The British writer Owen said that all human efforts are aimed at happiness.
The pursuit of happiness in life is everyone's desire, but not everyone knows how to achieve it.
In life, there are always people who carry all kinds of burdens, live in pressure and triviality, walk heavily, and it is difficult to go far.
Some people are busy all day in the fast-paced life, do not dare to waste a moment of time, lest they be abandoned by life, and in the end, they will gradually drift away from happiness.
There are also people who spend their time on a lot of unimportant things, and wait until the end to wake up, people in this life, there are many important people, and important things, once missed, they will no longer be.
Life needs to be treated with care, do these three things well, in order to make your life more and more relaxed, happiness is naturally at your fingertips.
The human heart is a vessel, in which joys and sorrows, seven passions and six desires are filled.
The size of the container is limited, so we have to clear zero in time.
Let go, forget, light, in order to walk briskly on the road of life.
Two days ago, I participated in the team's running dinner and met a runner who was given a code name to chase the wind.
Everyone had a good chat during the meal.
Chasing the wind is a frank person who shares his story with everyone.
A few years ago, he invested in and opened a foreign trade company in Hangzhou, and after a period of operation, the business got better and better.
He took out a loan to buy a house and planned to marry his girlfriend who had been in love for a year.
I never thought that an epidemic would make his foreign trade company collapse in an instant.
Scheduled weddings were also forced to be cancelled.
The hardest part is the issue of funding.
The company went bankrupt, the mortgage became a big problem, not only that, but the money owed by starting the company also made him helpless.
The girlfriend's family was adamantly opposed to them being together, and the girlfriend, who was under pressure, broke up with him.
Chasing the wind said that the reason why he fell in love with running was from then on.
His pain was not talked about, and he ran around the West Lake in a circle.
It wasn't until the emotions that had accumulated in his heart were no longer intense that he dragged his tired body back home.
Later, he looked around for a job, full-time and part-time, and sold the house in the mortgage at a low price, and after paying off all the debts that should be repaid, he took a bag alone and changed the city again.
Chasing the wind said that he didn't blame anyone for these things, he just wanted to clear zero in time and start all over again.
The zero mentality is the mentality of emptying everything in one's mind, stripping away everything that you already have, and returning everything to zero.
Zero, loss is the past, gain is the new life.
Sometimes, the reason why we live tired and unhappy is because we are always carrying too many expectations and obsessions.
Clear zero in time to be light in body and mind.
Remember that life is a process of continuous emptying and empowerment again, no matter whether it is good or bad, all the past can be cleared.
With an empty cup mentality and always keeping the clarity of the spiritual space, life can be relaxed.
There was a question on the Internet: Why are people increasingly intolerant of "boredom"?
Someone replied that boredom is idleness, and "idle" means "feeling of loss".
Therefore, people always do things with goals, and they feel full when they are busy all day.
This is indeed the state of life of modern man.
24 hours a day is spent on various things:
Long commutes, busy work, boring socializing, insomnia late nights, even if you don't want to do anything, you are constantly picking up your mobile phone, brushing the circle of friends, chasing dramas and playing games.
In short, going to work is busy making money, and working will not be idle.
In our cognition, once idle, time becomes "garbage time" and life is wasted.
There is nothing wrong with thinking so, but the long-term fast-paced, fragmented life will eventually make us physically and mentally exhausted and tired in the middle of the road.
It's time to slow down and enjoy the "garbage time".
Watch a sunrise, enjoy a sunset, pay attention to the bloom of a flower, the drift of an autumn leaf, and you will find that the little beauty of life is everywhere.
Zhou Guoping wrote in the book "I Like life as it is":
The so-called idleness is that there is no indispensable thing to do, so you can freely dispose of your time and do what you are interested in. This is where the value of idleness lies.
The meaning of life is not how many things have been done, but no matter what you do, you can be physically and mentally happy, calm and peaceful.
Life is very long, we always have some boring "garbage time", they are indispensable "blank" in life.
We need such a blank space, a slow life, in the dense rhythm of life and information stimulation, press the pause button.
Stay away from the disturbances, empty yourself, you can enjoy the flowers and drink tea, you can be bored, you can also talk nonsense by yourself.
Mr. Nan Huaijin once said:
"You want to be empty every day, and when the emptiness comes, you are frightened again. If someone can enjoy loneliness and boredom, he is a big husband. ”
There is no so-called "garbage time" in life, only the present moment that is not treated well and cherished.
Learn to enjoy it in order to be alone with yourself and find a home in life.
The four-quadrant law of time tells us that there are four things to do every day:
Urgent and important, urgent but not important, important but not urgent, unimportant and not urgent.
What people often overlook is "important but not urgent": developing hobbies, reading and learning, exercising, and spending time with their families.
Insisting on these things for a long time is the key to opening up the gap between people and people.
Apple founder Steve Jobs, speaking at Stanford University, said: "If I hadn't learned calligraphy, there wouldn't be today's Apple." ”
When he was young, he was obsessed with calligraphy, so he went to reed University, the best calligraphy, to study.
When Jobs designed the first Apple computer, he discovered that the two fonts of serif and sans-serif learned in calligraphy class, and how to change the spacing between letters to make it look good, could use these artistic concepts in the design of computer fonts.
Thanks to this, Apple products have the first batch of "die-hard fans".
Jobs once said with emotion:
"Life is unforeseeable. But we have to believe that certain things, such as hobbies, persistence, karma, sooner or later, will be connected one day in the future to make your life shine and be different. ”
It is those important but not urgent things that enrich our lives and bring more beautiful possibilities.
Lin Qingxuan wrote in his essay "Not Urgent but Important Things":
People have to sacrifice things that don't seem to be urgent for too many urgent things.
In order to work overtime, sacrifice the sleep you deserve; sacrifice the meal time for the sake of performance; sacrifice the time spent with your family for the sake of socializing.
Some urgent things cannot be avoided, and there is no end to such things in life.
The space of life is limited, and when it is all occupied by urgent matters, it is like a city full of cars but no green space.
We need to learn to stop ourselves and spend our time on important but not urgent things.
Eat with your family, go home with your parents, take your kids to play, read a book or meditate when you're alone.
Do these things in time, so that we will not regret the beginning at some point in the future.
In this life, people say that the long is not long, the short is not short, and the ups and downs are the norm.
Whether it is twists and turns or joys, let the past pass, clear zero in time, empty yourself, in order to empower again and start again.
Outside of busyness, allow yourself to idle, empty yourself, enjoy boredom, listen to the wind and rain, every second of life has meaning.
Spend time and energy on those important but not urgent things, and life will be thicker and fuller.
Aristotle famously said: He is what man is when he does things repeatedly.
May we all do the right thing, become better people, and make life easier and easier.
Author | milt
Image | Visual China