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"What is a man's responsibility?" The other day, I saw such a problem on the Internet.
Someone said: "A man's greatest responsibility is to earn money, because money is the foundation of family happiness." ”
Someone said, "A man's responsibility is to make the family better." ”
Some people also said: "The responsibility and responsibility of men is to live their own lives." ”
For responsibility, different men have different definitions, because everyone's growth environment is different, and the three views are also different, so the judgment and boundary of responsibility are different.
So what exactly is a man's responsibility?
In fact, a man's responsibility is nothing more than to do three points
First of all, we must fulfill the obligation of support to our parents.
They all say: "Filial piety comes first."
Whether a man has fulfilled his responsibilities or not, it is clear that he has an attitude towards his parents.
In this life, people only owe their parents, and the kindness of their parents to us, we will never be finished, because our parents will always pay us without asking for returns, and they will always be our strongest backing.
It is often said: "When I have money, I must honor my parents well." ”
These people are always waiting for themselves to have money, but they don't know that their parents can't afford to wait, and every day they wait, their parents' days are one less day.
The tragedy of the son wanting to be nurtured and not waiting for the family has always been staged.
Filial piety to parents must be one of the greatest responsibilities of men, because this can see the meaning of our lives.
As the saying goes: "Parents are here, life still has a place to come, parents go, life is only the way home." ”
In the past, I often heard colleagues lament that when their parents were there, they did not honor their parents well, did not accompany their parents more, and only thought that their parents were annoying at that time, but when their parents left, they understood that it was their parents' love for themselves, and it was also their own debt to their parents, so they always regretted it.
Colleagues often remind us: "The attitude towards parents is better, and there is more time to accompany parents, because one day passes, and the parents' days are one less day." ”
In reality, many men's filial piety to their parents is actually in the most basic stage, they always think that letting their parents have no worries about food and clothing, giving them material satisfaction, even if they have fulfilled their filial piety.
But in fact, this is far from enough for parents.
As Professor Yu Dan said:
"When a child has money, it is easy to buy a car and a house for his parents, but the most difficult thing to do is not to give his parents a look."
Truly loving and caring for parents should be kind to them, should give them more spiritual satisfaction, accompany them more, and let them not leave alone.
As the saying goes: "The upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked." Parents are always the child's first teacher, parents' attitude towards parents, naturally will be learned by children, so if you want the family to get better and better, the inheritance can not be bad, parents must set a good example for their children.
Second, we must fulfill our obligations to educate and accompany ourselves.
In reality, many men believe that as long as they fulfill their parenting obligations to their children and send their children to school, then they have fulfilled their father's responsibilities.
But in fact, for a man, the obligation to educate and accompany the child is truly fulfilled.
For children, companionship is indispensable, and fatherly love cannot be missing, which will affect the healthy growth of children's minds.
As the saying goes: "It is the fault of the Father not to raise or not to teach." ”
Fathers' education of their children is also a top priority.
Because fathers can teach their children how to be a man, how to learn to take responsibility for themselves, these are things that mothers cannot teach by example.
Parents are a child's first teacher, especially the more powerful father role, which affects the child's life.
In the previous family, the role of the father was usually serious and harsh, the child was disobedient, and the father was often the one who did it, always making the child afraid.
In the past, the viewpoint advocated by people was: "Children cannot become talented if they do not fight, do not scold and obey." ”
But in fact, such a method is not only not good, but also makes the child more rebellious.
For children, fathers should encourage more and teach by example, rather than using scolding to oppress children.
As the children's scholar Adele Farber puts it, "Never underestimate the impact of your words on your child's life." ”
Children should be encouraged, because every child is eager to be recognized and affirmed by their parents, even in adulthood.
For parents, if they want their children to become what kind of person, then encourage him to become that kind of person, because the power of encouragement is enough to change people's lives.
Parental praise is always the best gift for children.
If the child is often degraded and inferior and introverted, it is usually the father who has not fulfilled his responsibilities.
Finally, be extremely pampered for your partner.
Many men believe that as long as they send money home to their wives on time every month, they have fulfilled their obligations, but in fact, men's responsibilities are far less.
For a man, the biggest responsibility of marrying his wife into the door is to make his wife live happier, not to make her wife more tired.
In reality, many men do not respect their wives' attitudes at all, and they believe that taking care of the family is their wife's obligation, so after returning home from work, not only do not help their wives to share, but also find trouble everywhere to vent their negative emotions when they go to work.
Yang Lan once asked when interviewing Zhou Guoping:
"Why do we all leave good tempers to outsiders, but leave bad tempers to the people we love the most?"
Zhou Guoping, who has always been gentle, also said: "I often make this mistake. ”
Some people say that throwing a tantrum at the person you love the most is a sign of caring.
But in fact, this is not love, this is hurt, our temper will hurt the person who loves us, and then consume the feelings of both parties again and again.
For a man, the biggest responsibility for his partner is not to take the money home, but to make the wife not regret his marriage and let the wife live better.
Men should understand that it is not easy for their wives, she will marry you in the first place, is to gamble everything on their own, if you are not good to her, then no one is good to her.
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