One night the other day, a parent who was very anxious on WeChat called out to me: "Teacher, my child is depressed, is frantically smashing things, shouting that he must commit suicide, what to do"?
I thought to myself: I must be an anxious parent, a self-righteous parent, a parent who is strict with the education of his children, especially a reasonable parent. Finally, the child was dumbfounded, and he could only go crazy and even commit suicide.
Spiritual psychologist testimonial: Anxious parents cultivate children with depression;
Parent Xiaoyun can't see the child's emotional outburst. Because the child loves to be anxious, can't find the key, is late for school, is hungry and has not eaten for a while, etc., the child will shout and scream, and various emotions will erupt. Parents are very anxious and crazy. Try your best to suppress your child's emotions. In the end, it did work, and the child no longer dared to have an emotional outburst, but something more terrible happened, and the child fell into depression and jumped off the building to commit suicide.
The suicide note before his death read: "Dear mother, I will always love you!" It's just that I'm so depressed by you that I can't breathe, and I really can't live anymore! I know: you see me emotional, you have a heart attack, and you don't have a heart attack until I die. In the next life, I will still be your daughter, but I can't honor you in this life"!
The child once tried to talk to the parents about their hearts, but was choked back by the parents' big reasoning, and could only be depressed
Spiritual Psychologist Revealed: One of the psychological characteristics of adolescents is emotional instability! Even very unstable! It's normal to encounter emotional outbursts of things! As a parent, you must first accept the child's emotional instability, not suppression; after that, you must carefully and patiently popularize psychological knowledge to the child; cultivate the child's various interests and hobbies, especially, must be fitness (this is very important)! Through fitness, various hobbies and interests, you often release your negative emotions and exuberant energy.
Many parents didn't understand and said to me, "Teacher, we weren't so emotionally unstable when we were young." This is not at all what you say! It is that the child's mood is not normal! It's manic! If you need to go to a psychiatrist to take medication, take drugs that reduce mania, so that you can do it"! Indeed, some parents did not listen to the advice of professional psychologists, took their children to the psychiatric hospital and prescribed a large number of drugs to reduce mania, and stubbornly treated a child with unlimited vitality into depression. After that, the child was honest, often sloppy, slow thinking, depressed, crying, and feeling bored.
Do you understand the pain in your child's heart as a parent?
Parents' ignorance is the culprit that leads to children's depression; parents' anxiety forces children not to have any behavior out of the circle leading to depression; parents have various strict requirements for children without knowing that they are at a loss, and can only be depressed and cry; parents do not understand psychology, only know that the child's emotions are not right, take medicine, and the result is that the child who is not depressed is treated as depression.
Adolescent children are originally flamboyant, eclectic, like to engage in pranks; originally jumping thinking, emotional instability, full of vitality and lack of persistence; originally easy to be emotional, sensitive, very concerned about how others see themselves; when parents learn adolescent psychology, after understanding these psychological characteristics of children, you come back to take a good look at your concept of educating children, ideas are not a huge destruction to the child's body and mind?
Countless times behind the crying and despair of children, do you know as a parent?
I hope that after reading this article, parents must reflect on themselves deeply! Study psychology well! In China, more than nine percent of adolescents have various psychological problems, they have the root cause of various psychological problems, and the culprit behind the scenes is the parents!