Skillfully use three tricks to inherit the filial piety style

I was born into a large family with a large population. Under the guidance of our parents, the three of us brothers and sisters respected the elders and honored the elderly, and were good children who were praised by everyone in the village. After I became a family, I had a daughter, and I used the "three tricks" with my husband to pass on the family style of "filial piety first".

The first trick: teach by example. After the birth of the daughter, the father-in-law and mother-in-law happily closed their mouths and spoiled her all day long. My husband and I are worried that my daughter will be spoiled, and in my daughter's education, I and my father-in-law and mother-in-law "about the three chapters of the law": pampering and moderation, filial piety first. The father-in-law and mother-in-law accepted our parenting methods and actively cooperated with us to teach our daughters.

When doing housework, my husband and I said the most to my in-laws: "Mommy and Daddy, you hurry up and rest, these jobs are left for us to do!" "When the in-laws are resting, my husband will help them beat their backs and rub their shoulders; at the dinner table, my husband and I often put their favorite dishes into their bowls; my mother-in-law's arm is injured, and when she washes her feet at night, I will help her bring a basin of hot water... The young daughter imitated our behavior: when the mother-in-law took medicine, the daughter handed the pill; when the father-in-law's leg hurt and applied the plaster, the daughter shook her small fist to help.

Second trick: often talk about allusions. My daughter has loved listening to stories since she was a child. My hometown of Dongtai City, Jiangsu Province, there is a beautiful legend of "Dong Yong and the Seven Fairies", we told our daughter the story of Dong Yong selling himself to bury his father, she listened to it, wiped her tears and said: "I gave dong Yong the money from the pig pig pig bank, and he had money to bury his father!" When my daughter read the Three Character Classic, we told her the story of filial piety of "Xiang Jiu Ling, Able to Warm The Seat". When we take our daughter on a trip, we don't forget to take her to visit the attractions with the legend of filial piety.

I remember on my 35th birthday, I received my daughter's first birthday gift, which was a "Sleeping Picture" painted by her, which depicted a mother sitting by the cradle and gently shaking a paper fan for her sleeping daughter. The daughter said: "Last year, you took me to the Dunhuang Mogao Caves to play, and in front of the mural of "Parents' Grace and Change", I looked at the mural and listened to the tour guide's explanation: 'A mother pushes a four-wheeled stroller, and in the baby sleeping car, two seat belts stop the body of the car to prevent the baby from accidentally climbing out of the car.' I thought, on my mother's birthday, I will give my mother a painting of my own painting, thank you dear mother! ”

The third trick: experience the socialization of "filial piety". In our big family, it is common to take children to visit relatives on holidays. On the long holidays, I would take my daughter and go to my aunt's house for a few days. Her aunt lived in the countryside, and her mother-in-law was paralyzed in bed due to illness. My aunt has 5 grandchildren in middle and high school, and after school, they will compete to take care of the elderly who are lying paralyzed in bed. The daughter soon blended in, watching over her aunt's mother-in-law with them, cutting fruit for her to eat, and surrounding her to listen to her tell stories. My daughter told me, "The old woman praised her brothers and sisters for being filial piety. Xiaoqi's sister also used the prize money she got from participating in the math competition to buy a Walkman for the old woman. ”

When her daughter grows up, she will go to various relatives' houses during the winter and summer vacations. At a relative's house, the daughter feeds her second aunt and grandmother, who has Parkinson's syndrome; goes to the fields with her cousins and cousins to help her aunt water her crops; learns to cook with her cousins; and goes to the welfare home to help the elderly clean up.

These "three tricks" are the magic weapons for us to educate our children and inherit filial piety. Not long ago, my family won the honorary certificate of "filial piety and respect for the elderly" issued by the relevant departments of Shijiazhuang City, and my daughter immediately announced a "major decision": "In the future, the task of cutting my grandmother's toenails will be contracted by me!" ”

Wang Ali/Wen