Someone is asking: "Why do married women now say that doing housework is very tiring?" ”
The questioner was a man who thought he loved cleanliness and felt that he could do all the work in twenty minutes a day, so he didn't understand why married women always liked to complain about the tired housework.
And Gaozan told him that married women complained not about housework, but about men who would only be paralyzed on the couch.
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Men often have a kind of "rotten psychology" in housework.
What does that mean? Even if the house is dirty and messy, he can endure it, and when his wife can't bear to clean up, he will say: "This is what you voluntarily cleaned, I don't think it's dirty at all!" His wife listened to the fire, and he still had to cheer up: "Can't the earth drag once in three days?" Why clean the hair in the bathroom? The sheets don't stink, why do you change it? ”
It was as if his wife was doing housework in a panic, had nothing to do, and was making excuses to scold him.
Married men rack their brains to come up with many ridiculous reasons to avoid doing housework.
For example, the cleaning sensitivity of men and women is different, and men do not like to do it, but they feel that it is not necessary to do it;
For example, women are inefficient in doing housework, washing dishes and washing pots takes half an hour, and tiredness is self-inflicted;
For example, women are the "initiators" of housework: the kitchen is dirty by women, the sewers are blocked by women, the hair is dropped by women, and clothes are bought by women, so it is women's responsibility to keep the home clean.
In short, married women are too tired to do housework and cannot be blamed on their husbands.
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In terms of the amount of work, housework is not tiring. There are washing machines and dryers for washing clothes, dishwashers for washing dishes, and sweeping robots for floors. What is really tiring is that your teammates neither cooperate with you in doing housework nor respect the fruits of your labor.
My husband Lao Liu was once a typical "pig teammate".
The clothes I wear are always piled up in mountains, and every time I have to spend energy to discern which ones need to be washed;
He obviously only needs to use five plates for dinner, but he always has to dirty ten plates;
After taking a shower, I went into the bedroom in wet slippers, and the water dripped everywhere.
It's hard not to get angry! I often scolded him for being neurotic while taking care of the aftermath! But he felt innocent: Isn't it tiring to live?
After I had broken the can and laid down completely, he found himself faced with no clothes to wear and no bowl to use, and it was only then that he admitted that he was sloppy and casually created a lot of unnecessary housework for the family. After that, he honestly sorted out the dirty clothes, stopped messing with the plates, learned to dry the water droplets in the bathroom and came out again, and I never said that I was tired of housework.
As one respondent said, it is only when the husband thinks that housework is not simple, and the wife's housework becomes simple. When the husband thinks that doing housework is simple, housework becomes difficult.
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It is true that hiring a nanny and hiring an aunt can solve the problem of housework from the root cause, but how many people can afford it?
The task of doing housework is always assigned to the wife and husband.
To some extent, housework reflects a person's sense of family responsibility.
"You plough the field to weave cloth, I carry water to you to water the garden", men and women do housework, is the most able to promote family harmony. Some people like to use "I make more money than you" as a reason to refuse to participate in family labor, but unless you have enough money to ask an aunt, you have the obligation to maintain the cleanliness of the family. And if you can afford a babysitter, there is no housework.
If one of the spouses is indeed unable to participate in labor for various reasons, it is also necessary to respect the fruits of the other party's labor. Throw garbage into the trash can, fold your clothes and don't throw them away, get up and tidy up the sheets, etc.
We often say that "only people with the same three views can enter marriage", and the three views are actually reflected in daily chores.
A cruel truth is that the amount of housework in each family is roughly the same, and the key to being tired or not is not how efficient the people who do the housework are, but the attitude of the people who do not do the housework.