Two days ago, a mother asked in the group that her child has always lied recently, and one day she found that her lipstick was broken, so she asked the child who did it? Who knew the child said snow white had broken it.
Other mothers also echoed it, saying that their babies also have such a situation, as if they can't distinguish between fairy tales and reality, and discuss whether to tell their children that fairy tales are fake.
In fact, a few years ago, Strange Story also debated this topic: "Should parents tell children that fairy tales are fake?" Before the debate, more than 70% of the audience in the live poll chose the opposing position, that is, chose not to tell.
A happy childhood requires the fairytale love of parents
Fairy tales have never solved real problems, but they have a unique meaning.
For children in the stage of rapid development of imagination, the "true and false" in their eyes is different from our adult cognition.
If you deliberately tell your child that the fairy tale world is fake, you are destroying the mind of a young child. There is a scene in the Korean drama "Please Answer 1988": Paula asked the little girl Pearl for snacks, and pranked that there was no Santa Claus in this world, it was all given to you by your mother.
Pearl froze when she heard this, and then ran to her mother and cried. The child's mother believes that Paula's behavior is cruelly destroying the growth of a small shoot.
In fact, does it matter whether Santa Claus exists or not? Every year at Christmas, many parents will incarnate Santa Claus to send blessings and gifts to their children, but I believe that as children grow up, they will naturally understand that all gifts are from their parents, and Santa Claus in this world has just changed his identity and understood that behind the gifts is the true love of parents.
Of course, there are also some children who will imitate the actions in fairy tales, thus causing some harm to themselves or others, which requires our parents to take the first level when choosing picture books for their children, choose picture books suitable for children, and tell children which behaviors are right and which are wrong.
Children with childlike hearts have more courage and strength
Fairy tales are fake, but they are not fake, it is everyone's expectation of a better life.
The family of guido, the male protagonist of the classic movie "A Beautiful Life", lived happily when the Nazi Party did not come. But on his son's 5th birthday, the family was sent to a Nazi concentration camp.
In order to make the child less afraid, the father weaves a beautiful lie for his son, telling the son that they are doing a very exciting game, and the person who finally follows the rules of the game and finally wins the game can get a real tank to drive home.
For this dream, the child endured all the hunger, loneliness, and fear. On the last night of the German surrender, the Nazi Party killed a large number of concentration campers, and the father instructed his son to hide in the iron cabinet: "This is the last night of the game, and if you dodge it, you will get 1000 points and win the grand prize." ”
When the dawn came, the child stepped out of the iron cabinet and saw a tank quietly driving, and the child was very happy.
The father used fairy tales to shape a magical armor for his children, covering up the bloodiness of the war and leaving only the expectation of a better life. When the child is a little older, he will surely understand what really happened at that time, but the father gave him the courage to continue living, which is the wealth of his life.
How parents can use fairy tales to help their children grow
As Ran Gaoming said: "Fairy tales are fake, but the sense of fairy tales is true", that is to say, fairy tales are fictional, but the truth behind fairy tales is true. Instead of struggling with the truth and falsity of fairy tales, parents should think about how to use fairy tales to help their children grow up better.
- Nurture children's imagination and creativity
The rich pictures of fairy tales and the imaginative storyline bring children a new audiovisual experience, through fairy tales, let children feel the beauty of fairy tales, and subtly enrich their imagination.
- When telling fairy tales, we should also do safety education
Some parents emphasize the need to reveal the falsehood of fairy tales, that is, some children mix fairy tales and reality together, so when parents tell stories to their children or take their children to watch animations, they must remember to carry out safety education, so that children can distinguish between good and bad behaviors, which behaviors are strictly prohibited.
- Use fairy tales to establish a correct outlook on life and good qualities
In the fairy tale, the character and ability are extremely exaggerated, but he conforms to the child's cognitive development law, guides the child to explore the laws of the world, obtains the cognition of truth, goodness and beauty, and helps the child establish positive, strong and brave values.
Wang Xiaobo said in "A Maverick Pig": "I often go back to my childhood and think about problems with a childlike heart, and many troublesome problems become easy to solve. ”
We hope to protect the child's childlike heart, hope to get this sense of happiness can accompany him throughout his life, will be because of the short golden age of childhood, become his life's precious wealth, to help him.