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Recently, some marketing numbers have been instilled into the "poisonous chicken soup" after 00, which is really harmful, I really can't help it, and come out to say two sentences.
The original "chicken soup" was roughly as follows:
Once there is a slight doubt about this "point of view", it will be intimidated and hated by the big wave of "water troops": saying what to control, invade personal privacy, stinginess, perversion, mental distortion...
As a counselor, I can say with certainty that this kind of relationship that relies solely on "love" to generate electricity without any constraints will eventually be a chicken feather.
To maintain a healthy relationship simply by trust, by love, and by the passions emanating from hormones is as naïve as the delusion that you can live without eating or drinking.
As I said before, the attributes of genes in our bodies are not transferred by human will, and without any constraints, genes will "require" our flesh to constantly come into contact with the opposite sex.
Don't be delusional, relying on their own willpower can suppress the "genetic' nature of their own body, many people can't even drink milk tea, brush short videos, watch dramas, play games, etc., and want to suppress their own wolf-like physiological desires and indulgences?
Therefore, to maintain a healthy and stable relationship between the sexes, it is inseparable from the constraints of "rules", whether it is love or marriage, the two must have an emotional contract.
As long as the emotional contract is objective, neutral, fair, voluntary and win-win, it can be executed after the two parties to the relationship have made a decision.
Scratch the point! The emotional contract mainly covers the following four problem points:
1. Privacy space. Can both parties check each other's mobile phones at any time, locate and check the post at any time, video call at any time, or neither?
2, How long is the density and frequency of contact between the two people? Can't break for more than 2 hours, half an hour, or 24 hours?
3, heterosexual relationships. Can both have ambiguous objects of the opposite sex? Or not?
4, is the money in charge of oneself, or is the income summary of two people managed by one person?
(Unmarried couples agree on the above four questions, and then consider entering the marriage; if married, both partners please sort out as soon as possible to reach an emotional contract of agreement)
Only when the state has moral and legal guarantees as the cornerstone can the great rejuvenation of the nation be realized; love and marriage have the constraints of the emotional contract, and only then can a healthy and stable relationship between the sexes be achieved.
The relationship between the sexes that rely on "love" to generate electricity has no future, and the emotions generated by the friction of the relationship will sooner or later overwhelm the reason.
Therefore, the relationship between the sexes with an emotional contract will not only not "lock" each other, but can escort the longevity and stability of love and marriage.
I know, there must be someone here who is going to come out with a lever:
My opinion:
In addition, a relationship with an emotional contract can experience the passion and romance of the two-person world more than nothing. Watching others argue every day about Mars hitting the earth, the emotional contract will make you experience the beauty of the relationship more permanently, and the slightest bit of life
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About the author: Xie Xin, a psychological counselor in the body, mind and soul genre. Focus on emotional counseling, gender relationship repair and original family relationship healing.