I was dashing and comfortable every day, and even spread rumors that I had a good relationship outside, which damaged his reputation and affected his future.
When my mother heard about it, she was even more angry and asked me, I said you don't let me get a divorce, do you know what life I have lived in the past few years? You broke up me and my ex-boyfriend, forced me to give me a different Zhang Kai, for everyone's face, I never said to you that Zhang Kai was unbearable, today, I don't care about anything. I couldn't stand it anymore and told her everything that happened before and after marriage, and my mother was shocked, and she said why didn't you say it earlier!
I said something I couldn't really open my mouth! What kind of a person he is, you and I have been blinded, and now I don't know if he is out there or not.
The mother woke up like a dream, feeling what a stupid thing she had done from beginning to end, in order to find a tall and handsome son-in-law for her daughter, it was really desperate!
His mother was extremely angry and talked to Zhang Kai for a long time, and finally, he silently signed the divorce agreement.
I was finally relieved, I couldn't imagine a few years, I first lost my lover, then entered a failed marriage, and then divorced, all kinds of hurts hurt me all over my body, and all because of my dear mother! This is the result of a strong mother loving her daughter.
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